Still hate my new home after 16 months

[Mumof52]

I moved 16 months ago and the day I moved I regretted it! I hate the street hate the larger mortgage hate the fact lots still needs doing. I’m not sure I’ll ever settle here anyone else felt like this?

Not yet but on the market. We think because of the market & how it is now we might lose money but could then knock it off ongoing purchase. Hopefully anyway.

I wish I could ignore it but it’s awful probably not helped by the fact I work from home! I was going to knock and offer to clean it but my husband says I can’t 🤣

Thank you! Next door built an extension when I moved in I realised it made a huge difference! The house needed more work that I though everything was tired even the integrated fridge freezer was left with every single drawer broken! The street is much scruffier than I had noticed just really don’t like the road more than anything else! I know that sounds rubbish but I think that’s the main reason no matter what I do to the house that won’t change!

Ps I know I should be grateful I have my own house ect I definitely won’t make the same mistakes when I finally leave though. I guess you live and learn albeit a very costly mistake!

Move OP it's not worth it. We moved a year ago to a house we love, I fall in love with it a bit more each day and am so glad we're here, go find that 💐

You’re probably not going to make money if you sell in the current market. Prices are falling. And I’m not sure skimming ceilings will realistically add any value.

I’m mentioning this because you don’t want to become those sellers who turn down decent offers as they’re convinced they can get more and end up on the market for months with multiple reductions. We sold at a slight loss but also got money off our new house so it’s all relative.

I’d also stop telling yourself you would have done differently if you’d viewed it a third time. You made the best decision you could with the information available and you just cannot possibly know how you would have felt or behaved had you had another viewing. We viewed our mistake house before exchange and it changed nothing - only realised the mistake after it was too late.

OP, I'd move. But if your DH won't, or for some reason you can't, I'd do a few things to turn your feelings around.

Solve issues as much as you can - maybe plant bamboo or a trellis of limbing plants to screen your immediate view of the neighbour's car. And put translucent curtains or louvre blinds upstairs so the view is screened.

Think of a couple of things you would absolutely love in your ideal home and introduce them in this home - whether it's a breakfast nook or cosy reading corner or stained glass doors or a pantry and utility room, find ways to make these happen in this house.

Create focal points - especially outside the front of the house and the minute you walk through the door, so you come back to an attractive, inviting space.

We're on the market now after three years and wish we'd sold up sooner as we stand to lose out financially. Prices are dropping and we are having a house built so no option to negotiate down price. It's in a very sought after village where properties rarely come up so we jumped on it before it came to market as we had sold our previous home and in theory it was perfect for us. It's on a soulless quiet little cul de sac but two busy roads cut through the village so it's the worst of all worlds, dead but not really the rural idyll. People seem to stay here for years so I appreciate it's an us problem and I'm sure someone else will be very happy here but I can't get out quickly enough!

Agree with @Meadowwild try to screen out the eyesores OP- only put bamboo in pots though as there was a thing on tv about how running bamboo can ruin properties pushing up even through the foundations walls etc!
But it sounds like it might be a lost cause on the road overall - your bits of sprucing might well probably help you feel more at home while you're there and help it sell but you could start planning your targets areas/roads/even houses now so you're absolutely ready to pounce when the right thing comes on the market.
I say this - I've been doing this for years just without the house on the market as we're sorting kids schools etc so target location and available budget have been all over the place. But if/when the time comes and we get on the market then I know the area really well.
Good luck with your next move and your pre-sale renovations. I guess anything could happen while you're planning too- you never know you might get new tidy neighbours who transform your road!

I knew immediately that the house we bought in March wasn't right for us. It's extremely noisy..lots of lorries thundering along the road from 5am, motorbikes, quad bikes, dogs barking all day and night..I miss my old house so much..Last week we marketed our house, no interest yet but its a slow market so will need to be patient but that's hard when you hate where you live.

When I moved into my house a year ago I hated it and was overwhelmed by the work it needed (lots of stuff missed by the survey) and was even thinking about selling it 3 months in.

However now I love my little house. It has been a hard slog with a lot of DIY and sleepless night on how to pat for the repairs to make it look nicer but it was worth it.

I bought what I could afford and it was always going to be a compromise.

But I guess the difference is that I love the small seaside town I live in and my street is nice and quiet.

If you really don't like the location it is a bit harder because you can always improve the house but there is little you can do about improve the whole area.

Maybe focus about making it look as nice as you can because either way it will make it easier to sell and might also make you living there more pleasant in the meantime.

Moving is stressful and unless you have a big budget, most houses come with compromises.

I'd try and move OP

I lived in a house for 8 years that I didn't love, the house was ok location was crappy. We had to stay as it was a project house, close to schools etc. the feeling from day one for me was there for my DH he agreed with me after about 2-3 years then we made our plans to move.

The moment we could we sold and what's really sad is I have 8 years of my life with memories all overshadowed by that house. In a way that nowhere else we lived has ever done.

It's like I've tried to forget it, and miss a big chunk of my DS growing up because I'm blocking it out.

It really does impact on you so given what you've said it's out of your control, then I'd be listing.

Yes it’s not a great time is it but agree it’s relevant to next purchase! Just a shame stamp duty is so much! Good luck 🤞

@Allie47 love this! That’s what I want next time!

Yes! In the village literally up the road where my parents live. I’ll keep looking and persuading 🤣
Thank you I just find it so antisocial it bugs the hell outta me! If they were renting I would be complaining to the landlord 🤣
I have good weeks and bad weeks but it’s definitely a bad week as it’s really irritating me!

This is so true. Life is simply too short to be miserable. I’m so glad you found your happy home 🏠

I resonate with a lot of this discussion.

I had to move in a hurry when the market was shite. In retrospect, I should have rented.....

The house felt dark and dingy on the day I moved in and my heart absolutely sank into my boots. The survey missed issues, I discovered the sellers were less than candid during conveyancing etc etc. I can see it's a familiar story!

I'm staying put for a few years until I can at least carry out a few improvements, clear my moving costs and hopefully see a bit of profit.

You never know, I might change my mind in that time but I still rummage through Rightmove on the daily.

With my house before this one the day I moved in it felt off. But I was so wrung out with everything I thought it was that.

That house was the worst thing I ever did and I was all set up to sell it just before the first lockdown (so I'd been there 7 months). I sold it soon after. I lost money but selling it was the best decision.

If you are really unhappy then move if you can.

Oh god this sounds so familiar! I felt exactly the same on moving day the minute I walked in the door my heart sank!
I think sadly we will have to stay a little longer to try and recuperate the moving costs as well!
Next time I will get it right though sometimes you learn the hard way!
Good luck

I felt exactly the same! Tbh I had a wobble right before exchange and should have pulled out then!
I will move for sure just need t work on the husband who says we should stay until rates drop and the market picks up. 😥

We've been here two years and I feel the same. House is fine but the area makes me feel like I've been buried alive. Should have listened when I heard that location is more important than house. We are going to move but have to wait for mortgage rates to drop - plus nothing around us is selling, which sends me into a panic when I let it. I genuinely worry I will be stuck here forever. I feel so stupid too for making such a mistake.

And yes to heart sinking on moving day. I really hoped it was just the normal feeling on entering a house we hadn't made our own yet, but it still doesn't feel like home.

Think of a couple of things you would absolutely love in your ideal home and introduce them in this home - whether it's a breakfast nook or cosy reading corner or stained glass doors or a pantry and utility room, find ways to make these happen in this house.

This is good advice and it’s what I am trying to do where we are.

I honestly think that if nothing is selling in an area, it's better to admit you will lose some money, and be the best house at the best price, so yours shifts first, just so you can get out.

I'm hoping the market will pick up in the next couple of years which is when we are planning to sell, but you're right, it might be that we have to accept losing money.