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How to ask neighbour to stop whistling?

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lollyloo88 · 12/12/2022 12:10

DN is late 70's - he whistles all day long and very loudly too. He is very active and walks up and down the side of the house multiple times a day whistling tunes.

We are due baby 2 soon and I just know come the summer months when they're sleeping regularly in the day time still, the whistling will drive me crazy when I'm trying to get her off to sleep. Her room is next to the walkway..
Not only that but it's frigging annoying for us anyway, I feel like we would be considerate enough not to make noise that neighbours can hear constantly, even if it is a more 'pleasant' noise (unfortunately it's not pleasant to me anymore).

How can I drop it into convo without sounding harsh? Also he clearly has a habit of doing it and it'll be hard for him to stop, but I feel it needs to stop because it's so annoying!

OP posts:

Goodgrief82 · 13/12/2022 09:57

MissPiggysPinkDress · 13/12/2022 09:32

I used to have a whistler on my street, and it was awful. He would be out there at 5:30-6am bloody well doing it! Luckily he split with his and they both moved away

Check out OP’s history. SO much “drives her up the wall”!

donquixotedelamancha · 13/12/2022 11:00

Check out OP’s history. SO much “drives her up the wall”!

Christ, you aren't wrong- breastfeeding, remainers, her in-laws, her friends, old people.....

The only thing she seems to really like is Matt Hancock.

OP if you are on a mission to troll MN then I salute your commitment and subtlety. If your posts are real I think you need to examine your life

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 13/12/2022 12:19

The only thing she seems to really like is Matt Hancock.

Oh YABU OP, I was hoping we could be friends (though I'd probably annoy you too )

When the kids are old enough, buy them a kazoo each and teach them to join in with him.

foggywindows · 13/12/2022 12:23

I'm actually with you OP...random whistling fills me with inexplicable rage. It's like nails on a chalkboard to me! However, I really can't control other people's random noises so I've had to teach myself to tune it out. If his noises do end up disturbing your baby, then I think you can have a gentle chat and ask him to keep it down during nap time/bed time but if I were you, I wouldn't make it an issue with him unless it actually is one.

foggywindows · 13/12/2022 12:26

JesusInTheCabbageVan · 12/12/2022 12:22

The sound of anyone whistling sends me into a blind rage (have had to walk out of shops in the past) so I can empathise. Unfortunately I don't think you can reasonably ask him to stop though - I think soundproofing is your only option.

I'm in the process of moving - now stressing that I'll end up next to a whistler 😱 Is it that bloody awful show-off warbling that some men seem to love?

@JesusInTheCabbageVan I'm 100% the same! Even worse when it's not even a tune but just this random collection of noisy notes. I too have stropped (like a teenager!!!) out of a shop because some chap seemed to be following me around the aisles whistling through his teeth. Like just SHUT UP! 😂😂

Pearls1234 · 13/12/2022 12:30

No, leave him alone! And even looking for other ways it could get back to him is just spiteful.

This is a poor old man who isn’t hurting anyone and just wants to go about his day with a bit of joy. Why take that from him?

His whistling won’t disturb your baby any more than your baby’s crying will disturb him.

pictish · 13/12/2022 12:37

"I'm going to mention it to him, I'll say were very excited about baby 2 and everything a baby brings but worried DNs whistling is going to keep her awake in the day.. not much they can say to that!"

There's quite a lot they could say to that, including fuck off. Given baby will be crying and tot will be shrieking and toddler will be tantruming and kid will be shouting, it's a live and let live situation. Don't be so shortsighted that you imagine baby's nap time trumps all.

Topseyt123 · 13/12/2022 12:42

I can see how it could be just mildly irritating, but VERY mildly. So mildly that I wouldn't do anything about it because I don't think it worth the bad feeling that it could cause.

Your baby will quickly get used to it and sleep through it.

Remember that they are likely to hear your baby crying at all hours of the day and night, and babies can make racket out of all proportion to their size. Especially newborns I think.

Live and let live.

Topseyt123 · 13/12/2022 12:49

I'm going to mention it to him, I'll say were very excited about baby 2 and everything a baby brings but worried DNs whistling is going to keep her awake in the day.. not much they can say to that!

There's plenty that could be said to that. You might even be told to bugger off and stop being a control freak. You can't control all aspects and sounds in your baby's environment.

Let him whistle. I find whistling a happy sound, although I can't whistle for toffee myself. I wish I could. My Dad could. Our school caretaker could too as he was working and we certainly didn't object whenever we heard him nearby.

LindaEllen · 13/12/2022 12:53

To be fair, the worst thing you can do is get your baby used to only being able to sleep when it's silent around him/her.

courgettigreensadwater · 13/12/2022 12:55

lollyloo88 · 12/12/2022 20:10

I assumed the AIBU thread invited the trolls but clear Property does too, now I know😂

Thanks PP but I'm thick skinned on here, you treat the rude ones like turds on the pavement, keep walking and don't look back 😂

I'm going to mention it to him, I'll say were very excited about baby 2 and everything a baby brings but worried DNs whistling is going to keep her awake in the day.. not much they can say to that!

I think you run the risk of him ramping it up. Maybe he'll get a tambourine or something to accompany himself....

carefulcalculator · 13/12/2022 13:01

No way whistling would keep a baby awake, babies sleep in the most noisy, hectic cities in the world. Mine slept at parties, in stations, restaurants.

Yes whistling is annoying, no you can't really ask him to stop.

bibbiddybobbidyboo · 13/12/2022 13:09

As someone who has misophonia this would drive me absolutely fucking nuts. Try and out whistle him.

picklemewalnuts · 13/12/2022 13:12

Hum and sing as you go about your day. There's a threefold benefit- it will cheer you up, mask his noise and handily demonstrate how thin the walls are.

I used to hear elaborate, loud whistling and commented to the neighbour. It turned out to be his parrot.

MrsMyfanwy · 13/12/2022 16:39

I think you're best seeing how it pans out before you say anything

MajorCarolDanvers · 13/12/2022 16:42

Babies need to get used to noise - especially in the daytime. The more used to noise they are the better they sleep. Trying to create complete silence during the day is not a good move.

And you can't ask your neighbour to stop whistling without coming across as a dick.

CovertImage · 13/12/2022 16:53

thewayround · 13/12/2022 07:48

check out the OP’s history.

dozens of threads complaining about various people in her life. From a friend who always wants to see her to another thread about her DH’s annoying bowel movements!! 😂

Ha ha!

Life must be so hard!

gogohmm · 13/12/2022 16:57

Be glad you don't live next to us op - dd is an opera singing student!

(Full disclosure, I've been next door when she was singing to check how loud and it's not, more like white noise, but we are careful if windows are open.) Next door's baby actually likes her singing anyway, back when the windows could be open she would smile and gurgle to it apparently

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