How to ask neighbour to stop whistling?

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DN is late 70's - he whistles all day long and very loudly too. He is very active and walks up and down the side of the house multiple times a day whistling tunes.

We are due baby 2 soon and I just know come the summer months when they're sleeping regularly in the day time still, the whistling will drive me crazy when I'm trying to get her off to sleep. Her room is next to the walkway..
Not only that but it's frigging annoying for us anyway, I feel like we would be considerate enough not to make noise that neighbours can hear constantly, even if it is a more 'pleasant' noise (unfortunately it's not pleasant to me anymore).

How can I drop it into convo without sounding harsh? Also he clearly has a habit of doing it and it'll be hard for him to stop, but I feel it needs to stop because it's so annoying!

Poor Sod. Bet he's really looking forward to crying screaming baby coming next door.
Lost for words beyond this.

There was this older bloke in asda whistling up and down every aisle. With a little daaa de daaaa at the end. It seemed like every time i was there so was he. I now shop at Tesco 😂

I feel your pain op! Whistling goes right through me, and it’s always bloody men inflicting it in people. I guess it’s tricky here as you’ve got a baby on the way who will likely be noisy. I would start playing white noise / music as he whistles, but I’m petty (and loathe whistling).

Very surprised by the replies on here. Of course you can ask him to stop whistling! 😂 The world isn't going to fall apart if you have a slight confrontation with someone.

Just tell him it's disturbing you and please could he try to be quieter.

If he's reasonable he'll try to stop, if he's not he won't but at least you've tried.

Some people are so cripplingly conflict averse, I wonder how they manage their day to day lives. This is a tiny thing!

I live next door but one to a whistler and in the summer it drives me to distraction when he is outside in his garden. What is it with men and their bloody whistling? I've not often heard women making such a bloody racket. I do sympathise OP but I don't really see what you can do. A few times I've shouted out 'for God's sake!' when he's really been on a roll, but mostly I just go indoors again and slam my back door.

No... just say 'the whistling is annoying, please can you keep it down'.

Honestly, why are you pussy footing around? It's OK to be annoyed by this and he probably doesn't even know you are. Don't be so passive - just say how you feel!

To believe that you never do anything, at all, ever, as you go about your humaning that inconveniences or annoys another person is really odd.

Of course you do. The baby will get used to the whistling, and the bin men, and the police helicopter, and the DPD driver when he bangs on the door and the smoke alarm when you burn the toast, and the ice cream van out the front unless you plan to address and mitigate all the life noises before they are born, get your head round it.

I hope he complains about your baby crying.

Good job you weren't around in the 50s. Everyone whistled, postmen milkmen, paperboys,coalmen etc.

Whistling fucks me off monumentally so I get it, OP. I wouldn't ask him though. He's enjoying himself.

These two things often go together. It's like manspreading and talking more in meetings and boys using all the space in school for football. Taking up space in the world. So all your attention is taken up by them.

I wouldn't talk to his wife about it. I doubt he would listen to her.

I wonder about all the people saying YABU. Do people really not think it's rude to constantly force other people to listen to you? Whether that's whistling or music or whatever.

Not everyone. Right? About half the population.

Because women weren't allowed. It was coarse. Just men, inflicting it on everyone.

Is alpha male to whistle? I've really heard it all now 😂

Far less than half - not every male was a milkman etc. I mean, your suggestion that the country could hardly hear themselves think for the cacophony that was sent up by all the whistling men of the UK from dawn till dusk is funny but not actually accurate.

Whistling in public is awful. Only ever a man. Noise pollution.

I hate whistling. I loathe and detest whistler's. I would have to hire a hitman. Whistling is despicable tuneless noise pollution.

This! I know who I'd sooner have next door. Cheerful whistler or noisy screaming kids.

Sorry but this is quite hypocritical when you will have a new born soon. Baby needs to get used to noise around them. My dad used to play the trombone whilst I was asleep in the room. I am a very heavy sleeper now!

Poor you OP, you have attracted a lot of hostility. I completely sympathise, hopefully your neighbour will be understanding if you ask him.

I assumed the AIBU thread invited the trolls but clear Property does too, now I know😂

Thanks PP but I'm thick skinned on here, you treat the rude ones like turds on the pavement, keep walking and don't look back 😂

I'm going to mention it to him, I'll say were very excited about baby 2 and everything a baby brings but worried DNs whistling is going to keep her awake in the day.. not much they can say to that!

this is quite hypocritical when you will have a new born soon

This has been repeated a few times. It makes no sense. Babies are the human race. Without them we die out. They all have to cry, it's what they do.

Whistlers aren't. And don't have to.

yes ... its got to be a wind up 🤭

@MrsTerryPratchett

"I wonder about all the people saying YABU. Do people really not think it's rude to constantly force other people to listen to you? Whether that's whistling or music or whatever."

Well, you've been here a long time forcing your misandrist comments on other posters.

OK.

<backs away slowly>

Oh please don't do this. It's a complete non issue! He will think you're bonkers!! He's not breaking any rules or doing harm. You need to move on from this. Or alternatively, move house!