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Neighbours's Pole

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MintsPi · 29/12/2019 14:06

Not a euphemism!

We have had various issues over the past year with our neighbours. This was resolved briefly when I approached the wife and we agreed to put these issues behind us. This led to a few months of ignoring each other but no problems which was fine for us. However this has started up again recently.

We have adjacent parking spaces and my neighbour started storing a large animal run on his space right up against the line separating the spaces. This made it harder for me to navigate into my space so we started moving the run away from the line however they kept moving it back. I even hit the run at one point as it's so awkward.

Now the run has been replaced by a pole right on the edge of the line on their side. I can get in and out but it's awkward and as I hit the run fear I will hit the pole.

My partner tried kicking the pole to dislodge it and it came loose but sadly we couldn't remove it and it has now been put back in.

Do we have the right to get it removed? I don't want my car being damaged or my neighbour suing for damage to the pole (he's that type). I can't approach him directly as he harasses us. Only today we saw him up in his house and he was watching us go out and I think filming us. I stuck my middle finger up as we left in our car Grin hopefully he got that one on his phone!

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BlackboardMonitorVimes · 29/12/2019 14:12

If the pole is on their land then yabu. If your drive isn't big enough you can't use someone else's drive to give you the space you need.

TheReluctantCountess · 29/12/2019 14:16

Is the pole completely on his land? If so, I don’t think there’s anything you can do about it. Can you sneakily take a picture to show us?

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MintsPi · 29/12/2019 14:18

Aaargh sorry to drip feed but forgot to say that the reason it's awkward is because my neighbour puts his car in front of my space and not on his own space! It's hard to explain but my space faces forward and he puts his car sideways on about a car and a half widths in front. So the reason it's difficult is because of him!

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MintsPi · 29/12/2019 14:19

Yes the pole is on his land. It just touches the adjoining line between the spaces.

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viques · 29/12/2019 14:20

I'm not surprised they have taken to filming you if you are such a poor driver that you hit things on their property, and your partner is deliberately kicking their stuff to dislodge it from it's place on their property.

I too hope they caught you on film putting up your middle finger, I expect it will feature quite heavily as evidence of your behaviour when they complain about you and your partner to the local police.

viques · 29/12/2019 14:22

Its not it's.

sameasiteverwasantiques · 29/12/2019 14:22

We need a diagram OP.

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 29/12/2019 14:22

Get the crayons out, OP. You should know the Mumsnet rules, we need a plan. Grin

redwoodmazza · 29/12/2019 14:23

Perhaps you can put a pole to stop him using 'your' space?
We need a photo or a plan!

yips · 29/12/2019 14:24

Nothing to be done about the pole if it's on his land, but is he parking illegally over your drive?

nextdecade · 29/12/2019 14:25

Bear in mind flipping the bird is classed as disorderly conduct and prosecutable under the Crime and Disorder Act 1998. Not something I’d want to be filmed doing.

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MintsPi · 29/12/2019 14:26

Will do a picture!

I can't stop him using the space in front as everyone owns the car park. It's not an official space but other people use unofficial spaces too. If we have visitors they park in between my space and where his car is for example. I could park there stopping him but it will just cause more issues.

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thefattestchip · 29/12/2019 14:33

If it's his space then there's nothing you can do.
What exactly has he done that is worse than hitting his animal run with your car, kicking his property with the intention of breaking it and giving him the middle finger?

custardbear · 29/12/2019 14:37

You can't dislodge something that's on his land - why on earth can't you park? Even in supermarket car parks there are posts, lights etc that infiltrate parking spaces, I'm sure you can manage

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MintsPi · 29/12/2019 14:38

Picture of the pole

i.imgur.com/EcThihH.jpg

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Biancadelrioisback · 29/12/2019 14:39

Diagram for clarity

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 29/12/2019 14:39

How tall is the pole? You could take up pole dancing, or better still get your DH to take up pole dancing, then he could practice on it in his mankini. They will either remove it or he’ll make a fortune. 😁

T0tallyFuckedUpFamily · 29/12/2019 14:41

Tbf, OP, it might be a pain to you, but they’re probably fed up with you moving the run and want to protect their animals.

TyrionsNextWife · 29/12/2019 14:42

It sounds like the neighbours are sick of you crossing onto their land to get into your parking space. What’s on their property is up to them and you shouldn’t be moving anything that’s not over your side of the boundary.

needanewnamechange · 29/12/2019 14:42

The pole is on his car park space so it's not on your space . I'm not sure what the issue is . As for filming you it's probably because he knows your shit at parking and will damage the pole animal run.

needanewnamechange · 29/12/2019 14:43

I also can't believe your partner kicking the pole that's very cf .

anothernamereally · 29/12/2019 14:45

Yes sorry op but that pole is definitely well within their boundary- can you not straighten up before you park on the drive so you don't drive across it? Sounds like they're fed up of you driving on their land

PristineCondition · 29/12/2019 14:46

You know when you watch nightmare neighbour and you wonder if the nightmare neighbour can really believe they are not the problem....yeah....that's you
You move and damage there stuff,can't park within a space and swear at them.it's youConfused

Aloe6 · 29/12/2019 14:46

That looks like it’s in a communal car parking area not on his private property. Do you rent or own? Is there a management company for the car park?

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MintsPi · 29/12/2019 14:46

sorry for crappy diagram

imgur.com/C2DbMtf

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