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Neighbours's Pole

73 replies

MintsPi · 29/12/2019 14:06

Not a euphemism!

We have had various issues over the past year with our neighbours. This was resolved briefly when I approached the wife and we agreed to put these issues behind us. This led to a few months of ignoring each other but no problems which was fine for us. However this has started up again recently.

We have adjacent parking spaces and my neighbour started storing a large animal run on his space right up against the line separating the spaces. This made it harder for me to navigate into my space so we started moving the run away from the line however they kept moving it back. I even hit the run at one point as it's so awkward.

Now the run has been replaced by a pole right on the edge of the line on their side. I can get in and out but it's awkward and as I hit the run fear I will hit the pole.

My partner tried kicking the pole to dislodge it and it came loose but sadly we couldn't remove it and it has now been put back in.

Do we have the right to get it removed? I don't want my car being damaged or my neighbour suing for damage to the pole (he's that type). I can't approach him directly as he harasses us. Only today we saw him up in his house and he was watching us go out and I think filming us. I stuck my middle finger up as we left in our car Grin hopefully he got that one on his phone!

OP posts:
AJPTaylor · 29/12/2019 15:43

Nobody who wasn't being an arse would put that pole there, you'd put it in the middle of the space. Combined with parking over his drive to make the angle difficult he is being nasty. But they want a reaction from you.

Original poster
MintsPi · 29/12/2019 15:43

To be clear I can get into and out of the space but I have to do it carefully. I should be able to just swing in and out.

OP posts:
Dollymixture22 · 29/12/2019 15:48

Would it also not be tricky though if a car was parked in the spot? The Parking bollard is inside the line

Veterinari · 29/12/2019 15:50

If there’s space for your mum to park between your car and the neighbours then there’s plenty of space for you to manoeuvre. I assume you are reversing into the space? You should easily be able to reverse in and pull out.

Your post seems to be AIBU to vandalise my neighbour’s Private property because i’m A shit driver? The answer is yes you are.
Bonkers that some people are SO self absorbed!

Original poster
MintsPi · 29/12/2019 15:51

I go straight in and reverse out.

OP posts:
Veterinari · 29/12/2019 15:54

That’s probably the reason you’re struggling to get the right angle. You need a wider angle of swing to pull in forwards. Practice your reverse parking rather than destroy your neighbours property because you’re inept

jollygoose · 29/12/2019 16:04

I think you are being a bit hard on the op the neighbours pole makes the swing into her drive very tight I would start parking where he leaves his car f.... him

wowfudge · 29/12/2019 16:31

The issue isn't the pole, it's that the neighbour is storing the animal run in their designated parking space and parking their car in what isn't a space. They're getting away with it as no one is enforcing parking only in marked bays. Learn to reverse into the space. If you hadn't reacted by damaging the neighbour's property and your mother didn't also use a non delineated space I'd say speak to the landlord about his parking making your access to your space awkward.

Anotherusefulname · 29/12/2019 16:42

Keeping a rabbit/whatever run in a car park is very odd. And if I/they were renting I would probably get on to the landlord about that. I imagine they have put the pole there to stop you damaging the bizarrely stored run.
But from the pictures and diagram I don't see how it effects your parking. Reverse in drive out, which you should always do anyway because you get better visibility driving out.

RandomMess · 29/12/2019 17:05

Don't you reverse into your spot? Much easier...

Alyic · 29/12/2019 18:21

I can see you'd have a problem getting into your parking space, with him parked as he does,not far away. Think it's deliberate to wind you up.

IAmUniquelyMe · 29/12/2019 19:09

Start parking in the spot that he likes to use.

Veterinari · 29/12/2019 20:55

Keeping a rabbit/whatever run in a car park is very odd.

I imagine they put it there initially to stop the OP parking across the corner of their bay as Zoo appears incapable of parking straight, but as the OP continued to ram into it/display a lack of parking skills, the neighbours have now invested in a Bollard. I suspect the OP has likely been parking across the corner of neighbours space for ages and neighbour is now investing in more permanent measures to encourage OP to actually park properly.
OP is responding with entitled vandalism and wondering why neighbour is pissed off.

needanewnamechange · 29/12/2019 22:26

To be clear I can get into and out of the space but I have to do it carefully. I should be able to just swing in and out.
Well I hope you are always careful 
I think @Veterinari is correct about the op parking over their space so this is the result . Please learn to be more considerate at parking and DO NOT damage the post or take any further action and you know that you may get along with your neighbour. Hmm

TrainspottingWelsh · 29/12/2019 22:33

I'm with veterinari

On what planet is it acceptable to vandalise your neighbours property because you lack parking skills?

Oopsinamechangedagain2020 · 29/12/2019 23:27

I think you either need to park where your neighbour parks or reverse in.

MayFayner · 30/12/2019 09:35

I should be able to just swing in and out.

Agree with pps, reading between the lines here I think OP is a bad driver/ parker, and this has caused the issue and it’s subsequent escalations.

Why do you think you should be able to “swing in”? You’re not entitled to swing anywhere. If “swinging” is possible, happy days. If not, tough. You definitely shouldn’t be “swinging out” if you’re reversing out. There could be a child or dog behind you.

LittleLongDog · 30/12/2019 09:41

I should be able to just swing in and out.

It would be a lovely perk if you could, but there’s no ‘should’ about it. Why do you think you’re entitled to this?

Ofitck · 30/12/2019 09:46

OP we had exactly this issue! Moved last year into a new place and the previous owner and the neighbour had had an ongoing dispute about the pole. We live in a gated community sort of thing so it had been brought up at the annual meetings and eventually the community paid for legal advice.

The official ruling was that the pole was legal but not in neighbourly spirit and that the decent thing to do was to remove it but they couldn't force it. They did have to move it 3 cm to the side so that it didn't sit on the painted line between spaces but actually on their space. It had been erected initially I think because the old owners were not the best drivers, so the neighbours agreed to take it down to give us a chance!

Gatehouse77 · 30/12/2019 09:53

I should be able to just swing in and out.

Er, no you 'shouldn't'.
You should have access to your parking space.
Sometimes I have a similar issue to you because we're getting two cars on our drive so I can't just swing in but have to do it carefully.

PleaseGiveMeAShake · 30/12/2019 09:55

Yabvu at damaging your neighbours property especially since it is on their land. And also giving the finger.

They are obtuse in how they park.

Your as bad as each other but your neighbour is the lesser unreasonable of the 2 sides.

BlouseAndSkirt · 30/12/2019 10:01

The problem is the car parked in the unmarked space, not the pole.

There must be a management company, surely?

wowfudge · 30/12/2019 10:06

I think there may well be a management company, but as a tenant the OP's recourse for any issues is to the landlord.

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