Has anyone bought a house, regretted it and then moved?

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I’m still in a pickle about this house move that I regret badly. Has this happened to any of you and how did it all turn out?

Many thanks guys xx

I'm really sorry you're not enjoying your new house OP - this is the third thread you've started about it so it's clearly all-consuming for you. You've had lots of sympathy, empathy and suggestions as to what you could do to help you deal with it and your bereavement. What are you looking for from posters on here?

Well my way out of this problem is to sell on but we can’t do that until we’ve been in the house for six months. I understand I’m testing patience here now with the 3rd post but I’m just looking for people who’ve been in the same boat and to tell me how it worked out for them x

Yes, the first house I bought with my husband was dreadful, I hated it and the area.

When we moved I was happy! Hope you can stick it out for a while and good luck for the future.

I agree it is clearly on your mind constantly (I think I've seen your posts on another forum too)? I get the feeling you're looking for someone to give you 'permission' to sell up?

Yes. Bought and night 1 cried all night when I realised what we'd let ourselves in with with awful awful neighbours. We had sold again within 9 months, and fortunately made a very nice profit due to market conditions.

I couldn't have stayed a moment longer. I would have moved if it meant a loss.

No experience but im sorry i read your other thread and think you have to start planning your move bac. Start to constructively plan and the time will go faster.

I hated my current house for a good year, then just didn't like it for next year and after that it grew on me.

We've just sold and I'm delighted to be leaving but I stuck it out for 7 years.

Yes you’re probably right. My partner has said we could move if I’m still miserable although he’s reluctant to as he loves the house. But I guess I am wanting permission or rather just to know that it’s doable and has been done if you know what I mean? It would just put my mind at rest.

I’m usually of the mindset If something isn’t right then change it but obviously it’s never been on this scale before!

I really think you need to give it time.

I probably started loving my house after living here for 2 years

Hi OP,
Really sorry to hear that you're not enjoying your new home. I have only seen one of your other threads but remember the jist.
It's on a much lower level, but we moved into our current house about a week before I got pregnant and experienced horrendous morning sickness. I associated the house with feeling sick and awful and so I hated it for about 6 months.
Once the association had gone and I focused on making it lovely and homely I started to really love it. In the early days I was pining for our old area too, but as time has gone on I've come to love this area even more.
Hope that helps a tiny bit!

Give it the six months that you have to and then see how you feel. I have moved a great deal and sometimes the situation changes... for better or worse. If you don't start to feel better you move (if you can). No one needs to 'give you permission',

Would it help to be putting money aside each month for 'moving costs'? So psychologically you feel it is a possibility but giving you something to focus on in the interim?

User183737 yes that’s what I’m trying to do to help me cope although what I can save myself isn’t going to cut it but I don’t think I can bring it up with my partner yet as he’s not as into moving as I am and he’s just saved and spent a lot for THIS move so I’m on eggshells at the moment x

So just keep doing it and keep the goal in YOUR head. I was the same. The thought of being trapped was almost overwhelming. Having money saved every month was freedom to me, an escape.
Why the 6mth wait btw?

Im sure he wont want you unhappy. Its a big mistake but it can be rectified. But you need to be honest and say 'no-this is NEVER going to work for me'. Because habd on heart it isnt, is it? Its an awful feeling i sympathise X

What do you dislike about it

We bought a house that wasn't ideal as our first house we were buying fell through and we had to scramble. I suggested moving into rented but DH said no and we bought which I immediately regretted. I hated the house, the area, the neighbours, everything. Plus we overpaid for the house by quite a bit. We moved after a year and a half and lost £25k plus fees but we love the house we're in now and have made the money back and more as our new house has gone up in value. Try it to worry too much, it's a horrible feeling I know but life does go on and one day this will be a distant memory!

My parents moved me from London to Scotland when I was a child and then back again within the year as they hated it. They did at least make a lot of money on the venture though, mostly by splitting the Scottish property into 3 as it was a lot of land with a big house and two cottages in the grounds.

They have form for this though, DMother cried for a week when they moved into their current house but learned to love it by demolishing half of it and they’ve now lived there for 20 years with no plans to move.

So using them as an example it can go either way!

I’m just looking for people who’ve been in the same boat and to tell me how it worked out for them

Didn’t the previous two threads yield those kind of responses?

Toaster why so snarky? She wants support is all.

I’m sorry that you’re still feeling like this. I think you absolutely have to discuss it with your partner as you are obviously very unhappy.

Thank you User183737 you’ve made me feel better than I did so thanks again. And yes I do know hand in heart that it’s not right for me. Our last house was scruffy to begin with but I knew that it was our home whereas this one needs nothing done yet I just can’t take to it.

The six month time scale is due to people not being offered mortgages to buy properties that haven’t been lived in for at least six months. It’s to stop money laundering. So I could list it now but the likelihood is that nobody would get a mortgage for it.

The main thing I don’t like is the sheer size and style of the house. It would never have been my think but I was in a haze when we viewed it due to my mums death. So while I’m here I’m just reminded of the huge costly mistake I made. And guilt feelings of disappointing the family x

I just wonder how many of these sorts of posts the OP needs to see before they are ‘happy’ that they’ve seen enough. Their DP has said they are happy to move if the OP is truly that unhappy. They have said that they are that unhappy. So go ahead and make the move.

I don’t see what a bunch of strangers on the www disliking their houses is going to do for the OP. Especially when 2 threads of the same have apparently not been helpful.

Have you had grief counselling OP? Could you be tangling the negative feelings around the loss of your mum in with the move?

Sporkinthetoaster If I’d never experienced all consuming grief and anxiety for the first time during a period of double change then I might understand where you’re coming from.

Reassurance is my anxiety remedy that’s all and if ever you or anybody else seek it on the www I’ll try and help as a friendly ear makes all the difference x