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my husband loves one house, me the other.

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SeasonalVag · 15/11/2015 16:41

After six months of intensive house hunting, I fell on love with one house, my husband with another. Each house is similar to our respective childhood homes, so one is a 1930s detached, the other 1970s.

Based on location, we chose my husbands favourite...it's significantly nearer my son's school, but I'm so disappointed and upset, I've actually taken to my bed to get my head around this house which is nice enough but my one stab of buying a house and really loved the other one.

Is it normal to feel so upset....I just wanted a house I loved and would be disappointed if my husband was this childish.
Secretly I'm hoping the offer gets rejected

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SeasonalVag · 16/11/2015 07:50

Oh, Lem, I saw the second one....100 slimy Rocky steps to the house,not much garden, very dark.

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SeasonalVag · 16/11/2015 07:52

The other thing is....he works like mad and thanks to that I dont have to work at all....which puts under so much less pressure as a family....I'm inclined to let him have it on that basis alone.

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potap123 · 16/11/2015 07:53

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ThreeRuddyTubs · 16/11/2015 07:55

The second house is beautiful...so warm and inviting compared to the other one, but I like massive gardens and feature fireplaces!

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SeasonalVag · 16/11/2015 07:57

Well, we twere thinking....as we both like streamlined shapes, 1930 furniture with a splash of seventies here and there, it could look great....roof terrace on top of garage....and I get an ensuit.

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DoreenLethal · 16/11/2015 07:57

Which means you are there more so need to like it as well! Lis i guess you also work hard looking after the kids and house so surely you get a say?

I prefer your choice. Cant your son move schools to a closer one if distance is an issue?

howtorebuild · 16/11/2015 07:59

Your choice is nicer. I think the seventies Mitch once revamped will be better.

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SeasonalVag · 16/11/2015 08:00

He's shy. It would be better for him to live in an area with other kids, but its so suburban gouges eyes out

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NorthernLurker · 16/11/2015 08:00

Oh dear Op - I was fully prepared to say how lovely and practical the 70s house is but having seen the other one I agree - yours is better.

I think you need to sit dh down and tell him your heart is set on the 30s one and you need to view it again.

howtorebuild · 16/11/2015 08:00

Kitchen

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SeasonalVag · 16/11/2015 08:02

Thanks for listening everybody...we can't tell anybody our dilemma IRL as its such a bloody first world problem

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WoodleyPixie · 16/11/2015 08:04

Your choice is so much nicer. I can see why you'd be upset at not buying it.
A tough choice but I think I'd ask dh to go back and view again. It looks like his choice needs work and your choice would need minimal if any work.

Branleuse · 16/11/2015 08:05

yours is miles nicer

MairzyDoats · 16/11/2015 08:07

Yours is bloody gorgeous. His... Less so.

lighteningirl · 16/11/2015 08:18

I believe the secret to a happy marriage is for both of you to be able to recognise who it's most important to, from what to have for dinner to where you live all decisions need to be made on that basis. This decision is way too big for you to let go. Would your dh take to bed in upset if you agreed on 'his' house? Is he getting more voting rights because you are sahm and it's 'his' money? You need to talk this through much better Flowers

didireallysaythat · 16/11/2015 08:33

I like both. His has a dull front and back garden but you will be able to make them yours. The inside is a little tired but the space good and so much potential to make it yours. Your choice is fully dressed (not at all to my taste - I'm amazed at how much furniture people have), the rooms look smaller (but photos can be deceiving), but that conservatory..... All I can think is cold, condensation on the glass roof, access to a nice garden but through a room you will have shut off a lot of the time unless you can afford to run the heating all the time.

We bought our current house two years ago and I'm not in love with it. But the right location for school, jobs, and a big garden has made me realise it really was a much better choice than the three houses I loved but we lost out on. It may feel more like mine once we decorate (life gets in the way) but my DH could see what I couldn't. Can you view again without your DH and take your time vusualising yourself in there ?

Wishful80sMontage · 16/11/2015 08:36

Sorry OP I don't think you want to hear this but your choice is a million times nicer- its a beautiful house. I don't know the areas but based on the houses themselves yours is far nicer, beautiful features and decorated really nicely throughout plus that garden!

Ragwort · 16/11/2015 08:39

Difficult (and I love your house much more) ........... we live in house that I like much more than DH does and he moans and groans about it all the time - so much so that it has almost spoiled it for me. Can you carry on looking?

potap123 · 16/11/2015 08:43

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SouthWestmom · 16/11/2015 08:49

Op your choice looks really cramped, and I think the blank canvas of the first one will be fabulous to work with. Plus, an easy walk to school is so much nicer long term.

DoreenLethal · 16/11/2015 08:51

Youve got it wrong potap

OliviaBenson · 16/11/2015 08:51

Favourite is a 2-storey one? OP your choice is by far the nicest. And much less work needs doing on it. Don't buy a house you hate, you'll regret it.

MummaGiles · 16/11/2015 08:55

I would definitely have gone with yours, it's beautiful and needs no work. I couldn't live in the 70s one.

SoupDragon · 16/11/2015 08:59

I'm going to be no help. I find the 70s one soulless and the 30s one full of warmth and homeliness.

However, I live in a 1930s semi and grew up in a 1930s semi so it's hardly surprising!

WhyBeHappyWhenYouCouldBeNormal · 16/11/2015 09:00

Yes, Op your house is light open and beautiful, DH's is fuggly, dark and cramped. yuck.