I am having a nervous breakdown!

[Pinkjenny]

Buyers are taking the survey in to the EA this afternoon, as there are a couple of 'minor' issues that they want our 'opinion' on. We stressed that the price we agreed was NOT subject to survey, and this is all reminding me of the last buyers we lost.

It is driving me insane now.

I wish I knew, LIZS. The structural survey was more in relation to the garage than the conservatory. Any suggestions?

I know how you feel. We actually sold ours for less than we bought it for and then they still were trying to get money off after the survey. We refused to go any lower and they still bought it because they knew they had a bargain. I was so angry because I was upset at selling it for such a low price in the first place but it has worked out well as the house we bought is our forever home and we got money off that too. Also moved just in time to get kids into local school for this September.

Its one of those things - the house will only go for what someone wants to pay for it. Around here our estate agents nightmare is when the owner ignores their valuation and values it themselves and then states that they will wait for someone to pay their inflated price. Sorry to sound harsh but dont cut off your nose to spite your face. If you have found your dream house go for it...

Dont worry yourself - pick up the phone and find out what is going on. The agent should know. They wont want to lose the sale either.

He has deferred the issues to his solicitor which seems sensible. On a not so sensible note, he is coming round tomorrow night with his Dad to look at the farking garage roof. His Dad isn't a builder or anything

I'd recommend being out in case things get said. Let the agent deal with their tyre kicking and teeth sucking.

lalalonglegs - I'll acknowledge they've arrived, say hello, and leave them to it. It's the garage, after all, they shouldn't even need to come in. Although of course I will tidy up, just in case.

Hi Pinkjenny - the last house we bought didn't have planning for the conservatory as it was built under permitted development, the vendors had the planning office fax a letter to our solicitors saying just that, that it didn't need planning permission.

Was the pitch of your garage roof mentioned on your own survey?

Good thing is, if they are talking about getting a full structural survey it means they are still intending, at this stage, to buy your house, although why they would want that and not a builder to come round and give his free opinion I don't know.

We went through hell and back selling ours, they had a very junior solicitor so when we were about to exchange she had to get it signed off by a senior solicitor who raised concerns over something. Wanted to kill at that stage. My Mum had just died and I was comatose for the most part.

We actually cried when we exchanged, we exchanged at 4.45pm on a Wednesday when the removal firm were coming on Thursday at 8am to start packing us and completed on the Friday, oh and I had just buried my Mum on the Tuesday. It is all a blur

its only the garage roof, its not like there are cracks in the walls or anything more worrying so I wouldnt worry.

If it was me I would try for a bit off but just remember your dream house awaits you and these people have just had a survey done so they have spent some money already on your house. If they want say £1500 off (I would try for this sort of amount tbh) offer to meet them half way at £750. That is a £1 per day for the next two years whilst you are living in your dream house.

The reason I am saying this is that some people do get carried away with taking what they see as the moral high ground. I went to see Take That and had to pay over the odds, I have had a couple of people state that they would ONLY pay face value - no more. Well I saw Take That and they didnt because the blooming Ticketmaster website crashed. In a few years you will wonder what all the fuss was about

It looks like the conservatory DID need planning permission, we have left it with the solicitors, but I will get the council etc involved if I need to.

The pitch of the garage did come up on ours, but we were told by the surveyor that it wasn't a huge problem, just poor building practice, so we weren't that bothered by it.

Solicitor has advised me to ask the buyer tomorrow night what his intentions are, as we have a purchase to be getting on with. I'm not sure whether that's a good idea or not.

I am so stressed. Seriously. Everyone involved is driving me mad.

Also, it didn't need planning permission, it needed Buildings Regulation approval. I think.

Offer to pay for indemnity insurance? Has someone suggested that already?

We just moved into our new house (had our fair share of stress but we did get there in the end!). There's a glass roof in the back extension and also new windows/doors that were not FENSA-approved or something... Our vendors didn't want to go down the route of trying to get approval so they offered to pay for indemnity insurance and we accepted that. Good luck! Been following your story on here.

We think that's a no go because I contacted the council and enquired as to whether planning permission was required. I think that has put them 'on notice'. I am going to slit my wrists soon.

How long has it been there?

Since Dec 2008. I hope no one comes on here and starts being all aggressive about it, I am on the edge. On the edge, I tell you.

As long as it is well done structurally and doesn't convene planning then an indemnity will be fine.

But surely we are 'on notice' now? The woman I spoke to at the planning office didn't sound terribly knowledgeable and kept saying, 'Don't worry about it.'

PJ Oh God, its all just ridiculous isnt it???

Just had my solicitor on the line with queries from our buyers solicitor talking about changes to this property that have never been made (moving interior walls and a skylight????)

Getting dh to ring in a bit...if I talk to her again today I will not be responsible for what I say!!!!

Becaroooo - why is it always so awful? I neeeeeed to get to that forever house, because I am NEVER moving again.

Can't you ask Building Control to come out to sign off retrospectively? Surely your builder would be liable if it doesn't meet them.

LIZS - Can you come and live with me until this is over? You are a very calming influence

I have left it with the solicitor, hopefully she will advise accordingly. They are waiting for their solicitor to receive the contracts and then they will make a decision about proceeding. They are not prepared to commit either way at the moment.

haha . When we have moved dh has banned me from speaking to our solictor or EA cos I get so annoyed !!

I was wondering whether it was just me. The EA keeps saying things like:

I agree with him (the buyer).
It's just your nature, you're very anxious.
And who put an offer in on a house before they should have done (sing song patronising voice)?

I will go down there and kick some serious ass soon.

How patronising!! I wouldn't keep my cool if someone spoke to me like that!! Go kick ass!!