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Wondered if hand holding for Sept newbies would be nice?

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treedelivery · 19/06/2009 16:50

Just that really. Like an antenatal thread but for parents of children starting primary in Sept.

We have our taster afternoon in a couple of weeks - it all feels so alien. Haven't felt this out of it since I bought my 1st pack of nappies and got the giggles at the checkout!

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pigswithfludontfly · 08/07/2009 17:54

Are they doing youngest or oldest first at her school Aranea?

Aranea · 08/07/2009 19:06

I think they're mostly starting with children who have been at the school nursery. dd hasn't, but I asked for her to be in that first intake.

golgi · 08/07/2009 19:08

As far as I know, we do all in at the beginning. But the intake is only 15, so probably not worth staggering them!
I don't know how working parents cope with the strange hours at some schools (I work full time, but have very flexible childcare arrangements - otherwise known as Granny and Grandad)

LadyIsabella · 08/07/2009 19:37

DS had his first 'taster' session this morning - he was very subdued and kept asking to leave. However he did like the look of the spiderman climbing frame in the yard and also the toilets met with his seal of approval. That's it now in terms of settling in until Sept. He starts with the first cohort (Nov born) on 14th Sept, does a week of just mornings, then mornings +lunch. So won't be full time until October - coping with that will be interesting!

Aranea · 08/07/2009 19:50

Did you stay with him for the 'taster' session?

McDreamy · 08/07/2009 19:54

DS goes part time until Xmas as he's a summer baby so it means a bit of to-ing and fro-ing for the first term what with DD being in Y2!

pigswithfludontfly · 08/07/2009 20:05

Aranea - at the first session at ours they went with us, then they've had two without us.

Acinonyx · 08/07/2009 20:52

Dd (4 next week) has a 10 day settling in period then full-time. Since I work part-time I would find it very difficult if it took longer tbh.

fuzzypeach · 08/07/2009 22:13

Well DD had her first (and only) visit this morning to school followed by school dinner - she seems to enjoy herself although i think she just sat colouring on her own for the whole hour and didnt try to make any friends but Im sure she will be fine when she finally gets stuck in in sept.. I need to find purple summer dresses now, but they are proving hard to find!

Aranea · 08/07/2009 22:24

Am feeling very at all these lovely settling sessions!

Though I just discovered that dd's school has a more recent ofsted report than the one I'd seen and it's fab, so I am feeling a bit cheered.

DwayneDibbley · 09/07/2009 09:33

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McDreamy · 09/07/2009 10:57

Aw Dwayne

TheMadHouse · 09/07/2009 11:52

Oh me me me - I need you all

TheMadHouse My PFB will be starting Reception on 4 September he will be 4.6. He has been going to Preschool since he was 3 for 2 hours per day and the staff will be avalable for the first week to help with settling in. He is obsessed with anything anallitical and can do simple sums in his head, knows his letters, but like lots of boys does not like writing. Can dress himslef apart from buttons on shirt, can wipe his bum (but shouts at home for help). He has issues with speach (he was tongue tied at birth) so speach theraphy will start in a couple of weeks and continue at school)

3rdnparty: my pfb due to start sep as well at my 2nd choice (need to get over it but struggling)..ds will be 4.2

Acinonyx has one dd will be 4.1 starting school. Major toilet issues and very shy. Draws well, writes, counts and does some very simple sums but no reading.

Aranea has a DD who will be 4.8 when she starts school in September. Can do dressing, toilet and eating. Starting to read a little and do simple sums. Physically finds things a bit difficult so quite a high 'mamma worries' score!

Babbity has DS who will be 4.10. Can do dressing, eating and toileting. Knows alphabet and loves numbers/ sums/ "science" but not interested in writing, holding pencil, or anything creative. Bum wiping adequate.

blametheparents has a DD who will be 4.6. Recognises letters and is trying to work out sounds in words, but cannot read. Can do simple adding and taking away sums. Desperate to start school with her big brother, keep reminding her she will not be in his class. Some toilet issues, she has been prescribed movicol now which is helping loads, but need to keep a close eye on her diet.

Curlylox: DD start September too and have the impression it is full time, she also turns 5 in September too.

DwayneDibbley has DD who will be 4.2 on first day. Can do buttons, and get dressed, eats like a horse, knows alphabet, numbers, simple sums, can read (well, spells out words phonically and then says what word is, and just beginning to know whole words by sight iyswim?). no inclination to write at all. Good bum wiper, but cannot blow nose. Is terrible telltale, and huge perceiver of non-existent injustices, the constant communication of which, I fear, will make her unpopular with teachers.

eandh - dd1 will be starting reception on her 5th birthday (which she is very excited about!) appears confident (ie is loud and opinated) however can be very insecure and is a real worrier and has some hearing issues so am slightly worried about that! Knows most of the alphabet and can write things if I spell them for her, absolute no interest in reading writing is actually quite neat howveer cannot grasp what is a number and what is a letter. Thankfully no toilet issues and not too fussy so l,unches should be fine. However major issue is I want to cut a few inches off her hair as its so long and she is not having any of it at the moment! Can dress okay

FatGirlThin: Ds is my youngest. I feel SICK at the thought of him going even though I know he's ready.

Fruitful has DS1 who will be 4.7, starting full-time the second week. Can just about write his name, can mostly get dressed except for jumpers for some reason, can't wipe his bum but has completely mastered the art of only ever pooing at home

fuzzypeach: My DD1 is 5 on 13th Sept, and starting school on the 7th. Im quite concerned about DD1 starting school as she is quite badly behaved - we have been on parenting courses and had "home help" (!!!) to try and help but she is very bright and outwits me and Dh with her behaviour all the time whateve techniques we use.
She is very independant but the only thing she struggles with is going to the toilet on her own, and she never wipes her bum properly so bit worried about that too!!!

golgi has son 4.8 on first day. Can do numbers, letters, read some words. Will not pick up pen or pencil or dress himself. Still has a nap after lunch if given half a chance.

LadyIsabella has DS1, 4.9. Having a massive testosterone surge at the moment, very curious about most things (esp. space, science etc) but not at all patient (drawings take 1 min etc). Refuses to wipe his bottom unless bribed with stickers etc.

littlelamb: Dd is starting year 1 in September, having not been at school this year as we were waiting for a place.

lollyheart: My dd will be 4.10, she can dress herself,loves to write, draw, she knows her letters and numbers, the only problem is she cant wipe her bum, well she tries but makes a mess of it.

lolster's DS starts this sept

LovelyRitaMeterMaid: DD won't start going to school until after Christmas (and will be in a mixed nursery/reception class) as she'll be 4 in September. There is an intake every term and they go mornings only for the first two terms.

LtEveDallas: DD starts this Sep, she will be 4.6 and seems ready. No toilet probs (except she hates wearing knickers and tends to leave them off when she's finished!). She knows her letters, numbers, simple maths etc but hates using a knife and fork and at present still has an afternoon nap - gonna have to drop this one.

MarshaBrady has Ds 4.5 in September, loves counting, really wants to write, knows alphabet, and can wipe and do loo stuff fine. Has a baby brother or sister due in Dec so mother, I mean me of course, is not too sad about him starting.

mckenzie: DD was 4 in March and she has had 2 one hour stay and play sessions this month and we parents had a great evening meeting where we were given lots of information, met some of the teachers and nursery assistants etc and were shown round the school. I have a DS in year 3 at the same school but things have changed a bit since he was in reception (for the better) so it was nice to be shown round again.

mrsmortenharket: pfb starts in sept

norksinmywaistband has dd 4.9 on first day, very keen to start. Knows her numbers and letters, and write her own name - in a fashion. She has poo issues and I am worried about tantrums toward end of day as she gets very stroppy when tired

paisleyleaf: DD starts september and I am just gutted.

pantshavenames: PFB DS starting september

pigswithflu - one ds (4.2) on first day. Improving with own dressing but often all wrong way round. Can read whole sentences (proud mummy alert), good at maths but barely writes something akin to name.
Buttons and bum wiping on to do list for summer hols.

Pinktulips has one dd (4.7) starting in sept. toilet issues, chronic shyness and hates letters and counting. has master bum wiping but buttons still a tricky one. she's great at drawing and things involving fine motor skills though (puzzles and crafty things)

simpson has DS who will be 4.0 on 1st day of school. He can feed, dress and has no toilet problems. he can count, knows most letters and is starting to read some words. He also draws & holds pencil well but no writing yet. Main worry is tiredness as he gets very tired just doing half days at preschool.

Swissmiss has DS who will be 4.8 on first day. Not really interested in the academic stuff, much prefers to be making stuff. Can dress / wipe bottom but prefers not so it is the source of many a frustation on both our parts. Like Wheelybug's dd he talks a lot and will spend most of his time being told to talk less and listen more.

teafortwo has one dd will be 3.4 on first day. This is the age all children start school in Paris (where milk and tea live). Butterflies are us - but in a good way !

TitsalinaBumsquash: DS is going up into Reception in September, he hasn't said a lot about it, i have spoken to him and he isn't really that interested.

treedelivery has dd1 age 4.10 on 1st day. Does own dressing and academic stuff. Does not do bowel control, eating or relaxing. Todays 'Mamma worries' score 6/10

Wheelybug has dd who will be 4.7. Beginning to read and does other academic stuff hanks to a good pre-school but talks far too much so will probably spent most of her time being told to talk less and listen more.

Wolfnipplechips dd is 4.7 in sept, can dress herself, wipebum and write names. Loves drawing, craftyness and ballet. Is left handed so struggles a bit with letter formation. Is a scruffy child and her dm and db are going to miss her terribly

Babygeog will be 4.11, he is ready academically ,starting to read, obsessed with numbers but like many on here reluctant to write, in other ways he is a baby, he is number 3 and likes to play the fool. He has to wear a shirt and is clueless on buttons. Not really sure what i'll do in September...

TheMadHouse · 09/07/2009 12:02

Oh DS met his new teacher yesterday (she is new to the school) and we met her on Tuesday. he had school meal for the first time on Monday.

In his school you all start full time straight away and they make the preschool teacher avalable for the first week too.

I know I will blub at the door on the first day, but I am determined not to transfer my axieties on to him. He is very excited and more than capable.

I am feeling doubly strange about it, as DS2 will be starting preschool in September too

We got his preschool report and also meet with his teacher and head of preschool on Monday evening for parents evening and it was great. She said he was one of the brightest children she had the pleasure of looking after. He understands and uses maths concepts from year 2. This can make him challenging in some ways, but also a dream in others.

I have bought trousers, shorts, polo's. shirts, vests, sock, plain jumpers from M&S in the 3 for 2 sale. I have ordered a jumper etc from the school with the badge on. We also have a school coat we bought from next last year in the sale. Uniform is not a big deal as he has wore one for all of preschool since he was three. We will be getting his shoes nearer the time.

Anyway tomorrow is his last day at preschool and I have such a mixture of emotions going on. We decorated cups and plates for the teachers and filled them with hot choc sachets and some herbal teas and also popped in some biscuits. I am so thankful to them for making preschool somewhere he can not wait to get to and never wants to leave.

roundabout1 · 09/07/2009 12:24

My dd starts in Sept, she's one of the youngest as her bday isn't til 22nd Aug. I'm sure she'll be fine but she's so quiet & shy. Went for the afternoon yesterday & she didn't speak at all! Her main worry is where the toilets are & she's too shy to ask these things. Her teacher seems really nice but not cuddly like the staff at nursery. Her uniform is navy skirt/pinafore & cardi or school sweatshirt. dd is gutted as it's so dark & is apparently a boys colour! Not great for us either as we've gota white & grey cat thats permenantly moulting!

DwayneDibbley · 09/07/2009 12:26

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TheMadHouse · 09/07/2009 12:50

Dwayne - The preschool is part of the school so I know that all will be OK.

He came home yesterday full of excitement, as he knows where his new classroom is, where he needs to hang his coat and also where the loo's are

It is so strange as I was really concerned over this school as it is so large (540 pupils) and quite a range of social backgrounds(main village all areas feed to it), but it is one of the top ten in the country and I can see why, their pastorial care is second to none.

I just want my boys to be happy

dotty2 · 09/07/2009 14:05

Have just found this thread - just what I need. Please hold my hand and make me some tea. DD1 starts in September, will be 4.4. It's a small school (village - tho not ours, sadly, a 4 mile drive away. I know, I know), and they are flexible about starts, but we are going to go for mornings only for a week or so and then full-time unless it's going badly.

I actually came on this topic looking to start my own thread with a question but maybe one of you can answer rather than me starting a fresh thread which will make old hands tut over my silly anxieties.

DD has had 4 half day settling in visits and has been excited and positive, mostly, when talking about them. But has been awful when being dropped off - had to be peeled off me. And very quiet and reserved when I pick her up. She's just had her last one today and that's it until September. I was 5 mins late to pick her up (wretched 4 mile drive), which probably didn't help. What I really want to know is - what is she like when she's there? Does she seem miserable? What can I do to help if she is? But I don't know - and this is the silly anxiety bit - whether it's OK to ring the school and arrange a time to speak to her teacher to get a bit of feedback, or will they think I am mad? I have been spoilt by the DDs' lovely nursery where they are very set up for giving detailed feedback every day. Sigh. What do you all think?

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dotty2 · 09/07/2009 15:56

DD - thanks for that. How interesting: I took DD1 straight to nursery as it's a working day for me (supposedly - am an easily distracted home-worker!) and she was miserable and didn't want me to leave and is usually happy as larry at nursery. I think you're right - it is just so much to take in for them. She has been finding it difficult to sleep, needing us there when she is going to sleep, etc - which she hasn't done for ages, and I'm sure it's connected with the insecurity of going to a whole new place away from (almost) all her friends.

treedelivery · 09/07/2009 18:32

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golgi · 09/07/2009 19:14

My boy had another session today - he seemed fine. Although he tells me he doesn't want to go to school, he says every day that he doesn't want to go to nursery then loves it when he gets there.

We went to the school uniform suppliers this afternoon (only place you can get the sweatshirts) and had "fun" trying things on "no mum, I don't want to take my trousers off, it's not the end of the day - arrrgh that label is scratching me take it off take it off - it's too big, I don't like it, just hold it up to me and see if it fits" etc., while his little brother ran around hiding in all the blazers.

Have now got enough to start with though, just need shoes and a couple more polo shirts. Probably.

Acinonyx · 09/07/2009 19:21

dotty - I called to check how dd was doing after she was prised off me for settling in. Later the teacher said that is how we will do it in Sep - I can phone after dropping dd to check she has settled (i.e. stopped wailing...). So I would think calling and asking how things went whileyou weren't there would be fine.

Treedelivery - went to the chiro today who was marvellously patient but dd would have none of it. Teddy, lizard and camel all had checks as did the chiro's teddy. She was offered chocolate (dd's greqatest weakness). But she would not lie down and be examined. She is concerned that another girl will get the chocolate and says she might try again with dh (she has been and watched dh at the chiro before). We'll see. Still no word from the specialist. We are in the twilight poo zone here.

No childcare this week as dd's CM has swine flu (but dd doesn't). Made a very sticky get well card today which is drying on a shelf.

Acinonyx · 09/07/2009 19:24

We tried on some stuff yesterday while returning/exchanging online purchases. We got a bit side-tracked in John Lewis and dd tried on 5 not very schoolish dresses, bouncing up and down with eagerness. We did buy one - and no uniform items Oh well - we do have a wedding to go to....

But she was not very excited about the grey uniform items. The pinaforres don't have swirly, flippy skirts, even.