Child throwing chairs in classroom

[mondray]

I recently found out that there was an incident in my son’s classroom (year 2) where a student lost his temper and started throwing chairs around. It resulted in a student getting caught in the crossfire.
The teachers ushered out the rest of the children while they got the situation under control.

This was never mentioned to any of the parents and seems to have just spread like gossip through kids/parents over the next few weeks.

I am a bit in two minds about this situation. The child is new in the classroom, but I believe he might be SEN, which could explain the behaviour.
My own son wasn’t directly impacted, but has shown anxiety that this might happen again.

What would you as a parent do? Is it worth speaking to the school about it? Would you as a parent in this situation have expected to have been told that something like this happened in your child’s classroom?

I don’t want to be that parent, as I am sure the situation is being dealt with. But I am struggling with the fact that nothing has been communicated to us.

You can say whatever you want about throwing chairs. It'snot the school or childs fault, all children are let down, talking it through with your child at home... but in the end it's normalising a violent act. Not ok.

If a child throws a chair in my classroom I keep calm to try and defuse the situation and not scare the other children any more than they need to be. The children take their lead from me. What other choice do I have?

You think we did it as first choice?
Oh well...

And yes, thank you our DC (with Asberger and a high IQ) is very happy and thrieving in her new school. She is doing great in a safe enviroment.
We have better jobs than we did in UK. I worked for NHS and DH in education (not primary school) so no regrets.
We should have done it earlier tbh.

Send him to me. So long as he's not truly beyond help (most aren't) I would fix him. Every single parent I've heard say, oh x can't help it, we've tried everything etc etc simply doesn't see the things they do they make things worse.

I suggest watching the dog guy who sorts out people's dogs. It's very similar!!!

I also would not inflict my child who was like this on everyone else. Change jobs. Go self employed. Move to a cheaper area. Remove them from school - YES you CAN just do that actually. Lots of options. Sick of hearing excuses from weak parenting which seems the norm these days. Head over to Jamaica and go and tell me how many chair throwers you can find over there! No one takes responsibility any more. That's the main problem.

Thats very funny. All the children in unsuitable mainstream waiting for special school placements could just be fixed by doing a puppy training class.

Send crisis over.

It would be a really good idea to say all of that.

What's happening now is the political situation is being managed while children suffer in an environment that manifestly isn't meeting anyone's needs.

The SEN child who throws chairs is clearly not coping and not having their needs met, and the other children who witness the violence are badly affected too, whether they are directly hit or not.

Either way, schools are not functioning well, but voters are being misinformed and prevented from making a fuss about it. (But woe betide a parent who takes a child out for a holiday or a family wedding in term time, or sends a child to school.wearing the wrong socks).

They would need the parents permission to share that kind of information as it is private medical information. Teachers aren't allowed to share that information with other parents.

Not explicitly, but I'd expect parents to be told something when the children had witnessed something distressing.

If a child discloses seeing violence at home it is considered a safeguarding concern because of the impact witnessing it can have on them.

OP do let the teacher know your child is feeling anxious as a result of the incident. Everything the can collate is evidence to help them fight to get the child the right support.