my friends ds was fed breastmilk at school !!!

[mummyof2bunnies]

My friend came round today in a bit of a state, she was asking her ds7 what he had done at school today and he replied that so and so's mum came in to class today and was telling them all about her new baby and brought baby food for them to try, and that they got to try breastmilk on teaspoons and breastmilk mixed in baby food now i am no prude i breastfed both my dds but i would be horrified if my dd came home and told me this. Friend was completely horrified as well is going to speak to the head 2mrw the mum in Q was a former classroom assistant at the school b4 she had her baby and my friends ds said she was the only one in class and the teacher was not there when they where trying the foods . I am sure this has to be wrong on so many levels i'm trying to look at it from another point of view but all i feel is anger that she did this can anyone else share their feelings on this....

ummm, sorry, but I'm with you there.

Its just wrong.

Definitely wrong. I took my recorder into playgroup to show the children, and they weren't allowed to try blowing it because of risk of transfer of germs etc.

I don't think it's anything to do with being prudish. The children weren't breastfed using real breasts.

However, I don't think it's appropriate to feed children other than your own breastmilk without parental consent, so it's definitely worth flagging up.

Please remember that the woman who did this was incredibly unlikely to be acting maliciously though.

Well, it's one in the eye for Thatcher the milk snatcher.

Definitely not on. Very inappropriate, espedcially without paental consent.

Would it be the same response if she'd given them, say, unpasteurised cow's milk?

apart from the germ issue, i cannot get that sort of funny about it

we drink cows milk and we are not calves

brave woman

humphrey, my dad taught me to chant that at milk time at infants school

I thought so as well,i have no idea how many parents will be happy at this either.

That's just seems wierd, did she have it already expressed..?

i thikn your friend needs to clarify exactly what it is that she was most irked about

would she have felt the same if it was formula? or goats milk?

or is it the fact it was once in a human breast

which is a lot better than being in a cows udder in terms of milk i think !

Lulumama, I agree - and I think the responses on this thread could well be the difference between this hitting national headlines and being dealt with locally, within the school.

Hence posting in order to try to calm the "Bang out of order she's a lunatic" type of posts...!

I know cows milk and all that but i allow my dds cows milk, my friend never bf her son so she feels like how dare she i didnt want to do it how dare you !

Should be dealt with locally in the school; definitely not in the media!

I think your friend's blowing it out of proportion - this woman didn't do it to get at her for her feeding choice - she probably thought it would be fun for the children.

I can just about guarantee it wasn't done as a personal insult, so she really ought not to act upon it as if it was one.

completely different to cows milk

I would be very annoyed

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the post title makes it sounds like he was made to have a drink from someones breast.

anyway, i think before everyone goes into meltdown and demands this woman's head on a stick or summat, just take a step back and focus on what the real bone of contention is

we are so eeeeeeeeek ! at breastfeeding so much of the time as a society, that it is important not to repsond in a purely knee jerk way

and before anyone, anyone , dares say i am a militant/ pro breastfeeding nazi or some other crapola, i have never breastfed!

i am just a bit more educated now than i was then

she apparently brought it in a tub.. but i have to say imo i wouldnt be so offended if she asked parents for consent.

..."my friend never bf her son so she feels like how dare she i didnt want to do it how dare you !"

and therein lies the crux of it

this other mother did not breastfeed anyone. she did not put a child to the breast so they could feed from her

they sipped milk off a spoon

that is not breastfeeding.

yes, consent before children are given any sort of foodstuff is a good thing, especially something that comes from another human !

but other than that, i am a bit meh about it

I guess parental consent should have been sought first, although, when you think abou tit rationally, is it any different to our children being given tastes of other food that they might not otherwise sample?

It won't do them any harm that's for sure.

In arab countries though, if you share breastmilk you become milk-brothers or sisters, and cannot marry each other. In the past if women couldn't breastfeed they would have a mink-mother who would BF the baby, but that baby would then be related by milk to the family of the milk mother. Interesting.

How about if it was another foodstuff that your friend doesn't allow her child to have?

I wouldn't give consent either, I don't want my children drinking someone elses breast milk, mine yes, others, no

Goodness, am I alone in not really having a problem with this? Although I can imagine my DD1's FACE if she was expected to try breast milk.