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my friends ds was fed breastmilk at school !!!

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mummyof2bunnies · 04/06/2008 21:27

My friend came round today in a bit of a state, she was asking her ds7 what he had done at school today and he replied that so and so's mum came in to class today and was telling them all about her new baby and brought baby food for them to try, and that they got to try breastmilk on teaspoons and breastmilk mixed in baby food now i am no prude i breastfed both my dds but i would be horrified if my dd came home and told me this. Friend was completely horrified as well is going to speak to the head 2mrw the mum in Q was a former classroom assistant at the school b4 she had her baby and my friends ds said she was the only one in class and the teacher was not there when they where trying the foods . I am sure this has to be wrong on so many levels i'm trying to look at it from another point of view but all i feel is anger that she did this can anyone else share their feelings on this....

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Desiderata · 04/06/2008 23:25

There's a huge leap, boyz, between breast milk, which is a natural function, and feeding it to children at your older child's school. That will have lasting repurcussions. Much as you might like to be a tree hugging hippy, the rest of us live in the real world, and I would be deeply displeased if my son was to imbibe another woman's breast milk as a social/education experiment.

Come on. That's a fucking weird thing to do, by anyone's standards. I mean, piss is a natural function. Should I show my son's class a sample of it, by way of education?

Should I perhaps make them drink it? Much like breast milk, piss is sterile, after all.

hunkermunker · 04/06/2008 23:26

Oh, FFS, Desi - how on earth is it the same as piss?

Do you feed babies piss, perchance?

NormaStanleyFletcher · 04/06/2008 23:28

piss is a waste product - bm isn't

KerryMum · 04/06/2008 23:29

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Rowlers · 04/06/2008 23:30

So she may have been a keen breastfeeder who was trying to normalise the whole thing and spread the word so to speak?
To 7 year olds?
7 year olds?
What for?
It's hardly going to influence any decisions about infant feeding when they have their own children is it?
If she has done this, not only is it thoroughly ill-conceived, it's very very odd.

StarlightMcKenzie · 04/06/2008 23:30

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hunkermunker · 04/06/2008 23:31

We know, KM.

You do have to be HIV+ for that to happen though, which I would imagine it's unlikely this mother was.

WowOoo · 04/06/2008 23:31

Ooh. An odd one. Agree with Hunker though, it's only bc it cam from a breast that it's grossing everyone out a bit. And the actual sampling of it. Really though?

I would not like it personally as I would not know what that lady had consumed and that it's a bit left field, but who the hell knows what the cows have been munching on and what nasty stuff they have been forcibly injected with etc? YUK. think I have to have a ' I am a vegan' day tomorrow until 9:40 am.

NormaStanleyFletcher · 04/06/2008 23:31

Children shouldn't be fed food at school that is not properly prepared, and I agree that there is a risk of disease / drugs being passed on if she fed these children bm, and had the above in her body

But if you ignore those risks, I don't get the "tree hugger mad hippy wierdo woman" coments.

Why are so many "wierded" out by bf and bm

hunkermunker · 04/06/2008 23:32

Rowlers, yes, studies show that children who think breastfeeding is the way to feed babies are more likely to breastfeed any children they have.

I did read/hear a while ago that for girls, the way you'll feed your children is kinda sorted by the time you're nine.

So it's really important to normalise it among children, actually.

Not saying this was the right way to do it, mind!

barbamama · 04/06/2008 23:34

it is possible that she was HIV+ though (or something like hepatitis - is that transmittable through bm?), without even knowing perhaps - would you risk that with a group of small children as a mother yourself? I wouldn't. I really think the child must have got confused.

Desiderata · 04/06/2008 23:34

Hunker, stop thrusting your own agenda. I find it hard to imagine that you would do such a thing as to offer your breast milk to your own primary school child's class.

If you would, then you're weird. If you wouldn't, then stop picking a fight .. because I'm talking about the OP, not the politics of breast-feeding.

barbamama · 04/06/2008 23:34

totally agree about the normalising though - but not like that.

BoyzntheShire · 04/06/2008 23:34

maybe she was trying to get across to children that bm isnt weird, gross, poisonous, freaky? maybe she was trying to get across that its perfectly fucking natural and a FOOD substance.

i would like to be a tree hugging hippy, youre right. but im not really. i dont even like lentils .

and i dont think there is any health risk in a taste from a spoon. i am prepared to be proved wrong, but i sincerely doubt it.

Rowlers · 04/06/2008 23:35

Am in no way grossed out by breastmilk. God no. Feeding gallons of it to DS.
But come on, how many of you would go into your place of work and take your own breast milk for everyone to try?

Whooosh · 04/06/2008 23:36

Am all for "normalising" BF- but agree with Hunker-no way convinced this is the right way to do it

hunkermunker · 04/06/2008 23:38

Desi, where the fuck am I thrusting my own agenda?!

I've objected to you likening breastmilk to piss.

I'm not 100% comfortable with this situation, if it does indeed turn out to be what was laid out in the OP - nowhere have I said I am.

It's you who's come on here with your tree hugging hippy insults - you're the one with the agenda, imo!

zippitippitoes · 04/06/2008 23:38

i find it hard to believe that a woman would do that without thinking it would be wrong on a lot of counts are there really such ditsy people in education..as you say she actually previously worked there she wasnt just a niave parent

WowOoo · 04/06/2008 23:39

Thing is, the children would have just thought it was a bit different and interesting, which it was ? NO?!

My Dc tell me straight and tell me what matters. And god, thye go on and on about things and exaggerate (sp?)....

BoyzntheShire · 04/06/2008 23:39

why are hunkers posts 'thrusting her agenda' and yours not, des? yours are quite forcefully put... if anyones doing any ramming down throats around here...

arent women routinely tested for things like hep and hiv when you first book in with a mw in early pregnancy? so unless shes been mainlining herion since then, or shagging ceaselessly with no protrection or something... pretty unlikely to have one of those things.

Rowlers · 04/06/2008 23:40

Hunker, I don't disagree that normalising breastfeeding is important.
I do not think though that these children would be particularly positively influenced by their old classroom assistant giving them her breastmilk on a spoon.
Surely better would have been perhaps just to breastfeed the baby herself?
Show them a mum breastfeeding, yes.
Give them your own milk, no.

hunkermunker · 04/06/2008 23:40

Boyz, yes, routinely tested - you can opt out of the tests though. I didn't have the HIV test till I donated my bmilk to the milk bank, for instance - I knew I was clear.

BoyzntheShire · 04/06/2008 23:40

rowlers, ive offered my bm to people to try . havent had many takers... lol

zippitippitoes · 04/06/2008 23:41

i think it is a sensitive artea it is personal and really why would tasting it be part of the visit/talk

WowOoo · 04/06/2008 23:41

Where was the class teacher though? There will be trouble in that school and it will not be the TA's fault really. Where was the class teacher? Who was responsible for this 'lesson' ?

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