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my friends ds was fed breastmilk at school !!!

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mummyof2bunnies · 04/06/2008 21:27

My friend came round today in a bit of a state, she was asking her ds7 what he had done at school today and he replied that so and so's mum came in to class today and was telling them all about her new baby and brought baby food for them to try, and that they got to try breastmilk on teaspoons and breastmilk mixed in baby food now i am no prude i breastfed both my dds but i would be horrified if my dd came home and told me this. Friend was completely horrified as well is going to speak to the head 2mrw the mum in Q was a former classroom assistant at the school b4 she had her baby and my friends ds said she was the only one in class and the teacher was not there when they where trying the foods . I am sure this has to be wrong on so many levels i'm trying to look at it from another point of view but all i feel is anger that she did this can anyone else share their feelings on this....

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hunkermunker · 04/06/2008 21:53

OO, I wondered that.

Surely not a militant bf early weaner?!

I haven't room on the Venn Diagram for her!

IlanaK · 04/06/2008 21:53

Sorry, I know this is off topic a bit, but I have to pick up on what Hulababy said. Formula is NOT regulated. In fact, its ingredients are kept highly secret and there is no regulation on what it contains.

Chequers · 04/06/2008 21:54

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morocco · 04/06/2008 21:54

re the baby food, this is what makes me think she also brought in formula but talked about bf. it sounds like an organised activity (hence no teachers present if she is also the ta) to talk about children/young babies and childcare

morocco · 04/06/2008 21:54

pmsl hunker

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mummyof2bunnies · 04/06/2008 21:55

the reason i posted that she was the only one in the classroom was because my friend asked her ds what his teacher thought about trying the foods and he said she was not there while so and so was doing this.

i assume she was unsupervised because

1 she is a parent of a child in the class

2 she was employed there untill she left to have baby.

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hunkermunker · 04/06/2008 21:56

I know it's not poison. It's not the same as cow's milk either though.

But I made the decision the boys weren't having it - I'd be annoyed if someone overrode that decision, much like the OP's friend is about the breastmilk.

I would be speaking to the school about what you've written in the OP, MO2B - firstly to clarify that it was, in fact, breastmilk and then to raise the issue of parental consent.

WonderingWhy · 04/06/2008 21:56

I do hate the fact that cow's milk is from cows and I feel sorry for the baby calves who are taken so we can have it

(ex vegan, don't ask )

But I see breastmilk as personal. It is imbued with so much more than nourishment. The possibility that the woman whose son tried it would be upset should have been enough to prevent the person at the school from thinking it was a good idea...it is about much more than feeding a child milk.

It involves feelings on many levels.

I would allow another child to try mine but it would be a gesture of fondness of that child, a bit like maybe stroking a child's hair at the playground, whose parents you do not know...?

Hulababy · 04/06/2008 21:57

Maybe regulated was the wrong word. I meant that it is a safe source - it has to meet certain standards in order to be sold - I would assume anyway, same as with any food stuffs.

And yes, if not made up properly at the time and kept cold, etc. it could have bacteria in. Would the same be true of normal cow's milk BTW - I don't know, hence asking? Just thnking of school milk which is neer refrigerated

Herecomesthesciencebint · 04/06/2008 21:57

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hunkermunker · 04/06/2008 21:57

Ilana, yes, good point - I'm amazed at how much trust parents place in faceless corporations to do what's right for their babies when all they're really concerned about is shareholders and profit - whatever the sodding adverts say.

Oliveoil · 04/06/2008 21:58

oh I missed that she was the former TA

things don't add up, are you sure he didn't just see her b/f and then got things a bit mixed up?

hunkermunker · 04/06/2008 21:59

Hula, it's not a 100% safe source - the milk powder itself isn't sterile. It fairly often contains salmonella and enterobacter sakazakii (I think 14% is one figure I've heard) and batches are often recalled.

Oliveoil · 04/06/2008 22:01

ahem

is this a formula debate?

Piffle · 04/06/2008 22:02

call me hysterical I'd be appalled more if dd was offered formula milk than another mothers breastmilk...
truly
Grabbing hunker and rosas skirtails and agreeing.

hunkermunker · 04/06/2008 22:03

Ahem.

No, it's a discussion on a message board.

S'called evolving debate. Or something.

WonderingWhy · 04/06/2008 22:03

I don't think it is about safety or anything

I think it has offended people, that's all

Not surprising. It is an intense thing as you can tell by all the Bf/formula threads

One way or another it was going to offend someone.
Perhaps made the mother feel upset that she hadn't managed to feed? Something on a deeper level I think than just H&S stuff.

You need to consider that really. I think bfing in public is for a good reason so not the same level of tact and consideration needed, but this was avoidable iyswim and I think unwise.

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mummyof2bunnies · 04/06/2008 22:03

lol human sausage not a great way to explain lol!!!

I say new baby she is around 5mths i think and i have no idea about what other food she had just some was mixed with breast milk so i am assuming baby rice or something.

I guess we will find out 2mrw if it was def breastmilk !

I am more horrified at the fact of what could potentially have been passed though the brestmilk.

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WonderingWhy · 04/06/2008 22:05

Or is it just me that thinks that?

Blandmum · 04/06/2008 22:08

I'm with Really Tired on this one. I would be unhappy at my child being given milk that has the potential to carry diseases.

In much the same way that I would be annoyed if he or she was being given unpasturised cow's milk, or food that had not been hygenically prepared

Oliveoil · 04/06/2008 22:08

how can you be ignored when only 2 mins have passed since your post? steady on love!

I don't see why the woman should have to consider if the other mum couldn't breastfeed tbh, if she was going in to show off the new baby and she b/f, then she will b/f

7 year olds are not known for their accurate passing on of facts though imo so this may all be rubbish

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mummyof2bunnies · 04/06/2008 22:09

wonderingwhy...i agree also i think it does for her go a little deeper..she openly says how she is not comfortable with breastfeeding.

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Oliveoil · 04/06/2008 22:09

well that is her problem then (to be blunt)

bubblerock · 04/06/2008 22:10

If my DS told me he had had someone elses breast milk at school I would go ballistic I'm afraid. It's someone elses bodily fluid - that is just vile!

morocco · 04/06/2008 22:13

if my ds told me he'd had someone elses bm, I'd go 'oh right dear' in a distracted way, same as 'I flew a plane today at school' and various other flights of fancy. he's only 5 1/2 though. do they get much more reliable by the age of 7?