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Disagreement with teacher, what should I do next?

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Mama81 · 27/01/2025 22:23

Hi mumsnet,
My youngest is age 7, in year 3. He is academically bright. We have never had behaviour issues, either at home, clubs or previous school years. In his current class we are constantly being phoned/called in because my son doesnt listen/ignores teacher/will not co operate. This went on from September until Christmas.
As parents we work full time but we took him out of breakfast club and after school club to see if this helped (it did not)
Over the last 2 weeks things have got worse- he has hit another child (my son said this child pushed him) 'laughs' at the teacher when asked to do something, has spent 2 whole afternoons in the head teachers office and has not been allowed to play football.
I suspect he is copying other children's behaviours, but I'm obviously not in the class room, so I'm never going to know for certain.
We have both had many discussions with the teacher but are not getting anywhere, in fact it's getting worse. The teacher is insisting there are no triggers, patterns or copying other children.
What should I do next?

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T1Dmama · 09/02/2025 13:19

It could be so many things:

is he sleeping enough?
is he being bullied?
Are your and DH relationship ok?
Is school challenging him academically?
Could he have ADHD?
Is he struggling with the change
from infants to the work getting progressively harder in year 3?! -

Whatever is happening you need to talk to your son and ask why he is being disruptive, if it is just him pushing boundaries and being naughty then I think you need to work with school to come up with appropriate consequences… no Xbox tv etc after school on the days he misbehaves… he needs consequences

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