Child strangled by another child, who's constantly attacking/provoking my child

[IkeSmile]

An incident in school where a child put his hand around another's child neck.
The victim is my child and this is just the latest attack on my child. He is regularly attacked or provoked by this other child. Puched off the stairs, twice in 5 days, ended up with marks; forcely blocked in the toilet, by the same child; called names, laughted at, threatened by the older sibling on the school premises, twice in the same day...and so on...and the school doesn't do anything.
"I exaggerated and I have something personal with the other child" the headteacher said before even listening and accused me of being ABUSIVE. The NSPCC gave me a ref no and I'll not stop till my child feels safeguarded by the school. Till now, he only said he feels not listened to, and the perpetrator is attacking other children aswell. The mother is passive aggressive towards me!

? If this happened to you, what were the results?
Tia

As we speak my son is at his 1st martial art lesson. Fingers crossed his confidence is going up from now on and will be able to make it stop, and I'll continue the legal fight.

Thank you for your input. My confidence in a better outcome is growing aswell. ♥️

THIS.

Unlike primary schools, There is a solid procedure for children under 10 assualting other kids under 10, and this counts for cyber bullying too. Phone the police , get a crime number and chase up.

www.gov.uk/child-under-10-breaks-law

Bkess him. I am so happy he got the courage to fight back. This is what my son needs now. 😊

I would report to police. Very dangerous.

@cantkeepawayforever All schools must have a complaints policy. It must be on the web site. Some include a form to fill in but others may not. However sending in an official complaint using the correct procedure means it must go through the process. Emails get lost!

Why should the victim be punished?

I think what is happening here us - potentially- a systematic failure from the school’s point of view in terms of observation, response and safeguarding.

In which case, it is appropriate to move schools because even if this specific perpetrator is dealt with, the weakness in the school’s processes is still there.

I think you should contact Prevent. This boy is learning this at home.

‘Prevent’ is - afaik - specifically in relation to terrorism (including radicalisation) rather than a general duty in relation to ‘those who might be being brought up in a way that may encourage them to bully others’.

I have encountered it in the anti-radicalisation form (specifically radical Islam), but not in the context of ‘general bullying behaviour’ or ‘peer on peer abuse’.

Quite prepared to be corrected if I’ve misunderstood or the scope has widened.

"Punished" ie removed from an unsafe environment where they are getting physically attacked? Okay then.

Go to school governors, if no joy, then LEA, if still not sorted got to OFSTED.

The governors can only respond to the official complaints policy. No governor can override this. It goes to the head to sort it out and then a governors’ panel if not satisfied. Governors do not run the school. They do monitor the effectiveness of behaviour and bullying policies. The school has a duty to keep dc safe. It’s not the prevent initiative, it’s safeguarding. So op could contact safeguarding lead in school. Look at the safeguarding policy for details. Bullying is child on child abuse. So use the safeguarding policy.

I’m sorry to hear this is happening to your child. The school needs to work with you to try and stop this poor behaviour. MN has a tendency to tell parents to go to the police/OFSTED/governors, all of which is the wrong advice. Governors are not ‘superiors’ and can’t tell the head what to do. They’re strategic leaders and are not involved in the day to day running of the school.

if you feel the school is not handling this case properly, then find the complaints policy and follow it. You’ll need to specify who you are complaining about, what your complaint is, and what the resolution should be. If the complaint is against the head, then some of the governors will become involved, within the processes in the complaints policy.

oh, and ‘threatening’ to take your child out, as someone suggested, won’t get you anywhere.The school will just move on and fill the place.

Good luck OP. Be calm and rational, and follow the policy and systems.

Incorrect advice. See above re governors. Local authority don’t investigate - they pass straight back to the school. OFSTED won’t do anything if school’s complaints policy hasn’t been followed.

I’m stating the route that we followed as advised and it was successful for us

Hello! The mother of the child who constantly bullied my child, said to someone a few months back that she dosen't give a sh it about what I say or do. She's passive aggressive towards me. She even texted me a long message when she heard that I complained saying that I should gather the facts before I tell everyone (which didn't happen, just the school was notified and she was by chance behind me that day) that her child is a bully. So many children are being hit by him, last Friday when my son’s backpacks strap was cut (by who-ai can only guess) was his most recent act of violence toward abkther child ...a slapped on the face so hard that all the playground heard. But still, nothing is done about the bully...we moan too much, to coat another parent....

How are things now @IkeSmile ? Just searching for advice and saw your situation, it sounds awful I hope the school have taken action

Hello!
We changed schools, exactly a month ago.
The results are amazing.
Already receiving weekly certificates for his achievements, (he was 1st in math and they stopped giving these certificates aswell, at the old school); selected out of 800 pupils, (to represent his school) for his 1st tennis tournament between the local schools, making friends, and loving school and homework again.
This would have been a dream but never a reality in the old school.
Old school surprised we'd found a school in such a short time, but we finally put all the bad things behind us.
I'm sure not everything is perfect, but with a school where we are listened to, we're finally happy.
I decided as many recommended here, to change school, and be happy.
We loved it, never had issues in his first tree years, but we had to leave.
Overall a really good pupil, that was loosing himself in the old school.
And what's most important, he doesn't regret it!

Amazing that is great news, sounds like he has settled so well 😀

800 pupils? At a state primary? Or private?

Write to governors copying Ofsted detailing all attacks and schools response.