Class teacher lied about discriminating me based on my health condition

[Survivormummy]

Hi,
I recently had a chat with the KS1 Lead who is also my child's class teacher. Amongst other things that were discussed regarding my son, I found her to be extremely judgemental and condescending to me whilst my son was also with me at the time during hometime. My child is currently 5 years old. I stated that I do have a mental health condition of anxiety and depression and she snapped back at me saying that "you shouldn't come to collect your son and get someone else to come as he can feed off your anxiety". My son also has faced abuse and witnessed domestic abuse from a young age and I believe he does have some form of anxiety. Thankfully we fled a couple of years ago from the perpetrator. But I found her remark highly offensive and distressing. I believe this is discrimination as the teacher has no right to tell me as a single parent with a disability that I cannot pick my son up and judge me. I stressed I have no one else to collect him. My dad sometimes offers to help but I will be the primary person coming to collect and drop my son off at school.
I had a meeting with the acting headteacher to discuss the inappropriate comment the class teacher stated and she said that she would look into it. I had a meeting with the head today and she told me that the class teacher was really upset and that she didn't say that all! This is a lie. The head teacher made me feel as though it was my fault that the class teacher felt really bad. Imagine how I must have felt when she was discriminating against me for having a mental health disability.
I told the head that the ks1 class teacher was lying. The head snapped and said that she wasn't there. So basically it's her word against mine. The school favoured the staff teacher over me which I found to be unfair and unjust. I don't know what to do. I can't even go to collect my son anymore as I am scared of seeing her. Are the school trying to cover their backs? They have an Ofsted inspection due next year. I was made to feel like I misunderstood the teacher and that due to my anxiety I was overwhelmed. This is false. I was to feel like I was the liar. I clearly heard what the teacher said. What shall I do? Shall I leave it? I have no other proof as it was just myself, the class teacher and my 5 year old son present. Leaving me in a vulnerable position. How will I believe anything the class teacher tells me in the future? How can I face her? Please can someone help? What shall I do?
Thanks in advance

Sadly parents own struggles affect how they relate to school staff and that will affect child.

Op ow do you come across to staff? How do you talk to them?

A friend of mine told the teacher about my anxiety (against my wishes) thinking that they would support in some way (I don’t know why they thought that). It was the worst thing they could have done. Even when it was controlled well with meds I was still patronised and dismissed. My child being bullied = nope, it’s your anxiety, my child being refused using the toilet = nope, didn’t happen, your anxiety. It was used to gaslight me.

So I do understand where you are coming from. People have little patience with people with an anxiety disorder and you do end up being gaslit about things. Some posters on your thread have sadly proved that.

You just have to accept it sadly. If you push back they will take it as further proof of your anxiety and won’t take you seriously.

No need to be so nasty yourself. I asked for clarification from the OP, as did others. This does not equate to "ganging up". If there is insufficient information then good quality advice cannot be given.

This, I think understanding why your anxiety and depression came up in conversation is important here

I'd be interested to know if OP is the person from the thread last week or the week before who had to sit in the car at picking up time because of her disability and send her 12 year old son to collect the younger child but the school said they could no longer allow it because they would only allow over 16s to do so.
Then the OP arranged with the school that she collect her child 15 minutes early from the school office.
I think there's a lot of backstory to this post and I suspect, though of course I could be wrong, that this is the same OP.
In which case I can see why the teacher might have "snapped" and suggested she find someone else to collect her son because it would seem like the situation isn't working for everyone and is possibly distressing too.

But I suspect the OP won't be back.