Teachers/TA’s social media and parents.

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

LyndaLaHughes · 10/12/2023 20:55

Certainly not allowed in my school or that of my children.

Wibblywobblylikejelly · 10/12/2023 20:57

I work in a school and while there is a social media policy that outline acceptable behaviour this is not mentioned. Loads of the staff are friends with the kids parents.

horseymum · 10/12/2023 21:02

I was friends with one of my kids teachers before he taught them. I don't discuss school on social media with him and rarely in person when I see him socially. I don't discuss things he posts on SM about his life outside school with my kids. I think you need to be adult about it. The problem is not really SM but favouritism.

Original poster

notahappybunny7 · 10/12/2023 21:05

horseymum · 10/12/2023 21:02

I was friends with one of my kids teachers before he taught them. I don't discuss school on social media with him and rarely in person when I see him socially. I don't discuss things he posts on SM about his life outside school with my kids. I think you need to be adult about it. The problem is not really SM but favouritism.

Being friends before is one thing, if those kids are then being favourited that is the link.

The TA in my child’s class has her own son in there and did last year too.

oh and her daughter( in another year) is the lead in the play and the soloist in the choir.

OP posts:

PostmansKnock · 10/12/2023 21:06

There is no rule about it at our school.

Usually TAs are from the area where the school is. And one of my friends lives next door to a child in her class. She's not thrilled it has to be said.

weefella · 10/12/2023 21:07

At our school the support staff are to be friends with parents on social media as it's a small community. They're not allowed to post anything relating to their job though. Even posting that they'd had a rough day at work would be a big no-no.

Favouritism would not be tolerated. What exactly is happening to make you think that the staff have favourites?

StrictlyJowita · 10/12/2023 21:08

oh and her daughter( in another year) is the lead in the play and the soloist in the choir.

And you think that the children of TAs are untalented buffoons?

Original poster

notahappybunny7 · 10/12/2023 21:10

weefella · 10/12/2023 21:07

At our school the support staff are to be friends with parents on social media as it's a small community. They're not allowed to post anything relating to their job though. Even posting that they'd had a rough day at work would be a big no-no.

Favouritism would not be tolerated. What exactly is happening to make you think that the staff have favourites?

Make me think?! Seriously? Ok well same kids picked for every activity, after school club, play, certificates?? Same parents doing all school trips etc. I’m not blind or stupid, it’s blatantly obvious.

OP posts:

Sherrystrull · 10/12/2023 21:11

notahappybunny7 · 10/12/2023 20:54

Are there rules in your school about being friends with parents on social media?
At the school my daughter attends there’s a huge amount of staff, mainly TA’s also some teachers who are friends with a lot of parents, it’s a small town and I imagine it’s unavoidable but given the children of those parents are also favourited it does leave a bad taste.

However my friend has let me know she is also friends with the staff at her daughter’s school too. She didn’t know any of them before her daughter went there and Lo and behold, her kid is also the favourite.

surely they should be rules on this sort of thing in this day and age??

What makes you think that child is the favourite?

weefella · 10/12/2023 21:12

The TA in my child’s class has her own son in there and did last year too.

oh and her daughter( in another year) is the lead in the play and the soloist in the choir.

At our school no member of staff is in the same class as their own child. That wouldn't be fair on either of them. Equally, no TA has any say on which child is in their class.

If the daughter can sing well and is able to also project their voice when speaking, that would explain why they have both of those roles. A different story obviously if they can't hold a tune and barely speak above a whisper.

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 10/12/2023 21:13

notahappybunny7 · 10/12/2023 21:10

Make me think?! Seriously? Ok well same kids picked for every activity, after school club, play, certificates?? Same parents doing all school trips etc. I’m not blind or stupid, it’s blatantly obvious.

Show quote history

'Picked' for after school club? Don't you just book and pay?

Original poster

notahappybunny7 · 10/12/2023 21:14

weefella · 10/12/2023 21:12

The TA in my child’s class has her own son in there and did last year too.

oh and her daughter( in another year) is the lead in the play and the soloist in the choir.

At our school no member of staff is in the same class as their own child. That wouldn't be fair on either of them. Equally, no TA has any say on which child is in their class.

If the daughter can sing well and is able to also project their voice when speaking, that would explain why they have both of those roles. A different story obviously if they can't hold a tune and barely speak above a whisper.

Yes a member of staff is in class with her own son and second year too. That should be a huge no right?

and the daughter is ok but there’s no reason she should have both roles , even if she’s the next Kate Winslet(which she isn’t)

OP posts:

QuillBill · 10/12/2023 21:15

Make me think?! Seriously? Ok well same kids picked for every activity, after school club, play, certificates?? Same parents doing all school trips etc. I’m not blind or stupid, it’s blatantly obvious.

Perhaps you have sent your kids to a shit school.

Every school play
Every activity
Every after school club
Every certificate

to the same children? And your child has never had a certificate or been to a club.

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 10/12/2023 21:15

And re parents on school trips most schools struggle I'd think to find parents available to attend school trips in work day!

Original poster

notahappybunny7 · 10/12/2023 21:16

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 10/12/2023 21:13

'Picked' for after school club? Don't you just book and pay?

Show quote history

No, there’s lots of classes and clubs paid for by school, you put your name down and they’re picked out of a hat, apparently

OP posts:

Original poster

notahappybunny7 · 10/12/2023 21:17

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 10/12/2023 21:15

And re parents on school trips most schools struggle I'd think to find parents available to attend school trips in work day!

Our school is inundated with volunteers, not everybody does a traditional 9-5!!!

OP posts:

cariadlet · 10/12/2023 21:17

Our rules are that we can't be friends with pupils or former pupils.

No rules about staff being friends on social media with parents. It wouldn't be practical as the children of teachers and TAs often go to our school so parents may be real life friends of members of staff.

WhatHaveIDone21 · 10/12/2023 21:17

@notahappybunny7 I teach in the school my DC attend and have taught them both. I have actually had the opposite experience - my DC were not chosen for lots of things in case it looked like favouritism to other parents.

WhereIsBebèsChambre · 10/12/2023 21:18

notahappybunny7 · 10/12/2023 21:16

No, there’s lots of classes and clubs paid for by school, you put your name down and they’re picked out of a hat, apparently

Show quote history

Must be a wealthy school when you keep hearing how so many are struggling even for pencils etc!

Lemondrizzleicecream · 10/12/2023 21:18

No rules here about it. All 11 of the TA's and all admin staff at our local primary school are mums of the pupils and therefore friends of other parents.

The jobs were advertised via the school FB page and therefore only attracted parents of the children who attend. it's all a bit weird tbh!

weefella · 10/12/2023 21:19

Same parents doing all school trips etc.

A parent with experience of helping out on school trips is much more likely to get picked. They will already know the protocol and will have shown that they can follow the rules.

I've seen parents treat trips as an extra day out with their own child, using their own phones to take photos of the class, and generally causing more work than if they hadn't gone at all. Not saying this is you of course, but sometimes it's a case of just picking someone who has a track record of doing what is asked of them.

Original poster

notahappybunny7 · 10/12/2023 21:19

QuillBill · 10/12/2023 21:15

Make me think?! Seriously? Ok well same kids picked for every activity, after school club, play, certificates?? Same parents doing all school trips etc. I’m not blind or stupid, it’s blatantly obvious.

Perhaps you have sent your kids to a shit school.

Every school play
Every activity
Every after school club
Every certificate

to the same children? And your child has never had a certificate or been to a club.

Yes they have but not as frequently, and the most popular clubs-when they’re announced you know whether you’ve a chance or not!

OP posts:

Lemondrizzleicecream · 10/12/2023 21:19

No, there’s lots of classes and clubs paid for by school, you put your name down and they’re picked out of a hat, apparently that's how it works in our city too.

Original poster

notahappybunny7 · 10/12/2023 21:20

weefella · 10/12/2023 21:19

Same parents doing all school trips etc.

A parent with experience of helping out on school trips is much more likely to get picked. They will already know the protocol and will have shown that they can follow the rules.

I've seen parents treat trips as an extra day out with their own child, using their own phones to take photos of the class, and generally causing more work than if they hadn't gone at all. Not saying this is you of course, but sometimes it's a case of just picking someone who has a track record of doing what is asked of them.

Wouldn’t know, not had the chance! Although I can say it’s definitely the more working class parents who’ve never been chosen for a trip.

OP posts:

Original poster

notahappybunny7 · 10/12/2023 21:21

Lemondrizzleicecream · 10/12/2023 21:19

No, there’s lots of classes and clubs paid for by school, you put your name down and they’re picked out of a hat, apparently that's how it works in our city too.

I think the trick is to not keep putting the same old names in this magic hat

OP posts: