sen and one to one

[Chilena2022]

my son is 4 years old and at the moment I need to home educated him because the school can’t meet his needs and they ask me to be his one to one until they get funding. I refused to be his one to one and I am not sending him to school.
This morning the headteacher said if I don’t send my child to school they will remove his name.
I really lost about what this schools wants?
and it is normal for parents of sen children to be asked to be their one to one of the children until they get funding?

Can anyone help you? Do you know anybody who is a teacher maybe? It seems to me like you don't fully understand what's going on here, and how to standup for you child. This isn't your fault, it's because the whole system is so awful.

I mean this very kindly, I don't think they understand.

I get it's really difficult @Chilena2022 but the reality is you are going to be challenging schools and fighting for your child for the next fifteen years at least. (Dd is 19 and the next appeal is in)
Did you contact IPSEA or SOSSEN or SENDIAS? They can support you and even get advocates to attend meetings with you?
Have you requested a EHC needs assessment? There really isn't any alternative you have to fight.
Check whether you are entitled to Legal Aid to get support with the EHCP process but that won't help until you make the request.
I know you are overwhelmed and scared but you have to do this. If you are on Facebook Educational Equality, SEND Family Instincts and Sunshine Support are trusted groups that will help.

i have already a school in another place, maybe in there will be better. I don’t know what to do.

Do you mean DS has a place in another school? That’s surprisingly quick considering Wednesday evening you posted you needed to start to look for a new school.

It’s wrong for posters to encourage you to leave your child at school when you’ve been told for a fact that they can’t cope with him. They shouldn’t be doing what they are doing, but they can’t magic up the extra adult needed to keep your child and others children safe.

Youve mentioned that they asked you to do it for a week, and that they will have a TA available but she’s sick right now, so if your son’s needs are that significant that they genuinely can’t keep the children safe, I can’t see why it’s so unreasonable for them to ask you to step in to help.

All the advice you’ve had to get in touch with various organisations that can help is really important though. Sadly you will have to fight to get your son the right provision, even though you shouldn’t have to.

It’s wrong for posters to encourage you to leave your child at school when you’ve been told for a fact that they can’t cope with him. They shouldn’t be doing what they are doing, but they can’t magic up the extra adult needed to keep your child and others children safe.

No it’s not wrong. The school need to follow correct procedure, not illegally exclude. OP’s DS is entitled to attend school full time unless he is formally excluded. By keeping her DS at home and allowing the school to illegally exclude the support OP’s DS needs will take longer to secure than if he was in school. The school could also apply for an EHCNA and high needs top up funding in the meantime.

It won’t just be for one week, the OP posted they are telling her one thing and putting in writing/telling the LA another. A common problem.

You are talking about posters who have had years of experience in how schools and LAs behave unlawfully whilst children with SEND are discriminated against and left without an education.
The school can't have it both ways if they can't manage the child without support then they need to get the funding from the LA to ensure they can manage. They don't get to prevent attendance whilst they fanny about telling the LA a different tale to what is actually happening.
The school could go through the lawful process and formally exclude the child so his mother would have to take him home. They won't because of the unfavourable statistics when Ofsted come calling might mess up their rating.
The school could have secured an agency TA once they were aware of the TA's apparent sickness again they could have got their finger out and secured emergency funding in this instance.
Instead they have unlawfully excluded a child and coerced the mother to act as unpaid support against her wishes.

The Ta was not sick, I don’t think was any Ta at all. it is not my fault the school does not have funding and my son is not so bad because he was in nursery without support. He can be aggressive with he get upset but most all the time he is playing nicely. I can go to the park perfectly because he is behaving properly.
he got very upset when he can’t do it what he wants to do or he does not like to wait for a long time like in Legoland.

I went yesterday to the meeting and they want me to do this until the half term, I told me I am not doing it anymore because what they ask mr it is not moral or very legal.
One mum has been doing this for the last 6 months until they daughter gets the funding for his one to one.

It's completely ridiculous, the school have the option to apply for funding whilst the EHCP is secured. In our LA it would be called TAPS or GRIP funding but that name may be specific to our LA and could be called something different in your LA. You should make a formal complaint to the school copying in the Inclusion department at the LA.