You helped your child to get into a good school. Unfortunately good schools have a habit of attracting the pushy parents or pushy mother's. These people are always looking around to see who their little darling is competing against. They don't like it when their little darling is not tops at everything.
I have a friend who's 2 children are good in primary school and good at sport. She has another child going into secondary school.
She has encouraged them to work hard and do their best. In regards to sport has told them it good to take part and that they might not always win but to wish the winner well.
At the moment she has a pushy mother's in one of her son's classes and she avoids her as much as possible. This child's mother is pushing her son in school and expects him to get high grades. She is doing the same at football and her son is not naturally good at sport. Everything for her is about winning and meanwhile her son is miserable when he does not win or do well in exam's. He is not a happy child and has not got many friends either.
My friend decided not to send her eldest to the local secondary school because it not a good school, has poor management and it offers very little extra circular activities. She applied for and got a place in the best secondary school a few miles away. She told 2 close friends that she was going to do this as one of her friends already had a child in school and the other lady would not tell people of my friends plan's. The pushy mother said to her was X looking for to starting in the local secondary next year? My friend told her then he was not going their but was going to Y a few miles away. Pushy mother was not happy to hear this because she knows it's a hard school to get into and it has better results than the local school.
The majority of these pushy parents can't accept their child might not always be top at everything. Some kids are not brilliant in school but can be good at practical subjects, art or music. Then as kids they have no time to play or spend time with friends because every afternoon they have some activity/class/grinds to attend.
So pushy parents then get them to do certain subjects for A level and push them towards certain courses. If the child gets into the course they might drop out because they are not able for it or don't like it. When they get away from home they go mad with going out, drinking ect because they had no life at home and then fail all their exam's. Another thing that can happen is that the adult child ends up having a breakdown or mental health problems.
The reality is for a lot of these pushy parents and in some cases the mother's seem to want their child to have the life they never had. They forgot their child is not them and have their own personality, interests and talent's.
I know a couple who are now in their late 70s and were pushy parents. 3 of their kids were bright and good in school but their other child was more into art, music and photography.
They pushed him towards college and he dropped out. He drifted along, got different jobs and now he is the only adult child with free time to help them during the week. The other kids visit and help them at weekends.
Another couple I know had a very pushy mother with a few children. One of her kids was nearly expelled from a boarding school because they went out one night with a few friends and it was in the school rules this was not allowed. Pushy mother then blamed the other students for leading her X to do this. She pushed her kids towards college and various things after college just to say what they were doing in college and how well they were doing later on. One of son's lives near them but the rest of the kids are further away and don't call to see them to much. 2 of their adult children are in Australia and have no plans to come home. The father has a few friends and interests and he goes to things. Meanwhile his wife has very few friends because who wants to be asked about their kids and then told about pushy mother's fabulous kids and about how great they are doing. In fact this woman is such a pain I have seen people cross the road or go in the opposite direction just to avoid her.
These people are now elderly. I know they don't have great relationships with their now adult kids because of the mother pushing them.
I would just wait and see what the other parents are like. Just say as little as possible to the pushy mother's because they remember everything and will comment when in their eyes your child is not as brilliant as there's. Don't get involved with bringing your child to every sports, music, ect thing they are bringing their kids to. Kids need time to be kids and to play with friends. They need to do an extra circular activities because it a useful skills to have or it something they enjoy. As well as that long term you want happy well adjusted kids that can cope if things don't always go their way. Then if your kid is happy they should do as well they can in school and as adults also.
You wanted to get your child into a good school so long term they would get a good education and have more options re college and careers when they are older. I would not be listening to or getting involved with the pushy mommy gang because long term it won't be good for you or your child.