@Elisheva
It's why Chinese schools are so different, because they have to teach by sight-recognition
Chinese children start to read Mandarin using a system of phonics called Pinyin before moving on to learning the characters.
Some children, for whatever reason, don't do well with phonics at 4, 5 or 6. In many cases this results in them feeling failures, feeling stupid and sometimes other kids telling them they are stupid. They hate being "taken out" of their class and missing things the other kids are doing. This is the experience I had with GS.
But this isn’t because there’s something ‘wrong’ with phonics or something ‘wrong’ with your gs. He wasn’t taught properly in the first place, which led to him feeling like a failure etc. And then it was apparently left to you to sort it out as the school did not know how to support a child who was having difficulty reading which, when you think about it, is shocking.
As an aside, I am honoured that the theory that everyone uses phonics to read is being attributed to me. I might have to ask for a pay rise 😁
It isn't about phonics being wrong or needing to defend it. It is about a child learning to read. In my GSs case 28 children in his class did fine, two of them didn't and they were, and still are, bright boys in fact they are in higher sets at the local comp than many of the children who did well with phonics.
I don't think there is anything to gain in blaming the teacher, she seemed very good with the children, the vast majority did well. I think the significant point was probably that they were both young in the year and wanted to play so they either weren't ready to engage or chose not to engage and so the others moved on and they were left behind.
Being bright boys in Y1 they became very aware of that, I swapped notes with the other family and the stories are very similar. They started being taken out of the class for the extra phonics. They hated it, to them it was a mark of shame, they also hated missing what the class was doing which looked more fun. It didn't help that they didn't like the woman who did the extra phonics. The block was there, it wasn't phonics fault but it was a fact.
Both sets of parents followed school advice, no tutoring, not doing anything at home that wasn't the same as school. As they entered year 3 both families were despondent, one choose to engage a tutor who specialised in helping children with a similar issue. In my GSs case I was the designated helper.
Both boys came on in leaps and bounds, they were happy, the extra phonics stopped, they were even happier. The school was happy, extra phonics had fixed it but it hadn't had it. The issue wasn't phonics the issue was their confidence and their willingness to engage. I actually think they were being sacrificed on the altar of phonics but they managed to get free. Obviously they cracked phonics on the way but for them it wasn't the starting point.
It is the story of two bright, lovely boys and reading and it has a happy ending. I'm not sure about the other boy but my GS is an avid reader, his favourite subject is philosophy and he reads books that A level students at his school study, he reads them for fun.
Don't you think that sometimes it is worth considering a restart with a different approach?