Daughter's teacher called her a numpty

[Ottermum23]

Hi all,
We have a lovely little daughter, in year3.
She is a very enthusiastic learner, who always loved school and loves academic challenges.
This year, she had a new teacher, who is not the nicest, but nevertheless, We thought, just give her the benefit of a doubt.
Our girl been contstantly saying, that the teacher shouts, and today, she said, she called her a numpty, as she accidentally started to do her writing on someone else's book.

I find this very frustrating and just would like to hear others opinions.
Thank you.

That was my understanding of tiger mum too.

I think the OP has confused it with the lioness thing which sometimes get mentioned in here.

Ha, I didn't know what "tiger mum" was, so googled.

"Tiger parenting is strict or demanding parenting. Tiger parents push and pressure their children to attaining high levels of scholastic and academic achievement, using authoritarian parenting methods."

exactly opposite of op, I think.

Oh fuck SoyDora

Good grief User, the longer this thread goes on, the more ridiculous your pronouncements are getting

Some posters here have been incredibly patient with you.

"Some posters here have been incredibly patient with you."

Very true.

Amusing how "User" didn't come back when asked for research.

They did the same on another thread when asked something they couldn't answer.

It is isn’t it! Someone’s found the “hide thread” button and isn’t afraid to use it...

Why would I want to out myself in such a very hostile environment, ProfessorMoody?

I was glad to help the OP feel more secure about her judgement that name calling has no place in a professional relationship or classroom.

I don’t think anyone was requiring it to be your own research User

ha! user is such a card on the threads I've seen them on recently. No EI, no ability to read the room, just total pursuit of hearing their own voice

I was glad to help the OP feel more secure about her judgement that name calling has no place in a professional relationship or classroom

In your opinion.

*I still think though that name calling is inappropriate and... unprofessional.”

That’s the penultimate post by the OP.

MN is not a party where you need to read the room and follow the herd. It’s a place people raise questions they are looking for answers to.

no one said it was. It’s also not a place where you can state your opinions as though they are fact, with nothing to back them up, and expect everyone to say ‘ah of course you’re right. You profess to be an expert and therefore you must be’.

There are all sorts of people claiming to have expertise in this thread and who are shouting down ideas that they’ve never heard before, just because they are new.

OP it isn't just about your DD. My DS has ASD and at that age might have been quite upset at another child writing in his book. The teacher role-modelling that it is a silly mistake and using a lighthearted name would give him a cue that actually, it's no biggie and nothing to be worried about. There are usually at least two people in every interaction.

It is good to signal to children that mistakes are often unimportant. It is crucial not to stress children.

Name calling is potentially a big stressor. Teachers need to use other techniques to alllow students to move on quickly from mistakes.

And how would you suggest teacher to do that, user, in this scenario, rather than make it light hearted and laugh it off?

The teacher can make it light hearted and laugh it off! That’s ideal. It’s the name calling that is the problem.

who are shouting down ideas that they’ve never heard before, just because they are new

They’d probably be less inclined to shout them down if you could point us in the direction of some research?
And just because these ‘ideas’ exist, it doesn’t mean they are true.

However, an explanation is always best. It doesn’t have to be laborious or patronizing but it’s always important to be sure a child knows why certain behaviors are expected.

Yes, but by yr3, most of children know why writing in someone else's book is wrong. Doesn't that make the child who made a mistake feel even worse, and make the other child feel upset, by acknowledging someone did something wrong to you? Counter productive much?

I’m not trying to pretend that managing classrooms is easy. But there are some things that are red lines that mustn’t be crossed when talking to children in a professional context, and name calling is one of them. None of us know exactly what happened to the OP’s child and to hypothesize as to how to remedy the situation is beyond the realms of possibility. But whatever the teacher should have done, name calling was not part of it.

Again, user1499173618, you are presenting your opinion as fact without any research to back it up.
I’m going to give up asking for any links to research now, as it’s not forthcoming. It just means that I will take your opinion as just that... an opinion.

How many children of people on this thread have been stressed by their teacher calling them a numpty, silly sausage etc?

I await the deluge of replies.