3+ 4+ 5+ 7+ support thread 2018

[mumteacher]

In previous years I have started these threads to help and support all those involved in the independent school admissions process.

I wasn't going to start one this year as I know I would not be able to check back on it as regularly as I would like, which then defeats the purpose of the thread.

However, after numerous positive PM's about the threads I think it would be a shame not to start one where at least the hand holding can continue.

There are many many people who have been through the process and 'live to tell the tale' . There are also other tutors I know who read this thread and it would be great if you all could help and support and share your ideas👏🏼

(Roll on 2018!) 😉

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/primary/2783435-3-4-5-7-support-thread-2017

Mama bear no cutting at 3+

Mumteacher thanks for the great thread(s). Could you give any insight to the difference between Highgate and UCS at 7+ and how to find a tutor? What to look for?

Thank you mumteacher. Any things i could do or should focus on with those schools?

Crikey MumDad...maybe now is the time to walk away? This thread is really helpful to others and you're singlehandedly derailing it.

@Shiggle yes sorry!

Hi, Sorry if this sounds like a trivial question but what are the key differences between the 3+ and 4+ assessments? What skills or knowledge should a 4 year old have that he/she does not yet have at 3? Thank you.

@mumteacher what exactly is Habs girls looking for ? What is the main
Difference between nlcs girls and Habs girls

@mamabear1719

When DD sat 3+ St h she told me she was asked to colour in a picture, no drawing, was asked to write her name, no scissors, they were read a story in a group, she did a puzzle, and lots of physical activities indoors. She said no reading either. She only made the reserve list and feedback from the head was that the physical side was the only area where her scores were low.

Hope that’s helpful. Good luck x

Thank you @fitnessfanatic108 for your help

Does anyone knows how many girls could be there for 7+ assessment at NlCS being that there are only 8 to 10 places available. And how would teachers find and best from the lot?

Mumdad999 that is a lot of bitterness!
We don't really know mumteacher in real life but I have spoken to her once. She spent time explaining the three options that were available. She seemed to have a lot of experience and did give us some great tips.
We moved house, had another baby and so didn't end up tutoring.

Mumdad999 I think the below is what you're talking about. This was an article featured in the Harrow times this week

www.harrowtimes.co.uk/news/15696828.Ofsted_notes_nursery___s_impressive_upturn_in_fortunes/

@Lovetea1 yes there is bitterness! But only because she chose to swing a shot on a forum.
Please note she took a dig at what I'm doing with my child. I did not ask her for anything.
I'd like to see what parent would not respond when someone takes a dig at their child or their parenting.

As respect for others this is derailing the purpose of this forum. Let's move on

@MumDad999 to me it seems like you’ve taken a pop at @mumteacher , not vice versa, given that you know that she’s a tutor yet on her thread you mention the sanity of your child in relation to “tutoring”. Using people and then disrespecting them is not cool. You went to her as a tutor, didn’t like the feedback on your child (despite her plethora of knowledge) and then you say that you’d rather maintain your child’s sanity than go down the tutoring route. You can have a sane child that has been tutored to get into a top tier school.... without that child losing their sanity. Seems like you can’t hack a bit of feedback from an experienced tutor who has been through the system and seen hundreds of children (and their parents 🙄) countless times. Trying to discredit mumteacher on this thread is a low punch given the amount of people she helps.

And sorry, yes, should move on but felt needed to say something as I am very grateful to this thread and mumteachers help

@Fitnessfanatic108

1. I was talking about a choice I made about tutoring my child. A decision we had debated. Not a dig at anyone. I also went on to say respect to people who do it.. we are all trying to do our best by our kids.

2. The feedback you refer to was wrong and my son got in to MT. So I fail to see how there is any credibility.

3. Re read the thread I did not throw a punch. She did. With the sarcy comment.

I have no issue with tutoring it was not right for my child. Each child and parent to there own.

I hate to keep responding to this as people have respectfully asked to move on. But I'm not going to keep quiet when internet trolls want to take a dig.

The 3-4-5-7 threads have been such an exciting enjoyable read IN THE PAST. Momdad, you’ve single handedly ruined 2018’s thread.

@Christmascardqueen sorry

Usually a bi stander
But this thread is ridiculous.
I've got my kids assessments coming up and would love the feedback and the opportunity to exchange ideas.

MumDad999 has multiple times apologised and tried to move on and people keep bringing it back!

For the love of god can everyone please move on!!!!

I'm having my child tutored that is my choice!

Less then 4 weeks to go for the assessments. I for one is very nervous! My daughter is cutting everything but our curtains at home.

Writing her name is an absolute nightmare. The b looks like a 6 and the y looks like a h! Lord help her!

Jigsaws a bit better... but worried we are over doing it!

I noted someone talked about there child being shy... we have exactly the same problem. A parent at nlcs told me they have child psychologist in the room? Is that true or just a rumour?

I have been very harsh on my girl since the beginning of the year. Her school called her below average in reseption. She finds easy thing difficult and difficult things easy. For example: doing 1 less is difficult for her but 15 less is easy. I am very stressed out already and now she has been sick with fever since 3 days. I can't make her work when she is sick. She would make all possible excuses not do are routine work. And more to add in a mix have a new baby. I has been successful in getting some sleep in the beginning but now she is giving me sleepless nights. My DD has told me several times that she hate me when we do practice. But in the end of section she would say "you are the best mummy in the world". As all agree we all are doing what is best for our kids. Does anyone is facing similar problem if you do then please share so I know that I am not alone. Thanks for mentioning about child phycologist mumOf3toB. So is there any child phycologist?

@Matupatlu she is appling for 7+

Sunlight I feel your pain! I'm due first week in Feb with baby number 3! All the assessments in Jan so hoping baby number 3 stays in, I will not be nesting until the assessments are over!

The counting numbers thing, is that her playing up or genuinely can't do it. Sounds from your post she has the technique and can apply?

I asked my daughter to draw a red circle around number 19 today. She drew a black square intentionally