What can be done WWYD dc left out of friendship grp in class for 4th year running?

[MintJulip]

Usually, they split classes, but for last three years they are not going too, in spite of for other years telling us how crucial this is. They shook up classes a few years ago and the way the cookie crumbled left DD to be the only one out of a group of four - in the other class.

Some said the would look at this going into year 4 but she was left out again as they didnt change class - we really hoped this year they would move class so she had a chance of being with at least ONE of the other three and yet again they have left class the same.

what can I expect? WWYD. I would say - just move her into the other class! Easy Peasy but as usual - things are never so simple are they.

Have other year groups in the school been jumbled in the years since your dd's has not? In other words, is the default position of the school still to mix, or is it something that they've altered recently - to leave well alone unless there's a particular reason to re-mix (which, as others have said, is a complete and utter pain in the arse to organise and always leads to a queue of parents outside the Head's office waiting to complain). My school used to do it quite frequently, but has since stopped even with one particular 'unbalanced' year group from hell.

Or, could it possibly be the case that one of the other girls' parents has specifically asked for them to be kept apart from yours? I heard of this happening once, with one set of parents desperate for two boys to be put together, and the other set saying 'no way.'

bangingmyheadoffabrickwall

What a ridiculous post

Did you miss the wonderful posts listing all the nuances of dc being in a class with their friends. holding hands with her friends
My DD has stood on her own two feet away from her closest friends for years now. Of course she can but why should she, year in and year out when the OTHERS ARE KEPT TOGETHER.

She is 9, was 8,7,6 why on earth should she year in and year out fall foul of the mixing or not mixing.

I find your post staggeringly patronizing, of course she will have to forge new friendships in secondary school but guess what - she will be older then! And - so many DC will be in the SAME BOAT.

Sorry if this is harsh, but it to me, this is YOU feeding her anxieties and worries

How is that? I am sorry to be harsh but I cant believe you wasted so much of your time on this earth writing such utter drivel.

Bear in mind that, even if they had have re-mixed the classes, your dd might still not have ended up with her friends.

I think people are going to be put off after that tirade.

I know you are anxious. If you want sympathy, you've got it. Others are trying to help you gain maybe a different perspective. Some of them have been where you are, or have worked in schools.

If you reject those different perspectives then you have two choices - try and talk to the Head again (doubt it will work, from what you've said) or move your DD to another school