Moving to the UK, how far behind will my child be?

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My son is 5 has had no formal education of any kind as compulsory school doesn't start here for another couple of years.
He can recognizes numbers to about 10 but no letters or words, he knows English as we are a bilingual family but I'm sure his use will be far behind that of his peers.
potty training wise he is in pullups, still using them to poop, but okay for wee, he should be okay at school in underpants, what happens when he has an accident?
What should a 5 year old know to 'fit in' with other children of the same age in the uk?

Do you need or want your son to start school immediately on arrival? If not, you could delay his start for a bit while he gets used to his new surroundings, improves his English and gets to grips with toileting. There would be less pressure that way.

Home education is not tightly regulated here, so you can prioritise whichever skills he most needs and send him to school when you feel he is ready.

I am going to use today to explain to him that when we move home he will be going to grown up school and they need him to be out of pulups and in underpants. I will buy him lots of underpants to practice with when we are ready to start.

Saracen I'd like him to make friends and i don't know enough about English schooling to give him a similar education to other children, it's an area with not much confidence on my part.

If you take his pull-ups off how likely is he to have accidents?
He only really needs to be clean and dry in the 6 hours he's at school. IF you can start with timed toilet visits it might actually turn out better than expected.

Is there anything you can use as a reward?

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This is a great website called reading eggs that would help get him up to speed. We used it with dd in reception and year 1 when she was struggling with grasping her reading etc and it really helped

just be firm with him re the pull ups / poo.
my dd3 had a pull up on at night til at least age 4, she would wait for it to be put on and then poo.
she would still be doing it now age 6 if i had let her.

Legally children need to be in full time education the term following their 5th Birthday. So for your ds that would have been January 2017.

I wouldn't worry at all. It's much better to start school later. I home edded and flexi-schooled my 4 dcs and didn't teach them to read until they were really ready and so found it easy. They were all round about 6.
Your ds will soon catch up.
Moving countries will be a massive change for you all. Don't put him.under any pressure.
However, I do agree that Reading Eggs is a good scheme, but only if your ds is enjoying it.

SuperRainbows forgive the question but what is Flexi-schooled?

I try not to put him under pressure but he will be so far behind his peers that I'm worried for him to catch up.

Thank you for the Reading eggs link milkysmum this looks like it goes to the very basic steps i need to start my son on English.

It's an American programme so doesn't really match Methods used in English schools

Thank you for informing of of this. It's very confusing to distinguish between the two for me.

I think from what i understand looking at the lists and targets provided his math is at a 4 year old level and his literacy will be at 3 year old level.

So i will be looking for resources on these lines.

I'm unsure where to start with the potty, i don't want to put force on him too much.

I agree with those saying focus on toileting rather than anything else- he'll pick it all up really quick once he's immersed in it every day.

Check with the doctor,but I would throw away the pull ups completely and put him in underwear from now on- lots of praise and chat about not needing them any more etc,just clean up with minimal fuss if there is an accident.

Is there anything you can use as a reward?

He has never seen the seaside and wants to go when we get to the UK.

Thank you DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen

Wrt rewards I would go for small immediate rewards such as stickers, chocolate buttons (!) comics and the like. He needs to see immediate rewards for doing as he's asked.

You need to help him anticipate when he needs to go and prompt him. Think of the cues - tummy pain, wind, behavioural, time of day.

Thank you for the advice.

Good luck, I am sure all will be well.

I will be very closely watch him for patterns over a few days LIZS and see for signs he may have.

Please try not to panic, he will catch up very quickly.

When my ds was wearing a nappy/pullups, he always had certain expression on his face and stops doing whatever he was doing when he needed poo. It was very easy to tell.

Go get underpants with your ds and let him choose. He might get motivated to wear them if it's his favorite ones.

CBeebies programme alphablocks is fab for engaging phonics. I would also search mumsnet for threads about kids that will only poo in a nappy even when toilet trained for wee. We had this with DD1 and she got horribly constipated rather than poo in the toilet. We did get it sorted in the end but it was a long road and took some sensible advice from health visitor.

Thank you. i am spending some time closely watch him for signs that he needs to go, so far i have not noticed a sign, his wind doesn't seem to indicate a bowel movement and he doesn't hide to poo.

queen where are you that a NT child isn't toilet trained? just curious?