Parents Evening last night and came away feeling like crap

[Karenhibbert2]

I had my parents evening last night for my 4 year old who started Reception in September, I came away feeling like a failed parent. I'm not sure if the school is expecting to much or indeed my child is behind, but for a summer born 4 year old to be able to write 1-10 and add and subtract one from numbers (Writing the number not just visual which she can do) and write words like Cat, Dog etc too much???
She does not have full hand motor skills yet so I don't expect her to be even able to write properly yet? So when the teacher said that by the end of the school year they expect her to be writing sentences, again I was surprised.

My daughter can count 1-20 and add and subtract 1 verbally and knows all her phonic sounds and can pronounce words like MAT, CAT, BAT, DOG, FROG etc and easily reconize them and write some letters and also knows all her 2D shapes (Square, Triangle, circle,oval etc) but they are expecting her to now know 3D shapes!

Are the School asking to much as my feeling was all they really care about are their KPI's and not learning at my daughter's pace.

Please let me know your thoughts, as at the moment I really want to write something on the feedback report other than Bugger off I will home school her!

Mrz, I agree it's sad, but I think it's actually true sometimes.
Not all the teachers can see/do as you do, and instead of suggesting fun ways to improve fine motor skills, some may just make the children practice writing.

I agree children love learning. But it varies what they want to learn. Some may not show interest in books or writing or maths when they are 4.

I really wanted ds to learn musical instrument when he was younger, but he wasn't interested. Last year he said he wanted to learn to play piano. He practice everyday without fail. If I forced him when he was younger, it could have been a complete different story.

I feel sorry for teachers getting too much pressure for targets, and for children who are forced to learn something when they are not physically and mentally/emotionally ready. I thought reception in England is more like kindergarten in other countries, but now seems to be changing into something more like actual school.

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When DS was 7 he struggled to write his own name. This year he has a fab teacher who is more concerned with having him enjoy school and love learning than she is handwriting. It's all falling into place now. We did loads of motor skills and hand-eye stuff that was fun. Forming letters in sand and gooey-stuff are suggested. You'll find loads of ideas on-line e.g. Pinterest. Don't let teacher bother you.

I don't see the issue. Your dd is clearly doing fine, verbally but needs some work on fine motor skills. The point of reception is to develop them as rounded individuals not just to read, write and learn sums. That's surely what the teacher is doing?