I think what it highlights most, regardless of whether sticker or reward systems are appropriate or not in schools, is that there is a complete lack of understanding between parents with 'able' kids, and those parents with kids with disabilities
I actually have both, so I do get it. I get that it can seem like some children are not 'recognised'. but even before I knew I had a child with autism, I could see that those who struggled more to achieve the basics, should have more recognition. We give medals to those who run marathons, not those who walk to the corner shop.
I expect I'll also be flamed like every other poster who has little or no understand of SN children, but please try and Help us to understand more, as opposed to posting diddums, does you child feel left out, would you like a dash of autism so you don't feel left out That is shocking, and doesnt help anyone understand better^
I found the post that was in response to shocking.
Parents of dc with sn are not saints - we're just normal people who got a deal of cards which was unfair and harder than most, but we are expected not only to deal with extra difficulties for us and our children, with virtually no support from the 'state' in most cases, without complaining, but on top of that we must be educators to the rest of society. It's bloody knackering. No wonder sometimes, as just mere mortals like the rest of you, we sometimes get fucking fed up of having to be the calm one all the time. Life is hard enough
It's when the petulant attitude of "s'not fair, they get treats and my children don't, wah" rears it's head again and again, even after a thread full of 200 patient, rational explanations, that people just lose patience
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People on this thread have explained calmly and rationally, yet there is always someone who posts something like the post I responded to.
I have lost count of how many times I have posted on threads trying to help people understand. Some people want to understand, but some don't, they are stuck at how unfair it is that their child doesn't get a sticker.
There is a wealth of information out there about this sort of thing, all easily found by googling, it confuses me as to why the responsibility is on us parents of children with SNs to educate the ignorant* when we are the ones who also bear the brunt of such mean spirited attitudes.
*By ignorant, I don't mean without the knowledge, I mean the wilfully ignorant.