Discussion has moved on but I would like to say that I am very concerned that teaching staff appear to be ignorant of the legal position with regard to specifying and quantifying provision.
See relevant case law: www.ipsea.org.uk/apps/content/HTML/?id=113
It is accepted that there are 'a few bad apples' but what we are concerned about most of all is the fact that most of the flouting of the law is done in the erroneous belief that staff are using their 'professional judgement' and who believe themselves to be martyrsoutstanding.
Perhaps you would also consider this behaviour 'realistic', given the financial constraints, on a geriatric ward? The statement refers to an individual child in the same way that a medical prescription refers to an individual rather than anyone who happens to be on the ward at that time. It would not be acceptable for a nurse to decide to take the, say, pain relief or sedation prescribed for Mrs Smith and give it to Mrs Jones because in her non-expert opinion Mrs Jones looks like she needs it more. It is not acceptable to behave in this way but falsify/fail to update the written record or inform experts/relatives of your actions. Perhaps you would think this OK if the nurse had other patients with other needs to, or if Mrs Jones was noisy and disruptive, constantly getting out of bed, whereas Mrs Smith was bed-ridden and passive?
btw stop referring to 'our' children as 'your' children - this is both confusing and creepy.
Oh, and definitely don't say 'I love my children' - you did not 'love' them before they joined your class and you will not 'love' them when they leave - I think you will find that parental love lasts longer than an academic year.