When are you ready to stop learning through play? genuine question
Unfortunately, it's like 'how long is a piece of string?'
DS never got on with learning through play, if that 'learning' was supposed to lead to the kind of milestones in the old EYFS profile. He was never, in a million years, going to choose to make any form of mark on a piece of paper in any form of 'child led' activity. His idea of 'child led' was to run around with a big stick and play pirates.
Whilst he was intellectually 'ready to learn', he needed a firm kick up the arse and structure and discipline to get him to actually do anything. He would have been better off skipping reception entirely - he achieved very little in the year other than developing a reputation as 'the naughty child'.
As parents we have a responsibility to identify and help our children to learn key skills when they are ready for them - not necessarily when they want to.
DS at 6 1/2 would still be happy for me to dress him, wipe his bum, cut up all his food and write all his thank you letters. It was my job to identify when he was perfectly capable of doing these things for himself and then making damn sure he did (despite resistance).