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ApuskiMcClusky · 25/05/2012 11:09

I'm feeling the need to chat to others about dc starting school in September - there are a few threads with tips about uniform etc, but I'd like a chinwag about it all too!

Anyone else?

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BsshBossh · 25/05/2012 23:01

Hello. My DD starts this September too. She's a June baby and one of the youngest in her school-attached nursery. Academically and socially she's ready to start "big school" (as she calls it) but she needs to learn how to wipe her bottom properly, eat more quickly and dress herself better. We'll be working on these things over Summer!

ApuskiMcClusky · 25/05/2012 23:22

Hello! Bssh, I'd forgotten about the incredibly slow eating. He gets so distracted! He has lunch once a week at preschool and his best friend is a very fast eater, and it hasn't rubbed off on ds at all!

Destrier, a bulge class is when a school takes an extra class, in theory only for one year, so if it's normally 60 children it goes up to 90 children, before supposedly going back to 60 for the following reception intake. It seems to be the LAs' primary way of increasing school places

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redwhiteandblueeyedsusan · 26/05/2012 00:37

name tags? biro on the label, or the previous owners label. ds got his name written in 3 inch high letters on the inside of his coat in permanent purple marker pen. stuff sewing on name tags, life is too short. funnily enough I didn't do that for pfbdd either!

we havehad the letter from school re meetings... there is a meeting for parents but unfortunately, I am taking the children and annoying the hell out of all the other parents. ds is high maintenence and our babysitter moved and the neighbour who was our emergency help is ill, and now off the list which is decidedly empty. maybe, I can manage to keep him awake until the start of the meeting and he may sleep in the pushchair! not ideal but needs must and he will still be 3, just. I suspect dd will not be getting full marks in the spelling test the following day!

his behaviour is such that he is getting assessed to at best rule out asd, or not.

simpson have you got ann iep for dd's hypermobility? push for one early and she can get support with things like lunch time.

myBOYSareBONKERS · 26/05/2012 05:38

Reception help list:

The summer before my August born boy went to school we started practising on preparation ? here is my list of helpful hints!

Velcro shoes ? unless they can do laces up with no help and very quickly

Make sure you contact your school to find out how to obtain the uniform. Sometimes it has to be ordered via the school and when they close at the end of July its means you won?t have a uniform for September!!

Find out which days P.E is on and on those days don?t button up the polo shirt ? with a jumper on over the top it won?t be noticed anyway!

If they have to wear proper shirts with lots of buttons that are really too difficult to do up quickly - unpick the buttons. Sew them on the "hole" side where they would end up if they were properly done up. Then get velcro and sew that onto the shirt - so when its put together it looks just like a proper done up shirt.

Or just do that to some of the buttons, so they get to practice them still (or just wear the Velcro shirt on PE days!!)

Personal care ? ensure can wash hands, sort clothing out. My son couldn?t wipe his own bottom and so I ensured he got into a ?routine? of doing one before bed so I knew he wouldn?t run into difficulties at school.

Put half a smiley face in each shoe so that when they are placed together the correct way round they form one big happy face ? helps to get the shoes on the correct feet.

Practice with a lunchbox and different wrappings. I realised that I just hand my son a plate of food (as does nursery) and so he never had to undo anything!. He found a zipped lunch box easier than a velcro one. He found cling film to fidderly and so I get cheap food bags and put his sandwiches in them and wrap them over. He then puts all his left over?s in the bag so the lunch box comes back in a decent state!

Put a slit in the top of packets so they tear open easily or open them and fold them over and seal with a sticker (children can ALWAYS get a sticker off things!).

Fromage frais makes less mess than runny yogurt. Don?t forget to pack a spoon.

Sport top on bottles easier than screw tops or cartons (it all comes home in the lunch box so think of less spillage)

Label everything unless you don?t want it back. I got some really good stickers printed with just our surname on so all the family could use them for different things. They are dishwasher proof too. Marks and Spencers do socks that have the size in them and space to write a name ? great if you have more than one child (but with different sized feet) in the same coloured socks (or is it just me who finds figuring out which socks belong to which family member a challenge!!).

Small icepack for the summer.

Some foods are not allowed in lunches so check with the school.

Before my (very young and clumsy)son had school dinners I brought a tray plate (from boots) that the food gets put directly on as that is what they use in school so he could practice carrying it to the table without dropping it. (was terrified he would drop it at school and everyone would laugh).

If they are a very small or slow eater don?t give them too much otherwise they will spend their whole lunch break eating and not outside playing. Some schools insist they eat everything. Just take a snack for on the way home if they are hungry.

Elasticated skirts and trousers to make it easier to get on/off.

If there is a 'school' coat, and it's not compulsory DON'T BUY ONE. If 30 children all have an identical coat it's a nightmare to sort them out.

Show your child how to hang their coat on a peg, using the loop. Otherwise the coat will live on a muddy cloakroom floor.

Tie something distinctive on your child's bookbag and PE bag, so they can recognise their own among many identical ones - a keyring or something is ideal

Putting his clothes back on when they are inside out and back-to-front (ie as they'll be after he's taken them off after PE). My DS could dress himself so it never occurred to me that his clothes were always presented in a nice "sanitised" manner

Some children found the sheer noise and busy environment very stressful when they first start school and I wasn't prepared for that with my son who found lunchtimes in the hall with a hundred or so other children all chattering, clanking cutlery, scraping chairs and clinking plates really intimidating and scary.

Not much you can do (unless you have a massive home and a hundred children to invite round) but by going to busy places with him beforehand and telling him that school might get noisy sometimes but it's nothing to be worried about he will at least be able to remember your words when faced with increased hustle and bustle.

My son was sometimes a bit nervous about going in and ?being alone? all day without me, so I filled his pocket with ?kisses? and told him to reach in for one if he felt a bit sad. At nearly 7yrs he still asks for them if going somewhere new (eg Beavers for the first time)

Teach your child to stuff their hat/scarf/gloves into the sleeve of their coat when they hang their coat up - stops them from getting lost and reminds dc to put them back on when they go out to play as they automatically find them when they put their coat back on!

A top tip I was given was that school shirts come in packs of three so you buy 2 packs, that gives you 6 shirts, one for every day of the week, plus 1 you put aside for the school christmas show, prize giving or whatever.

If you are a working parent, as soon as you find out your allocated school you MUST sort childcare. Childminders and after school clubs get booked up very quickly. The school office may have a list of childcare establishments.
I sewed back the bottom bit of the material away from the zip on my DS's coat when he started Reception (to make it easier to do up).

If they wear proper shirts (as opposed to polo shirts), don't bother with long sleeved ones - the cuffs will get so grubby you'll only get one day's wear out of them. Short sleeves are better!

School uniform does go missing ? be it misplaced or stolen. If you don?t need to get logo?d uniform then don?t as this is what tends to go easily. Also make your uniform more distinctive so when the children leave school you will be able to spot a piece of your Childs clothing on another child. Eg put a small key ring on the zipper of the school coat/jacket. Will make it easier to pull up as well.

Write in permanent ink inside the collar or sleeve ? any where it can be easily seen and can not be cut out (like labels). Sew a small colour co-ordinated flower/star/circle (whatever is appropriate) on the collar ? again is small but distinctive.
Phase out any after-lunch naps - they don't get this at school and it will be much harder for those who are still used to this.

Buy a nit comb and tie long hair back.
Find out where the lost box is you will be a regular

If any allergies check epi pens write in dates they need to be replaced and have a treat box at school for when children hand out cakes on their birthdays.
Checking the school bag for letters party invites daily and dealing with stuff as soon as possible such as writing the dates down and getting stuff organised for it.
Keep unsuitable xmas and birthday presents for the various donations that the school ask for throughout the year (i.e summer and xmas fetes).

I also think it's good to ask the child themselves if there is anything they are worrying about - with DS he wanted to know the "routine" was so he could mentally tick it off during the day, so I found this out and let him know. He was also worried that no one would play with him so I suggested friend making strategies e.g. saying "My name is X, what's your name, do you want to play with me?"

simpson · 26/05/2012 12:26

Bonkers - that is really helpful. I would definitely 2nd putting a key ring or something onto a book bag so they can pick out their own amongst a big pile.

Susan - is your DS starting school in sept? On the IEP thing I definitely need to get that in place. Luckily I have a few friends who work on the school as dinner ladies and they have told me what their procedure is re kids who need a bit more help/care and also because she has food intolerances I need to make sure that the school dinners will be suitable for her.

ApuskiMcClusky · 26/05/2012 16:43

Thanks Bonkers, loads of tips!

I've been having a look at school uniforms - bizarrely I feel a little depressed by the uniform requirement for grey socks, it feels so grown-up.

I need to chat to the school at some point about ds's eyesight - he's got monocular vision so just need to flag it, doesn't need any particular accommodation I don't think. Not sure when the chance will come though, I'm pretty sure they don't do home visits.

Simpson, it would be great to have friends amongst the dinner ladies - for some reason lunch seems much scarier than the classroom!

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myBOYSareBONKERS · 26/05/2012 16:56

For those that live in Northampton and a facebook selling page has been set up with free or cheap school uniform.

missmapp · 26/05/2012 19:06

Hi, can I join. Ds2 is starting in sept, joining his brother who will then be in Yr3.

I am worried about him because he is very, very shy, so much so, he hardly talks at nursery. He has been to nursery 3 days a week since he was 6 mths old as I went back to work, but although loving it, only started speaking there at three.

We moved him last sept to the pre-school attached to the school he will start, hoping it would make transition easier. They have been fantastic, but he still speaks only rarely, and doesnt really interact with the other children.

I worry about the decrease in adult to child ratio in reception ( it will be a class of 30) and hope he isnt allowed to disappearSad

BTW , Apuski, I know what you mean about grey socks!!

redwhiteandblueeyedsusan · 26/05/2012 22:50

simpson.. he is starting in september. he is finally potty trained. just got to work on wiping his own bum. he can not/will not dress himself. though he does undress himself, completely!.( a new skill learned today which ganny discovered)

I have low expectations. I will be happy if he can sit down when he is supposed to, not scream in school, not run away and manage himself at the toilet and not undress himself inappropiately.

dressing/undressing for pe is a bonus. talking to the teacher sometime in the first term would be fantastic.

he is summer born and he is being refered to be assessed for asd.

missmapp · 27/05/2012 08:43

redwhiteandblue- ds1 (7) came out of school with his lothes on back to front and inside out regularly in reception and yr1!! He was always amazed that I knew he had had p.e. He is ok now and school didnt seem to worry

kat1885 · 27/05/2012 09:16

My ds can dress himself but won't. He can only do it if you hand him his clothes the way around they are supposed to be and can't put socks on at all. I'm fully expecting half naked inside out child on pe day.

MrsJoeDuffy · 27/05/2012 11:19

redwhiteandblueeyedsusan speak to the teacher before the first term about dressing for PE. Best they have an idea about what help he will likely need before the first PE day, when it is chaotic, and they are trying to help 30 small children at once. The positive thing is lots of kids will get a sense of what their friends can do and they start to try these things for themselves.

Maybe start backward chaining the dressing process from now until September ie. if he needs to put on 5 items of clothing, you do four and he does/ helped with the last one (for example sticking feet into shoes), moving towards ds doing 2 things, then 3 things etc.

My top tips - was a YR teacher before SAHM

label EVERYTHING. If it comes into school, label it. First and last name, class as well if possible. ESPECIALLY things like PE kit / plimsolls, which are identical and a chuffing NIGHTMARE for a teacher to sort out. PE kit and plimsolls go missing all the time. If there is no name, we cannot return them. I demonstrated this point to new YR parents one year by bringing in the lost property box and emptying it out in front of them and showing them that there were NO NAMES!

Try to discourage your dc from bringing toys into school. If they get lost or broken kids are devastated and teachers can't sort it out.

try to phase out day-time naps. Make bedtime earlier if needs be but it is really helpful if children are used to being up for a whole school day. The longer day is exhausting for small children, and it is much harder if they are used to having a snooze at 1pm.

simpson · 27/05/2012 11:43

DD is also going to have trouble dressing herself for PE and she cannot really do buttons.

She manages to dress/undress herself fine for nursery school as the uniform is polo shirts which are easier but "proper" shirts are too tough and there is little point practising as she just cannot do it due to weak hand muscles (hyper mobile).

But I suspect she won't be the only one who needs help and luckily DD is VERY outspoken so would have no problems asking for help.

Susan - how long does the referral take? Will it be before sept?

ApuskiMcClusky · 28/05/2012 20:55

Oops, I have managed to be late with my first school 'homework' - had to send them a copy of ds's birth certificate, and couldn't find it anywhere - we've moved house since I last needed it. Eventually turned up in a random box, but meant that I missed the deadline. Ah well, I'm sure it won't be the last time!

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Destrier · 28/05/2012 22:43

Still not heard anything from the school. I wonder when I could reasonably phone and ask what they are playing at and when are we going to hear...

DS's friends have heard from their schools and are already talking about visits... he is feeling left out.

ApuskiMcClusky · 28/05/2012 22:53

Destrier, I would just go ahead and call them in a 'just wondering what the next steps are' kind of way. I'm sure the office staff are used to it. I'm too impatient, I couldn't wait I think!

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HipHopOpotomus · 29/05/2012 11:58

We haven't heard from our school yet either - I emailed them yesterday but haven't received a reply yet!

I'm a planner - need to start 'doing stuff' in my head. We tried on school uniforms in M&S on the weekend. ATM DD will need a size 7 (she is 4.5). Guess I should weait closer to September before ordering.

Question re girls uniforms if your DD wears the gingham school dresses, would she wear them at the start of the school year and for how long? I'm thinking they wouldn't wear the gingham dresses in the winter. So do I get the gingham dresses to start school in, and then switch to winter uniform in November? or ....?

simpson · 29/05/2012 13:31

Hip hop - I think it depends on the weather. I remember last yr when DS was in yr1 he started in long trousers but did wear shorts in october when the weather was warmer.

DD has got one summer dress that she wears to nursery ATM and I will probably buy another one as I think 2 will be enough.

Although DD is at the nursery attached to the school she will attend we have not heard anything re uniform/when they will start etc.

roadkillbunny · 29/05/2012 16:11

Destrier we haven't had anything from school yet either but as ds is my second and I have dd already at the school I asked the receptionist last week when I was in the office for something else, they are getting frustrated to as they haven't yet had the final class list back from the LEA in order to send things out, sort the new parent meeting, plan induction visits and meetings with the class teacher. I am hoping we get something before half term (so the end of this week), I want to know when ds will have his induction visits and when my meeting with the class teacher will be as there is quite a bit for me to discuss with her due to ds having significant speech problems.

I don't know if I should go to the new parents meeting when ever it does happen given the fact I am not really a new parent but it is 3 years since we did it with dd and I know if nothing else the homework policy has changed since dd was in reception so I am thinking other things may have changed, any other 2/3 or more time mums going to go to your schools version of this if they do one?

Over summer dresses. Sometimes if the weather is nice in September I will send dd back to school in summer uniform if it still fits from the summer term but it never lasts more then a couple of weeks before the weather gets colder and we are in winter uniform so unless you happen to have dresses I wouldn't bother buying now, by the time summer term 2013 rolls round they will have probably out grown them, I know they only cost a couple of pounds but really not worth wasting the cash for a couple of weeks wear if that. It would also pay to look at the schools uniform policy, some are quite strict and say that summer uniform should only be worn after Easter, some are strict enough to even give dates although these are the ones that will normally have a few weeks window in September for summer uniform. I like to start dd back in winter uniform to be honest, looks smarter for the first day of term photo I take lol!

missmapp · 29/05/2012 17:43

roadkillbunny I have a ds in school already (will be yr3 in sept) but I am still going to the meeting incase there are any changes- there has been a new head in the meantime, so it may well be a different meeting.

Ds1 always seems to get a few weeks of shorts wear in sept, but I dont know if id buy a new dress just for the autumn term

simpson · 29/05/2012 17:49

My DS will be in yr3 too and I will go to the meeting. We have a different HT since DS started so things may be different.

I know that all the reception kids (60 of them) are going to be in one class with 2 teachers and 2 TAs so I want to see how that will work as its the first year they have done it.

roadkillbunny · 29/05/2012 19:28

My dd will be in Y3 also, must be a common age gap lol!

Your right, hadn't though of that, we have a new head teacher as of September, she is currently the deputy head and also dd's class teacher this year so there wont be any drastic change however the headteacher used to have the reception class one day a week and I don't know if that will continue and if it doesn't who will have the class that day (I hope it continues, the new head has been the making of my dd this year!). I am sure there will be other information that is new to me given I hadn't thought of something as major as the above, I also remember now that they give out the welcome pack things at that meeting and although they would get passed onto me at school I prefer to get things when I am meant to (iyswim, a bit strange I know as it makes not a jot of difference really as long as I do get it!).
The meeting I will be skipping though is the start of term meeting for reception and KS1, I have sat through that meeting 3 times now and it doesn't really change as the curriculum is the same however, having said that... new head! Darn, thought I could skip that one given I will have the KS2 one this year as well!

simpson · 29/05/2012 21:27

I don't think we have a meeting about KS2 but tbh we have just had a meeting about SATS levels etc which touched on KS2 so I think that is all we will get but it's enough IMO as I know where DS should be iyswim.

We do have a graduation ceremony to sit through when they graduate from KS1 (sob) and a graduation ceremony for DD when she finishes the nursery (double sob).

HipHopOpotomus · 29/05/2012 22:21

Thanks for the uniform info ladies!

ApuskiMcClusky · 30/05/2012 17:20

Sharpie laundry pen arrived today (not that I've bought any clothes yet, but when I do, I'll be ready!). I think I'm going to get sew in labels too, to use on the things that I'll pass on like the logo jumpers, then use Sharpie on the stuff that I expect to get trashed.

I'm going to get one pair of shorts for ds I think - if only for the photo cuteness factor.

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