10 year old girls and their friendships

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Is it tricky for everyone?

My dd told me her heart is hurting today. I could burst into tears, tbh.

She has always been part of a large fairly easy going group at school. There have been very few fallings out, they are a nice group of girls to play with.

But now they have all paired up and have best friends ... except dd.

God, I feel wretched for her .

Can I do anything?

Aw thisroom - you are so right. Off to bed to cuddle my lovely DD who always sleeps with me post Dr Who. At least she knows she is loved at home.

My heart could break reading this thread. I was bullied a lot at school (secondary) but always put that down to being at boarding school. How stupid of me.

My two are only little (2&3) but I find the thought that this may lie in store for them heartbreaking. Worried to about how I will handle this with them if it does happen as quite honestly I don't feel any more aware of the 'rules of the playground' now as I did back then. Basically I still find it tough to find real true friends and often feel at the periphery of all those toddler group cliques.

Op - sorry didn't mean to turn this into a pity party for me just this sort of thing always makes me a little sad. Why are children so cruel to each other?!! Hope better and brighter things are in store for your dd soon.

My dd (8) is an only child and I have absolute paranoia about her having enough friends, playmates, things to do, people to see etc. DD on the other hand, couldn't give a shit....

She has recently invited a best friend at school for a play date though ( with my encouragement) and the whole thing has turned into a huge mind game which I wish I'd never started. DDs best friend is using it as a bargaining tool to get dd to do and play as she wishes at school and the play date has turned into a day out at somewhere expensive!!

Girls are horrid

Definitely second them knowing how loved they are at home.

We are a v close, loving family and this has really helped dd through difficult times at school. I tell her frequently that it doesn't matter at all if you don't like rubbishy pop music and don't care who won X-factor. I try and encourage her to be herself and true friends will like her for who she is not what she's into. Also, secondary school is not that far away and she will meet a wider range of people and develop new friendships through shared interests.

On the whole I love her 1-form entry cosy primary school but I'm seeing now that there are downsides to a small school in terms of cliques etc.

Not going through this with the 10 year-old, thank God, but do have elements of it with the 7 year-old, in the shape of a bossy, manipulative really-not-very-nice-little-madam but who is an absolute Goddess in mum's eyes who can Do No Wrong. Sighs heavily.