I just wanted to say that I found this thread very good and informative.
And also to say that reading with my children is a pleasure and I would always do that, no matter what - and you're right rabbitstew, I don't see that as supplementing schoolwork, I see it as support and just something nice to do with them, as a family we value reading very highly.
What I do resent is having to teach them the curriculum, as I am not a trained teacher but I feel like I have to as it is not being covered. My DD will stall for months until I or DH cover the next step with her, and so on.
We have tried not doing it but she just doesn't progress. I don't think this should be necessary.
They do a lot at school but it's not pitched right, it's pitched at the lowest or maybe average level, which means that she does get to practise what she already knows, which is good, but then she is not progressing to the next level for a very long time and in fact she does actually regress.
I could just leave it of course, but it's a shame isn't it, to see that your children are not making any progress at all and especially so if they are massively eager to learn.
In fact we have left her maths and noticed that since Reception she has made absolutely no progress whatsoever...this is because he maths has always been a couple of years ahead curriculum wise, so it's been left well alone.
However, rabbitstew, I don't know what the solution is within a classroom. I would just prefer not to have to teach my children and would be more than happy to be asked to reinforce or support school at home. Maybe we are just unlucky with our school, but I do hear this sort of problem from other people (friends and family) who have children in other schools, so I can't be on my own...