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TikTok for a 10 year old?

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RobustFlange · 02/02/2020 12:57

My dd (10) has got her first phone, and is nagging me to let her have TikTok. You have to be 13 to get an account for this.

I decided to get it myself, set up an account and have a nosey. It seems that she would be able to make short videos (which can be really quite creative), follow her friends and let her friends follow her. You can also adjust the settings so that other people cannot comment or like her videos and that only her friends are able to see them.

I also did some searching for pornographic terms, to see what comes up. Honestly? Nothing that she would find shocking or even remotely titillating.

So, I'm Ok with her having account, with the conditions that 1) I set the privacy settings, and 2) I have full access to do spot checks.

Do I lie about her age to get her an account? 🤷‍♀️

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FishCanFly · 03/02/2020 10:49

if you're so bothered about "lying", just make a family account with an anonymous name.

BeeMyBaby · 05/02/2020 20:04

I think the risk of online predators is massive and it's unlikely she'll realise it's happening. Why doesn't she try something like Lego Life which is very safe? That's what let my 10yo try so that she can get into social media.

Catapillarsruletheworld · 05/02/2020 22:25

Dd2 who is nearly 12 has had tiktok for around a year. A lot of people in mumsnet are really anti social media, but all of dds friends have it, it’s how they express themselves. I got it myself so that I can keep an eye on what she is posting. We even make videos together (the dance routines and stuff) sometimes, it’s strangely addictive.

So far there haven’t been any issues at all with it.

GADDay · 05/02/2020 22:30

I can't see any benefit for children under 13 having social media.

Literally cannot think of one single positive but so many negatives.

So for me it would be a definite no to lying to get an account. This just reinforces that it's ok to lie to circumvent the rules, if you dont like/agree with them.

I do have 3 children and none of mine were allowed SM until legally old enough.

theneighbourswindchime · 05/02/2020 22:33
RobustFlange · 09/02/2020 18:18

Thanks everyone. I've decided to let her use the app, but she hasn't got an account. This means that she can make videos, but not post them. Some of the stuff she does is pretty cool! The only reason I'm not letting her have an account is due to the lying about her age. I don't want her to think that's ok. As for paedophiles contacting her (if she had an account), I don't think there are that many paedophiles around tbh, and also she would have to accept a friend request before they could comment on her video. Thanks for the advice though 👍

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