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Bedtime for 11 year old?

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FortyFacedFuckers · 07/03/2017 20:32

Can you please tell me what time your 11 year old goes to bed and what time they get up for school in the morning?

I try to get DS to bed for 8.45 to read until 9 he gets up at 7am. One night a week he has an activity that is on until later so in bed for 9.45-10 and he stays up later on a Saturday night.
He thinks this is far to early and his friends all stay up much later.

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Wafflenose · 07/03/2017 21:41

My 11 year old goes quite a bit later than some of her friends. Light is meant to go off at 8.45, but it's often nearer to 9. She gets up at 7.

MrsRhettButler · 07/03/2017 21:43

11yo dd1 is supposed to be in bed lights off at 9. Let's just say she stretches this to the limit...
She's up whenever I wake her. (Usually 7am)

FortyFacedFuckers · 08/03/2017 11:39

Sounds as though 9 is average then. Thanks

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Wafflenose · 09/03/2017 10:36

Most of DD's friends seem to go at 8.15/ 8.30 (Year 6).

TittyGolightly · 09/03/2017 17:28

My 6 year old is usually asleep at 9-9:30pm during the week (during school terms).

AltheaThoon · 09/03/2017 22:43

I have a sleep refuser but our routine seems to suit at the moment. Until 9:30 then it's lights out and ticked in. I think it's a bit late but he literally won't sleep if we try any earlier. He gets up at 6:50.

autumnrained · 10/03/2017 00:04

Ds is 10-10:30 and up at 7 but he goes to bed earlier than most his age! Some nights he's getting messages at 2am Hmm

TeenAndTween · 10/03/2017 15:26

My 12yo y7 has lights out 9/9:15 in general and is woken ~7:30.

tbh She could do with another 30mins or so, but she catches up a bit at weekends.

In holidays goes to sleep same time but up later.

TheTartOfAsgard · 10/03/2017 15:30

Maybe me are 12 and 13 now but since they started secondary school it's a 10pm bed time on school nights (they get up 7/7:30ish, and whenever they want at weekends/holidays.

clarethompson2 · 08/04/2017 09:28

My 14 yr old usually will go upstairs at 8:00 then she'll brush her teeth etc. Then I'll come in, say goodnight give her a pull-up (medical condition) and make sure it's on etc then she'll go to sleep around 9:00. She usually wakes up naturally at 8:00 so that's usually when she gets up.

Foureyesarebetterthantwo · 08/04/2017 09:30

My dd is supposed to be in bed at 8.30 for lights out/sleep at 9, but often is wandering around at 10.30-11pm, she finds it hard to sleep. It is very annoying, but I don't know how to make her sleep! She gets up around 7.30am. In the end I just have to say she is getting 8-9 hours and that will be enough.

frums · 08/04/2017 09:33

Mine has no phone or computer from 8pm. Downstairs with us until 9pm. Can read as long as she likes once in bed. She wakes at 7.15 on weekdays and around 8.15 at weekends.

Bogburglar75 · 08/04/2017 09:39

9 is about what we aim for with Y6 DS.

Melissa980 · 13/05/2017 12:38

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