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How do you get a year 7 DD to wear a coat to school or at least a jumper?

26 replies

Threeschools · 03/11/2016 08:15

I mean it is getting very cold in the mornings now, and apart from providing the damn things how do you make her wear them?? She is still a bit young so I feel responsible, she is going to catch a pneumonia soon.

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cloudyday99 · 03/11/2016 08:21

Beats me. I usually compromise on making them take the jumper with them so they can at least put it on later when they realise it's cold and so school doesn't think I'm a negligent parent

angeldiver · 03/11/2016 08:23

Coats at school seem to be a pain. My dd isn't allowed to wear her coat in the school buildings, is meant to put them in locker.
She no longer has a locker, yr10, as she found it time consuming to go and offload stuff.
On the plus side, school is very warm, if she is cold she will warm up quickly.
I too wish she would wear a coat but there's only so many times you can ask/tell!!

Seeline · 03/11/2016 08:31

My Y8 DD went off to the bus stop in jumper, blazer and coat this morning, but she's a chilly thing like her Mum!
Even Y10 DS had jumper, blazer and a waterproof jacket on this morning. If they are cold, they wear them. Lots of the kids do round here. We're London/Surrey border so not exactly Arctic Grin

BertrandRussell · 03/11/2016 08:32

Leave it. She won't come to harm if she gets a bit chilly. And she'll come to her senses in about year 9.

Deux · 03/11/2016 08:38

What works for my DS is one of Uniqlo's ultra light down jackets. It can be easily rolled up into its pouch and put in the bottom of his rucksack.

ofudginghell · 03/11/2016 08:39

Was just having this chat with my year 7 dd this morning.
I'm a bit more relaxed about it now as went through exactly the same with eldest ds who still doesn't wear a coat at nearly 19 but will complain he's cold indoors and want the heating up(wear a jumper and socks if your cold ds is the usual response to that one!)
My dd has started to wear a school cardigan over her shirt and under her blazer and when it gets colder again I pop into primary and get them thermal but pretty vest tops to go under shirt.
I also supply lots of snuggly scarves hats and gloves but again they get left shunned in the drawer Grin

LunaLoveg00d · 03/11/2016 08:42

My 8 year old has gone to school this morning in shirt, sleeveless pullover, thick parka jacket.... and shorts.

He refuses to wear long trousers, doesn't like the "flappy" feeling around his lower legs and the cold doesn't seem to bother him below the waist!

Lovelybangers · 03/11/2016 08:54

DS did not wear a coat or his school jumper once between Y7 and Y11. He would just wear shirt and blazer. In extreme cold spells I did persuade him that a thermal long sleeved tshirt underneath his shirt might be nice - and no one would notice it. We live in Yorkshire - so it can get quite nippy in winter!

The main reasons were that coats had to be stowed away in the pupil's locker - this might be a long way from the classroom where he had last lesson of the day and had to rush for the bus/couldn't be bothered to go and get it - so was just easier not to bother.

He is now 18 and away at Uni- so I have no idea whether he wears a coat or ;)

user1478212300 · 03/11/2016 22:42

How about you let your child learn to temperature control herself?
In the periphery (e.g. on our fingertips), our body senses external temperature through nerve terminals, expressing certain TRP channels. These are ion channels that are sensitive to temperature (note that TRP channels can be sensitive to several things, such as pH, light, and stretch) and allow entrance of cations in the cell when the temperature is higher or lower than a certain threshold.

Six TRP channels have been described as been involved in sensing different temperature ranges1,2:

TRPV1 is activated at >43 °C
TRPV2 at >52 °C
TRPV3 at ~> 34-38 °C
TRPV4 at ~> 27-35 °C
TRPM8 at ~< 25-28 °C
TRPA1 at ~< 17 °C
Not surprisingly, TRPV1 and TRPV2 are also involved in nociception (=pain perception).

So as you can see she has all the tools she needs to be able to decide whether she needs a coat or not.

WeAllHaveWings · 06/11/2016 22:40

Ds wears jackets but only when they are the right label. North face is popular just now and thankfully warm/waterproof.

Threeschools · 08/11/2016 09:14

user1478212300, thank you for your input on TRP channels, would you mind sharing your sources, i.e. references 1,2? For some reasons I doubt these studies were done in teenage girls, probably in mice or Caenorhabditis elegans (e.g. nematode=worm).
As you probably know, human beings have a very develop frontal cortex (=brain) and very often decide to override (=ignore) the inputs from their various signalling pathways (=senses), just to ascertain their independence (=annoy their mums) Smile.

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R0bins · 08/11/2016 09:23

When I was young a long long time ago I just never felt the cold. I'd go out in a t shirt in winter, it just didn't bother me. I'd just get them to stick something in their bag in case. I don't think you can actually get ill from being physically cold.

TheSecondOfHerName · 08/11/2016 09:32

Below 0 degrees C here this morning.

DD (Y8) left the house in a short-sleeved blouse and thin polyester blazer. Above-knee skirt, bare legs with just trainer socks.

Left at home in her wardrobe: coat, school jumper, tights, and the hat & gloves she asked me to buy in half term.

ParadiseCity · 08/11/2016 09:35

My Y7 has the clothes he needs, I only insist on coat for certain things when I am going with him. So I don't hear him moaning about being cold. For school he can wear what he wants, if he is daft enough to get cold I don't need to hear abut it!

dementedpixie · 08/11/2016 09:36

My Dd doesn't have a locker and they aren't allowed outdoor jackets in school so she wears her blazer over her shirt sleeves shirt. She may put a cardigan on under the blazer when we are covered in snow! She has over the knee socks and a skirt on too. Should look out the gloves maybe as we are forecast snow later

griffinsss · 12/11/2016 22:32

You don't....

The most impossible task I have found with parenting a preteen so far is getting them to dress appropriately for the weather. My 4 y/o and I will be wearing jumpers, scarves and gloves while 12 y/o will be wearing no tights and just a t shirt claiming not to be cold.

They are crazy.

5moreminutes · 12/11/2016 22:43

Another illustration of how ridiculous school uniform is - how useless is a blazer when she could have chosen to wear a fleece or even a bright neon yellow, visible to traffic whilst walking to school in poor light ski jacket if she didn't have to wear the blazer...

Pluto30 · 12/11/2016 22:48

You don't.

You let them not wear the jumper/coat if that's what they want to do, and they will quickly learn their lesson.

And if they continue not to want to wear a jumper, then so be it.

Heifer · 17/11/2016 10:51

By buying them a coat they LOVE.. I bought my DD a black Superdry coat (school rules state has to be a plain black coat).. It was more expensive than I would have liked, but got a size a little large, so she has now worn it for YR7 & YR8... She doesn't wear it every day, as it is a pain (got to put in locker) but she will wear it when very cold or raining (20 min walk to school).

We are both happy with that..

Lifebeginsat41 · 17/11/2016 13:36

I don't even bother, my DS never feels the cold, he wears a short sleeve shirt, and blazer trousers and underwear are optional then has his back-pack by the time he has walked to school the school in the morning and then from the bus stop to home in the afternoon he is very warm. My husband was the same as a child. Kids are on the go a lot more than us parents so personally I wouldn't bother and let him come to you when he is cold.

Lifebeginsat41 · 17/11/2016 13:38

Forgot to mention is that the only concession I made is that they have to have the small umbrellas in their backpacks - which they have agreed to.

CallarMorvern · 18/11/2016 22:19

DD would like to wear a coat, but they have to wear their blazers all day ( need permission to remove ridiculous). If she takes a coat then she has to carry it round all day as they only have tiny lockers. She has a 15 min walk when she gets off the bus, so if it's raining she gets soaked. She did take a cagoule for a while, but if it got soaking then she had to put it wet in her bag. Uniforms are just so bloody stupid, they aren't allowed boots either,even if it's snowing.

blueistheonlycolourwefeel · 18/11/2016 22:25

My son wears a vest (just started in the last couple of days), long sleeved shirt, jumper and blazer when he leaves for school. NEVER wants to wear a coat and removes his jumper in the day at school.

Cocochoco · 19/11/2016 16:43

Mine has one of those big scarves, and sometimes a jacket, but still gets really cold. She'll wear a coat when it gets really freezing and even agreed to take some gloves the other day. Her school has no lockers so there is nowhere to leave a coat during the day.

PUGaLUGS · 19/11/2016 16:56

Yep as griff states, you don't !!

Just let them get on with it

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