DD2 (12) tried to kiss her teacher !

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Izzy123lo · 31/10/2013 15:06

My DD(12) tried to kiss her teacher at school yesterday. Her teacher reported it to the head of year and the head called us to tell us what happened. She has a crush on this teacher (she told her sister - who told me ) and has done for a while . What do I do ?

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MrsDavidBowie · 31/10/2013 15:07

Was it a male or female teacher?

SweetSkull · 31/10/2013 15:09

Doinmummy · 31/10/2013 15:09

Oh dear. Do you know how the teacher reacted ? (Apart from telling the ht, which I guess they were correct in doing just to cover themselves)

Doinmummy · 31/10/2013 15:12

I think you've posted before about DD being a bit boy mad etc. maybe time for a chat about boundaries etc

SweetSkull · 31/10/2013 15:16

Well she seems very aware for her age, maybe try a psychologist?

mewmeow · 31/10/2013 15:24

I don't have much practical advise in terms of how to handle disciplinary actions etc. But on an emotional level I would be wary of 'punishments' as they may serve to further ostracise your already confused sounding dd. It sounds like she is suffering from being in some ways mature for her years, with early on set of sexual desires etc, and assomeone else has mentioned boundary issues. I think it calls foremost for a heart to heart, judgement free- give her space to air her feelings and give her support. Of course explain why her actions weren't acceptable, and why society is wary of her being exploited and taken advantage of at her young age. Are there any books or films you can think of that might help illustrate your point? I'm trying to think here of some sensible ones that might help, but it's hard without knowing your dd and her individual circumstances. Sorry I can't be more help, but feel for you and all involved- must be ver difficult circumstance.

SilverApples · 31/10/2013 15:28

Has she always struggled with boundaries with regards to appropriate behaviour? Does she understand what is appropriate?
Did she do it for a dare?
School should be able to support her either way, you need to know the reasons why she did it first.

MrsDavidBowie · 31/10/2013 15:32

I feel very sorry for the teacher.

Your dd definitely needs some help and I am sure the school will put some plan in place. You need to have a serious talk with her on how her behaviour could affect the man's career.

SilverApples · 31/10/2013 15:32

Oh, hang on. This is the DD who is cross with you and not speaking because her father told her that you two split up because you had an affair?
So is she misbehaving as a consequence of that?

killpeppa · 31/10/2013 15:43

I'm glad she has such an honest teacher.

I think getting her to talk to someone would be a good idea as her behaviour is inappropriate
she must have a head spinning with lots of stuff.
hope you get answers from her or get her to agree to chatting to someone

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Izzy123lo · 31/10/2013 18:06

SilverApples , yeah this is her.

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LIZS · 31/10/2013 18:08

Would her head of year speak to her ?

coolcookies · 03/11/2013 09:09

Do you know whether the teacher was male or female?

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