I loathe dd's "best friend" with a passion at the moment. She's always been an entitled little madam but as she's getting older it's getting nastier. She routinely puts dd down, calls her academic ability and interests "geeky," calls her fat then insists she's only joking (dd is perfectly balanced on the 75th centile for height and weight, "friend" is a similar height but much more slightly built) and generally seems to want to undermine her at every turn, (e.g. Discouraging dd from auditioning for the school play, disrupting other friendships...I could go on. I've had enough but dd adores her:(
How do I get dd to see there's a problem?