Hi all,
I hope I posted this in the right place!
Basically I (31F) am now 7 weeks pregnant, I didn’t plan to be pregnant at all, and my first thought was that I wouldn’t go through with it – especially because my boyfriend (36M) and I haven’t been dating long (6 months 🫠) and we are very long distance (he lives in Brazil)
But as time has passed I realised that I really want to keep the baby, even though I know that it’s not great timing, and it will be challenging moving over to Brazil whilst pregnant, and then there’s the case of potentially having to find a new remote job in Brazil too after the baby is born.
My boyfriend isn’t super keen on the idea, he wants me to move there and will support my decision either way but he stresses it’s not the right time for a baby and says what if we don’t work out etc. And I get it. I will always be a little gutted I didn’t get the excited ‘yaaay you’re pregnant this is so exciting’. But also I would be more than ready or willing to raise the baby alone if needs be. (Even though I know he wouldn’t want that and would still be involved etc)
But despite everything I really still want to keep the baby. Am I being selfish? Or unfair on him or the baby? I get it won’t be a perfect start, but I will absolutely try my best 😭
It’s also worth adding that my boyfriend recently just moved back to his hometown and is finding a new job and new apartment. But I know he will sort this out pretty quickly, and it actually kind of works out in our favour looking for an apartment together that’s suitable for the baby too. I also have a pretty good job so I’m able to get some good savings in place for moving/baby supplies/first year of rent etc.