I really need some help.
my partner (34) and I (34) have been together for 4 years, we live together, have a dog. I work full time in London with a 1 hour commute. He is self employed and business hasn’t been going great for him.
he provides mainly for us, such as paying rent, bills etc.
i suffer with PCOS and IBD and about two years ago suffered a miscarriage from a natural pregnancy at the start of our fertility journey at about 6 weeks. From then we decided we wanted children and would
do more investigations and look into fertility more.
for the last year, we have been going through IVF and last month found out I am pregnant through IVF. Since finding out, my partner has got cold feet and decided he is not ready, and has said that he categorically does not want this baby. He hasn’t been very supportive and his whole personality seems to have changed over the last month. There is an air of disrespect in how he has handled things such as going out with friends until all hours and not answering his phone. He has mentioned things like he is worried I will put on loads of weight and that he is annoyed at himself for not telling me before the transfer that he didn’t want it but he was doing it for me. He has mentioned that he would want me
to get rid of it but also wouldn’t force me into something like that as he can understand “it’s difficult for the woman”.
he has said now that he has no other choice than to be with me and said that if I wasn’t pregnant he no longer thinks we would be together if I wasn’t pregnant because of the way I reacted to him being out all night long when I wanted him to be home with me.
realistically, I can’t afford to be a single mother. My family are no where near me and so can’t rely on them for support as they live in a different country. I think if I have an abortion, I will never forgive him, and the relationship is already over, but I’m worried that if I go ahead, the relationship might still be over, I won’t have his support and I can’t afford to be a single mother.
I am nearly 8 weeks and so I feel like I’m running out of time and tears!
Please can someone give me an advice! 🥺