Unsure whether to continue pregnancy after delay to termination appointment

[Maggie199408]

I waited 2 weeks for my BPAS termination appointment to be told I have to wait another week for a scan!! Because my periods are irregular by then ill be just over 6 weeks (because i know when I ovulated) but according to last period date id be 7 nearly 8 it is still a long time to wait yet again this is my third baby.... I am debating how to keep it as I dont want to terminate that late I wanted it done at 4/5 weeks 😭 I have 2 children 1 is 3 years old has autism and 1 is 9 months old tomorrow I found newborn stage very hard as sleep deprivation was awful but we over worst now and she sleeps well... problems are my car is too small for 3 children and my son doesnt walk far due to his autsim so he has to have a pushchair he cant share one as he can crush his sister so he has single and she has single but with another means a double and a single I cant fit that in my car so I'd have to get bigger one ... I have a 2 bedroom house and my son cant share currently fighting to be on council list to get 3 bedroom house but that could be years! This is why i was going to terminate but I dont want to be that far and don't wish to wait any longer what do i do? Any advice?

Just wanted to message to say it sounds like you are in a really tough situation having a child with autism and two other littles ones would be incredibly tough.

I can't believe BPAS have postponed your appointment that's so hard for you :-(. I was exactly the same when I had my termination in November, just wanted it done quickly so the pregnancy didn't develop further. I had an abortion at 5and a half weeks. What I would say is, at least the delay in your appointment means you have more time to reflect and decide if it's what you really want. Sadly for me I rushed into it and just wanted it over with, since then I've been wracked with feelings of regret and grief and wish I would have continued the pregnancy.

sorry I haven't got any proper advice. I had my termination with MSI. Not sure if they can help in your area if a termination is what you 100% want.

lots of love and hugs to you ❤️

can you try another abortion provider? Hope you’re ok, it’s a stressful time waiting around for appointments etc. Can you book a counselling session with bpas/new provider in the meantime?

I did yh i rang all 3 and closest they could get me is with NUPAS on Wednesday which is still days away ill be 6 weeks and they said pills can take 5-7 workings days! Msi was friday 29th! So ages away its difficult i tried private wanted £400 🙈

What! That does seem a long time. I don’t understand why they are needing to scan if you know when you ovulated and regardless if you will deffo be under 8 weeks anyway? Is there a NUPAS near ish you maybe you can go and collect the pills instead of waiting for post?

This is a good shout I will have a look! And no clue! She said doctor wont sign me off because I said I had irregular periods which is normal because I gave birth 9 months ago lol but she said doctors won't sign it off unless you had a scan 🤷‍♀️ wish I never said it now I had no idea it would mean that tbf

So Nupas has also said i need a scan so I paid private today was awful as the place i went to is for happiness and wanted babies i saw everything little heartbeat the lot i had no choice i cant wait another 5 days for the pills i sent off the scan report to bpas in hopes its enough to start the process i am 5 weeks 6 days it's just been awful

Just incase someone comes across this by going private scan Bpas accepted it and are finally sending the pills

I’m so glad you managed to get it sorted what a nightmare. Hope you’re ok as can be x