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Pregnancy choices

This topic is for sharing experiences of pregnancy choices; to debate the ethics of termination, visit our Politics or Chat forums.

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Anxious24 · 10/07/2025 14:43

I’m 40 I had an abortion in November as I thought I couldn’t cope life was ruined. Had severe depression. Worst thing I’ve ever done. I’m suicidal.
Will another baby help with the pain? I have 2 children just turned 2 and 4. I hate what I’ve done to them. I was on top of the world before this. That is what I was scared of losing. I am married. My husband wanted the baby

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LilyMumsnet · 10/07/2025 14:54

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our mental health resources.

You can also go to the Samaritans website, or email them on [email protected]

Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

We're going to move your thread over to our mental health topic now.

SilverScales · 11/07/2025 02:45

Hello @Anxious24 , I don't have advice for you about having another baby, but I wanted to say that I think you're a good person, and I am sending internet hugs to you. Worry, fear, panic, and anxiety are terrible webs to get stuck in, and you got too caught up in them to know what you really wanted. Be gentle with yourself and I hope you can find a way to heal and be the best mum to your children that you can.

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