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Late abortion

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Preeti156 · 27/07/2024 07:39

Hi
iam Currently pregnant and I went to a clinic and I was 23+2 days and I was emotional there as it was very busy with men and woman and a church table outside.
they refused the abortion as they said I was emotional but was scared as I have health issues.
They are saying it is is now to late to get treatment even though I want to terminate due to health conditions and I have 3 children who have disabilities one severe, Iam struggling with my mental health where they said no and no where is open the weekend. I’m struggling to breath with copd too.
has anyone got an abortion at 23 weeks 6 days thanks
sorry if this is a sensitive subject but my heath is deteriorating have asked for a referral to a hospital but not heard anything. Thanks

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Preeti156 · 27/07/2024 15:29

Werweisswohin · 27/07/2024 09:09

No practical advice to add @Preeti156 but I hope you get the support you need. Ignore those judging when they haven't walked in your shoes.

Thanks, exactly that. I think my scan dates are wrong so see if they can rescan me

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Babyboomtastic · 28/07/2024 23:28

I'm working on the assumption that it's 'too late' because realistically I think it is.

As you are past viability, if your health deteriorates to the point where the doctors are sufficiently worried about it, they'll induce you. If they induced you today (rather than an abortion) your baby would be about 70% likely to survive. Another 3 weeks and survival is 90% plus. If your health means you need to deliver, then that's what they'll do and either baby will make it or they won't. Obviously this will be based on a clinical assessment of your health and your needs.

You also don't have to raise this baby if you don't want or don't feel you are able.

Having a post viability abortion is such a huge decision, and can have such long term consequences for you that they have to be very very sure that it's truly what you want. That you aren't under pressure, or is a panic, or a mental health crisis etc. It would be difficult for them to be that sure under such pressure.

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Preeti156 · 30/07/2024 01:25

I went to the hospital today and they said Iam over what I thought. So Iam keeping the baby. Think it is a shock but will have to start getting my head around it and getting things prepared. I never struggle with mental health think it’s all the hormones and I’ve just turned 39 and think am I too old for this. But there is nothing I can do. I walked out of two clinics as I could go through with it and the hospital said it is too late.

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Preeti156 · 30/07/2024 01:31

Babyboomtastic · 28/07/2024 23:28

I'm working on the assumption that it's 'too late' because realistically I think it is.

As you are past viability, if your health deteriorates to the point where the doctors are sufficiently worried about it, they'll induce you. If they induced you today (rather than an abortion) your baby would be about 70% likely to survive. Another 3 weeks and survival is 90% plus. If your health means you need to deliver, then that's what they'll do and either baby will make it or they won't. Obviously this will be based on a clinical assessment of your health and your needs.

You also don't have to raise this baby if you don't want or don't feel you are able.

Having a post viability abortion is such a huge decision, and can have such long term consequences for you that they have to be very very sure that it's truly what you want. That you aren't under pressure, or is a panic, or a mental health crisis etc. It would be difficult for them to be that sure under such pressure.

Thanks. It was to late. I had several different date and they measured the baby today and I’m 26 weeks so nothing they can do now. I feel bad for even thinking of it but think I’m over whelmed with having 3 children with disability’s and my copd and breathing is playing up. They told me to register with a midwife which I will do and see if they can get me councilling and help me control my breathing. Think I need a full check by the midwife and see what they can do to help me and to help clear my head.
that is true I was panicking I think.
wonder how early they can induce me if my breathing keeps being bad. I’ve told my family and my children today as kept it all a secret and they said they will support me and to keep the baby. My mum said once it’s done there is no going back and that did make me think about the whole situation

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Preeti156 · 30/07/2024 01:35

Thankyou

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LBFseBrom · 30/07/2024 05:27

I am sorry, Preeti156 , but I do wish you well. I'm glad your famiy is being suoportive.

MumChp · 30/07/2024 07:07

Preeti156 · 30/07/2024 01:25

I went to the hospital today and they said Iam over what I thought. So Iam keeping the baby. Think it is a shock but will have to start getting my head around it and getting things prepared. I never struggle with mental health think it’s all the hormones and I’ve just turned 39 and think am I too old for this. But there is nothing I can do. I walked out of two clinics as I could go through with it and the hospital said it is too late.

Adoption is a option. Be kind to yourself.

Werweisswohin · 30/07/2024 13:54

@Preeti156 I'm glad you have family support and wish you lots of strength and courage in the coming weeks. 💐💐💐

SparkyBlue · 31/07/2024 22:37

OP take care of yourself and I wish you the very best.

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Preeti156 · 02/05/2025 21:28

just want to thank everyone for the chat, I had my baby and Iam so glad I did, I love him so much I really do and I’m glad I didn’t go ahead with any decisions I would have regretted. Thanks for all the advice and Iam so happy he is here :)

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Noseybookworm · 02/05/2025 21:46

Preeti156 · 02/05/2025 21:28

just want to thank everyone for the chat, I had my baby and Iam so glad I did, I love him so much I really do and I’m glad I didn’t go ahead with any decisions I would have regretted. Thanks for all the advice and Iam so happy he is here :)

Congratulations on your wonderful news 💐 look after yourself lovely ☺️

Marmite27 · 03/05/2025 10:57

Congratulations!

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Preeti156 · 03/05/2025 22:29

Thankyou. I sure will do. Thankyou so much for the chat I really do appreciate it, Iam so happy and blessed that he is here. I wasn’t thinking straight at all at the time and glad I made the right choice. Iam so happy I did. Thankyou :)

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Preeti156 · 03/05/2025 22:32

Marmite27 · 03/05/2025 10:57

Congratulations!

Thankyou so much

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Preeti156 · 03/05/2025 22:34

Noseybookworm · 02/05/2025 21:46

Congratulations on your wonderful news 💐 look after yourself lovely ☺️

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Thankyou, these threads have been helpful to talk about things. Will do. I’m so much happier now, think sometimes you just get scared but Iam so glad he is here and coping fine :)

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