Hi. I’m unexpectedly pregnant with my second child. I already have one baby - he is 12 months old and I had terrible PNA and PND after having him. I’ve just returned to full time work in a brand new and very full on role, and we’ve just bought a new house which will mean that financially we will be stretched anyway, without bringing a second baby into the mix.
It just doesn’t feel right bringing a baby into all this upheaval and change. And I just don’t know if mentally I would cope with having 2 so close together, when I suffered so much with just the one. I was hoping to wait until he was much older before considering trying again.
im feeling doubly guilty because the experiences you seem to read of mothers doing this, they tend to have had all their children and not want anymore. Im not necessarily done having children. Im just by no means in the place mentally, physically, or financially to have one at the moment.
my partner wants the baby but is supportive of whatever decision I make. I am booked in for a scan and MA on Tuesday.
I just wanted to know if anyone had been through anything similar, if you regretted the decision, or if you actually don’t regret it at all. Im looking for any kind of advice and reassurance really.
Please, be kind. I also understand that it isn’t common for abortions with just one child, and i am beating myself up enough.
thank you.