Abortion help please :(

[padavale929]

I’ve just found out I am pregnant, judging by my last period I could be about 8 weeks, 9 weeks Tuesday.
Im not with the father, this has happened because I was moving and ended up missing two of my pills.
I already have children, I’ve just started a new job, financially I cannot afford it and tbh I’ve only just been able to have a bit of me time while all my kids are in full time school.
I’ve decided to have an abortion, I have a doctors appointment tomorrow because I tried contacting BPAS and they don’t cover my area
I am absolutely petrified. I don’t know what to expect, what if it isn’t successful, how much pain am I going to be in..
I just really need some words of reassurance right now and to hear some experiences and what people would advise is the best sort of abortion to have?
Because of covid a lot of places are making you take the tablets at home but I’m scared I won’t do that right and the pregnancy will continue.
Then if I have a surgical what if they miss it and the pregnancy continues that way?
I am so scared. I’m in limbo. I really could just do with a big hug right now and some friendly advise.
Thank you x

I lost a lot of blood but I’m
Doing fine and don’t regret the choice. I am glad that it was more
Straightforward than I had imagined. I had three
Counselling sessions (two before, one after) I found it helped but it was mostly to stave off any potential PND once the hormones dropped as I have a terrible time anytime my levels change. Glad to hear you are well xxxxx

I’m with you girl, I wasn’t expecting it to be how it was. I laid in bed all day and when I did have pain I was expecting there to be more if that makes sense? I’m glad you had the support though babe, it is nice to know it’s there if you need it🤍 I think I found the whole thing a lot easier as I told my close friends and 3 of them had been through the same. None of my friends judged me, my mam was really supportive and had my oldest stay with her yesterday while my youngest were with their dad. Like I said I wouldn’t do it again, but I don’t regret it and I don’t feel upset or sad about it. There’s such a huge stigma around it and I don’t think people are right to judge especially when they don’t know peoples circumstances. Massive hugs lovely xxxxx

Glad you're okay, OP. Take it easy and be kind to yourself for a bit.

Can please someone help I'm so scared and shaken I've taken my first tab yesterday and now im bleeding haven't had second until tomorrow is that ok?

@Relaxing2 babe it’s absolutely fine. About 5% do bleed after first tablet. But even if you think you pass it continue with second stage. I’m here for you xxx

You can always call NHS 24 if you want reassurance, Relaxing.

It can be a difficult thing to go through, but the nurses are great and supportive wherever you go, or on phone through BPAS.

Different women can experience it differently in terms of the length of time it takes to respond to the pills and although its understandable to worry, you will be ok

So thanks to @padavale929 for sharing your story, and reassurances to others.

You have got this.

❤️❤️

I’m just about to start the second lot of pills and to say I’m a nervous wreck is an understatement I haven’t stopped crying with the fear all day x

@Mumto3ggb I was very very scared myself. I read so much online that petrified me. But I wasn’t that bad. Relax. I laid in bed all day. I was absolutely fine babe try and chill in bed if you can xxx

@padavale929 I’ve just took a cocodamal so going to do the pills soon the fear is unreal I’m going to watch telly and try relax x

Aww thank you very much I phoned the clinic and she said it was normal thanks for supporting me x

I’m here I’ll be here all night if you need me to. It’s okay to be scared you don’t know what to expect I was the same but just did it to get it over with. I’m here for you xxx

@padavale929 thank you I still haven’t done it I can’t bring myself to I’m literally terrified. I have got cramps tho from taking the first pill yesterday x

@Relaxing2 I’m here for you girl. It’s not a nice thing to have to go through, but honestly I’m back in work today and I’m doing really well. There’s sooo much stuff I read about how traumatic it is, how painful etc. But me myself I didn’t find anything traumatising, I wasn’t in agony. I had a hot water bottle and cwtched up in bed all day and night. You’ll be absolutely fine, I promise. I. Here for you xxx

I can’t thank the girls on here enough for the support, I was a stranger frightened of being judged and everyone of you helped me and comforted me, I’ll be forever grateful x

Glad to hear it was ok and you didn't feel too bad x take care

And to everyone else dealing with this too

Well girls. I thought this ordeal was over and I had him out of my life. I found out he’s given me chlamydia and on top of that I’ve got a womb infection too 😭 got to go to the hospital tomorrow to treat the chlamydia and I’ve got the doctors about my infection. The abortion went so smoothly I was waiting for something do for wrong. I feel absolutely disgusting 😢

@padavale929 I’m so sorry to hear that as if things haven’t been bad enough now your having to go through this too.. sending big hugs and hoping your feeling better soon ❤️ Xx

Oh no! I hope you can get quick results once you start that treatment.

More sympathy coming your way

Aww I'm so sorry to hear this hunni I'm
Here for you can I ask how did you find out you had an infection did you show symptoms?

@Relaxing2 my bleeding had stopped after a couple of days. But day before yesterday I had a bit of pain in my stomach and smelly brown discharge. I only know it’s an infection because I had one after having 2 of my kids. So I’ve got to have antibiotics to clear that and chlamydia now 🙄xx

Sweetheart I feel for you I really do and thanks

Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear that. Chlamydia is such a silent thing that without the pregnancy you could've then had it for years after and got PID and it be much worse. It's a tiny blessing. This happened to me.
Now he's going around giving it to other women and not knowing. Awful.

I hope your further appointments go well my dear.

I'm sorry, OP. Hope you feel better soon.