Medical termination tomorrow please HELP

[Winternights812]

Hi everyone,
This is my first time on mumsnet, it took me a while to firstly find how to start my own thread and now that I'm here I'm not really sure what to say.

I'm about 6 weeks pregnant, I called BPAS and I had my consultation and the nurse then sent me my pill package in the post. I'm so scared and worried, I can't even sleep. I've taken my first pill, but the other 4 I'll insert tomorrow.

I've read so many horror stories and now I'm so scared. It's my first time pregnant, I don't want my family to know or worry, my fiancé knows, but he lives in another city and doesn't really know how to help me properly.

Please let me know what I should do, should I take codeine and ibuprofen 30 mins before taking the 4 pills? I'm just so scared, I'm so sorry 😭

[ChickaboomZoom]

@Winternights812

It’s going to be ok. Sounds like you’ve done everything right so far with the meds etc. Maybe have an early night and try to rest. If nothing happens overnight you can ring the helpline in the morning for more advice and reassurance.
Have you been in touch with your partner? Has he been supportive? I can understand not wanting to tell your mum (I told mine both times and regretted it both times) but maybe think about some online counselling for after, it can only help. You are brave and strong and you will come through this. You’ve got a group of lovely ladies here who have got your back xx

[Mel1917]

Hope you're doing OK. If I remmeber correctly bpas open 24 hours to talk to a nurse if need be with any concerns. Xx

[Cinderellashoes]

Hope you are ok

[Winternights812]

@Bettydot thank you lovelies, you're all so helpful! Thank you and I've now been able to get through on the helpline x

@mel1917 @chickaboomZoom I did call the Bpas helpline just now, I was trying to get through earlier but they were busy :(
The lady on the phone told me to wait 24hrs, so till 2:30pm tomorrow, she said I should bleed by then, but if I don't, I'll need to call back, but so far what's happening is normal. My fiancé does know, he's been checking up on me all day and trying to research what's happening. He's been very reassuring too, he found some other ladies experiences online, who didn't bleed till 24-48hours later and were worried when they hadn't, it makes me feel slightly better x

Thank you all so much, I feel like I have my own little family on here now

[Yellowcakestand]

I hope its all okay for you.
I've got my telephone appt on Friday for the same. Getting nervous about it all now. Only found out yesterday that I was pregnant but just split with partner who has loads of issues going on he can't cope with. I'm a single mum.

[ChickaboomZoom]

@Winternights812

Glad to hear you got some reassurance from the helpline and also your fiancé (sounds like a good guy). Hope you can rest a bit and take it easy tonight. We are all here for you.

[Bettydot]

@Winternights812 glad you’ve got through to the helpline. I hope they were able to give you some reassurance. I hope you can get some rest and that it all goes ok. I know you said you haven’t told your mum but if you struggle reach out to those who love and care for you. Far more people than you realise will have gone through similar.

[Winternights812]

@Yellowcakestand I wish you all the best my lovely, the wait is the most difficult part, you got this! x

[Winternights812]

@ChickaboomZoom aw thank you so much! Yes he's been helpful, I've been bothering him at work all day, because I was so paranoid and worried x

@Bettydot you're right x
If things don't get better I may have to tell my mum

Update: this is abit tmi, but when I inserted a finger in to check on the pills I put in earlier just now, I can still feel a few pills just there, like they're all the way up, but they haven't seemed to dissolve, shouldn't they have absorbed by now?

[Bettydot]

@Winternights812 please do, it’s a tough thing to do alone, even though I know you have your boyfriend for support. It’s also good to have support and more than one person to talk to afterwards too so you’ve got someone other than your partner checking in with you.

I’m not sure if they should have dissolved or not but if you have any doubts give bpas a call they are open 24/7 and it’s exactly what they are there for. Try not to worry.

[ChickaboomZoom]

@Winternights812
How are you doing today hun?

[Winternights812]

@Bettydot yes it's really difficult to do alone :( I called bpas last night, they said they should've dissolved as much as they're supposed to by then

@chickaboomZoom I still haven't had any bleeding, I'm so worried now, I've called bpas, waiting for the nurse to call me now x

[Bettydot]

@Winternights812 I hope you hear from the nurse soon, the waiting for it to happen must be really tough. It sounds like your boyfriend is lovely and supportive. I hope you’re doing ok xxx

[Winternights812]

Hey @Bettydot the nurse just called me x
She said I'll need to be booked in for a scan and follow up appointment asap, so their clinic will be giving me a call. She said if I do end up bleeding as I wait then I will need to call and let them know, I'm hoping I do end up bleeding soon x

For some people I've read it took them 2 days for the pills to actually take action, I hope that's in my case too. They keep asking me for symptoms of an ectopic pregnancy, but I don't have any of the symptoms. I guess I just have to wait

[Bettydot]

@Winternights812 I’m keeping everything crossed that the pills start to work for you very soon, I guess everyone’s body is different. If not though hopefully they’ll be able to get you booked in very soon and you’ll be in good hands. I think the waiting is the worst part. I hope you’re doing ok.

[ChickaboomZoom]

@Winternights812oh I’m so sorry it’s been dragging out. I have heard that it can take longer for some women however. Hopefully the follow up with the clinic can shed some light if the bleeding hasn’t picked up by then. Will be thinking of you.

[Winternights812]

@Bettydot @chickaboomZoom I think I'm having ectopic pregnancy symptoms, TMI I had brown watery discharge and I'm having slight rib pains

[Bettydot]

@Winternights812 I’m sorry to hear that. Could you give 111 a call to get advice or your local early pregnancy unit? It sounds like you need a scan so you know what’s happening. Here for a handhold, I know it’s a horrible thing to go through and you must be worried but it’ll all be ok xxx

[Mel1917]

Oh im so sorry to hear it hasn't all started for you. Hopefully you get to the bottom of it soon. Poor you it's awful the waiting. I'm going for a scan tomorrow.. Something I really wanted to avoid but I still feel pregnant after my medical abortion so want to be on the "safe" side.
Have you been booked for yours? Bpas aftercare we were really great for me this evening. X

[ChickaboomZoom]

@Winternights812
Sorry to hear this hun - could you ring maybe 111 and explain your symptoms? I definitely think a scan is needed, overall it’s a shame that they aren’t really offering scans as routine before medical terminations I guess because of the pandemic? They only gave me one because I’m still breastfeeding my 1yr old and they wanted to be sure of my dates...
Really hope things get sorted for you soon and this limbo is over and you can start to heal. It’s going to be ok. Xx

[Bohoboo]

So sorry to hear what's happening to you. It might be a good time to talk to your Mum. If my daughter was going through this I would so want to be there for her. Of course she will worry but I'm sure she would rather worry and know she can be there for you. Sending hugs for the next few hours .

[opmamatrist]

Hope you're ok OP, sending love xx

[Winternights812]

@Bettydot @ChickaboomZoom @Mel1917 @Bohoboo @opmamatrist thank you so much all of you lovely ladies, I would not feel even "ok" right now without such support from you beautiful people x

I went to a&e I was checked immediately and the lady felt around my tummy alot and said it's not an ectopic pregnancy. So I returned home, I called BPAS aftercare and they were giving me an appointment for the 10th of December?! I told her that's too far and so she said I'll have to travel 47miles away to Northampton (I live in Birmingham currently), I've agreed, but I don't think I'll be able to sit that long especially if I'm in pain now :(

What can I do, shall I ask for a closer appointment, even if it's half an hour I don't mind, but that's over an hour away for me

[opmamatrist]

[quote Winternights812]**@Bettydot* @ChickaboomZoom @Mel1917 @Bohoboo @opmamatrist* thank you so much all of you lovely ladies, I would not feel even "ok" right now without such support from you beautiful people x

I went to a&e I was checked immediately and the lady felt around my tummy alot and said it's not an ectopic pregnancy. So I returned home, I called BPAS aftercare and they were giving me an appointment for the 10th of December?! I told her that's too far and so she said I'll have to travel 47miles away to Northampton (I live in Birmingham currently), I've agreed, but I don't think I'll be able to sit that long especially if I'm in pain now :(

What can I do, shall I ask for a closer appointment, even if it's half an hour I don't mind, but that's over an hour away for me[/quote]
No worries hun, if you call them and explain your situation they may be able to be more accommodating? Especially if you're in pain, also Birmingham will be in tier 3 so it's not recommended you leave the area too.

[Bettydot]

@Winternights812 I’m glad it’s not an eptopic pregnancy but I’m so sorry you’re still waiting to see what’s going on. That seems like a really long time to wait especially if you’re in pain. Did the hospital give you the option of being scanned? Is it worth giving bpas a call again today and keep seeing if they have any cancellations? I had a surgical termination at just over five weeks earlier this year and was surprised by the waits but in the end I was able to get a cancellation for a telephone consultation which speeded things up a little though I had to travel a 1.5 hours to get an earlier appointment. Have they explained what will happen at the appointment you have booked, will they just scan or would you have the option of a surgical termination that day once they’ve scanned or will you then have to wait again? I hope you’ve had some rest and you’re doing ok x