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Giving your baby up for adoption

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Dee96 · 21/04/2020 19:38

I've searched all over the internet for peoples experiences with this and cant seem to find anything so thought I'd make this forum. Quick background, I found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks ago due to failed contraception. I only had a termination last year and am still recovering from it to this day. Its horrible , and dont wish to relive it again. Today I went to my appointment at Marie stopes to find out that they timed my pregnancy wrong, they thought I was 5 weeks but after doing a scan I'm nearly 10. This has completely thrown me. When I had an abortion last year it was just a sac, and though I felt awful it helped knowing this. But this time round its developing and the idea of getting rid of something with a heartbeat doesnt sit right with me. I've tried to discuss my third option, adoption, with both my sister and oh however they both think it has its own implications and I wont be able to go through with it. I'm not for one second under estimating how hard this would be, but I think surely giving life is better than taking it. Has anyone else taken this route and if so how did you feel about it afterwards? Honestly its not even an abortion that scares me but the mental aftermath. I like to think I'd feel better in myself doing this.

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TeenDivided · 27/10/2022 11:57

@Lostmum2b I couldn't quite follow your post due to the typos, but I just wanted to send you Flowers and say I hope you get the support you need to make the best choice for yourself. If you are thinking of relinquishing your baby you can post on the Adoption board for support.

OrigamiSnowball · 28/10/2022 13:02

Yes Lostmum, adoption can be a loving choice. Instead of "giving the baby up for adoption," people are now saying "placing the baby in an adoptive home," or "making an adoption plan." I like those better since "giving up" can have a negative connotation. Adoption is not an easy choice but many people in this world have fulfilling lives as adopted children. My mother-in-law had three children biologically and wanted more but her doctor said it was too risky for her, so she adopted two more and they are now a wonderful blended family (the babies she adopted are now 22 and 19, and doing very well). You can always call an adoption agency or get more info here: www.talkaboutadoption.org All my best to you, I know this can't be easy for your mother's heart.

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