So unsure

[redlorrygreenlorry]

I'm pregnant with dc 4. I've been unsure what to do since I was 5 weeks. I'm 15 now.
Dp is over the moon. I'm not. I already struggle with the 3dc I work every afternoon until early evening so only 5 hours 6 days per week.
He's full time 5/6 days per week.
I just don't feel like I have enough hours a day as it without adding another to the mix.
I did think about termination weeks ago but buried my head in the sand so to speak.
I briefly mentioned to dp I was thinking about a termination and got asked by him if I was seriously considering 'murdering our child'
I feel even worse than I did now after that comment and nothing else has been mentioned today.
I'm at a total loss of what to do.
Please help

Just bumping

Gosh, you poor thing, what a difficult position to be in.

Do you really want to terminate? 20 weeks is a long time to bury your head in the sand. Or do you want more support from your DH in looking after the children you share.

Try talking to your DH again but do what is best for you.

Hi @redlorrygreenlorry

Was it planned or not? I have been up and down so much throughout my pregnancy 26 weeks now. Worrying if I'd made a mistake and its horrible. You will be fine

Sorry not much advice but didn't want to read and run x

I'm sorry, OP but 15 weeks is too late for termination IMO. Unless there's a medical reason.

15 weeks is not too late to terminate, it doesn't matter about anyone's personal opinion, the OP can choose to end her pregnancy up to 24 weeks.

What strikes me though is that you've had to deal with this alone as your husband has made it impossible for you to confide your worries without fear of being judged.

Could you try contacting BPAS and arrange to talk to someone there? You don't have to have an abortion to access their pregnancy counselling.