Abortion scan please please help desperate

[tryingtobestronger]

I went for a scan yesterday, assuming Id be having my abortion on Wednesday and Thursday of this week.

My lmp dates suggest im just over 7 weeks.

My scan showed I was around 5. They said I need to go back in two weeks time to redo the scan as they need to see a embryo and all they saw was a pregnancy sac (normal for 5 weeks).
I am so upset. Will I be over 9 weeks when I go back? Nurse said no- I will be around 7 weeks.
What date did your scan go by?
I'm really struggling, have no one to talk to and I'm so confused . Please someone help im begging you.

I didn't say you were crazy. But I do think your anxiety is through the roof. It seems you could do with some additional support at this difficult time?

Tryingtobestronger I mean! I put tryingtobesober!

Plenty of people are here talking to you. May I suggest you reach out to your GP tomorrow and discuss this with them? You want to have an abortion which you will eventually get but I think you need to be supported in other ways too. You appear at least to me to end up rather hysterical which I can appreciate given your anxiety and fear but it does seem at times to weigh far over the edge of normal.
Try and keep calm and speak to someone who knows what they are doing tomorrow.

I think maybe I am crazy. I'm not usually crazy but now I am. This has made me.

I don't want an operation. I'm sorry about your miscarriage.

I feel so selfish.
He doesn't agree with it, I think he wants to keep the baby. And it's against his religion. But he says ots my decision if that's what I want.

Trying to be sober. At least I'm managing that

Try and work out why this is making you crazy then because it doesn't need to. It's hard, you have tough decisions to make but aside from that if you are set on an abortion you will probably have to have an operation, that's just how it is.
Your best bet is to speak to a professional who can discuss your options with you though. That will hopefully put your mind at rest about what will happen.

Well hopefully my error put a smile on your face! So typical of me honestly. I'm so clumsy it's unreal. It sounds like to me that this has hit him hard, and I don't think he means the "it's your choice do what you want" as it sounds like to me that he wants to keep it. I can imagine you feel awful when people miscarry and you are choosing to terminate. But don't feel bad. And your not selfish. Would another baby really be so bad? Because this might end up breaking you up. But I'm no counsellor etc. He needs to be talking to you, altho I can see how support on here is a little helpful for you too.

And you are not crazy etc. Your just hurting and are stuck in a situation that you would rather not be in. Your scared which o can fully understand.

They said I'm having the pills and the don't do the operations in my hospital. My lazy boy is still asleep. I'm trying to hide my sobbing. I hope I stop I don't want it to be the first thing he hears when he wakes. We had a good few days I been really trying

If he was here a baby would be ok. Good even. He's not. I can't and don't want to do it by myself. A baby is more likely to split us up at the moment.

I've made him sound evil on here. He's so sweet. Even something against his wishes and religion and what he knows, he still hasn't shouted at me over it. We just argued because of how I'm dealing with it.

He does want to keep it .

It's normal to have an abortion with the pills. That breaks it all up. You then bleed it out like a heavy period to my knowledge. Probably heavier but I wouldn't know. You could probably have the operation but would have to pay to go private. Because it's NHS they won't do ops etc & there is a lot of stigma about abortions. A lot of places don't agree to it. But that doesn't mean women don't have the right to choose to have one.

I want the pills. I want them now and I know they can't give it now and I understand they do what they can. It's driving me crazy. I'm afraid every day that goes past I'll get attached. Or it'll make the process worse.
I just want to be the mum I was before, for my son.

I've really really been trying. And I was doing so well these last few days. Why today am i melting down again

Yer I get you. You just want it over with. But they have to do what they have to do. They have to check if it's actually a baby etc, as you can just get a sac & no baby. These pills are very harsh on the body, they need to make sure they are giving you them only if you need it.

Why are they harsh.
If it's just a sack can I still have the pills. So scared

It's 10.18 and exhausted . This morning his tired me out

Coz they can't give you it if there is nothing there. It strips your womb of the entire lining It's not harsh as in takes it out of you, its just a big thing on the womb. But I'm no Doctor! Just try to chill out. Don't be so harsh on yourself.

As for if its only a sac I don't know. I'd ring them Monday n get info from them.

I've phoned them so much. I bet they are so annoyed at me.

My scan showed only a sac (well, at least to my eyes - although they could've detected something more) and I had mine the week after. Think I was about 6/7 weeks though.

You are not mad. You do seem to have extremely high anxiety, which is probably worse as you've not got your husband or close family nearby. I think you should discuss your anxiety with a GP and maybe write a letter so it's easier to explain how you've been feeling.

Honestly, you will have an abortion. It is your total right and they won't stop you at all! So don't worry about that.

Mine was a few years ago and I read the horror stories beforehand too!

Here's my honest and realistic account of what actually happened:

I went to the clinic the first day and they gave me a suppository thing that I had to insert to start softening the womb or something.

I think I may have had a little spotting, but I don't remember any particular symptoms that night. Then I went home and returned the following day to take the pills orally with the nurse, and was sent home for things to occur as I had my husband at home with me. They also gave me painkillers for the cramps and antibiotics for afterwards to prevent infection.

It was an hour train ride back from the clinic, I think, and just before getting to our home station and getting in the car I started to feel period-like cramps. This was probably two-four hours after taking the oral tablet.

By the time I got home I was experiencing some painful period-like cramps and bleeding and just sat on the sofa in a blanket. After an hour or so of this I took the painkillers they gave me, I felt the urge to sit on the loo and was sick a couple of times (apparently the pills can have this effect) and passed the pregnancy.

Almost straightaway the cramps got better and were much more bearable! I was tired and felt crap, but the whole process was only a few hours. I bled for a couple of weeks after, but felt fine.

There was some guilt, but mostly relief to be honest. You can feel how you want to feel. You are not selfish and it's not the crazy experience people online make it out to be. It's unpleasant and hurts, but it's quick and you'll be under medical supervision too (I was at home and probably would've preferred to be in hospital as I could've asked nurses questions etc.)

Hope this helps a bit in giving a realistic and not sensational account of what it's like!

Hang in there and do go and see your GP to help manage your anxiety.

Bleak- thank u so much. That made me cry a little (with relief this time).

I need honest true stories. I just want it to go straightforward like yours

Discharge has defo stopped

Seeing people posting about mis carrying on here and I feel so selfish

Anyone around for a chat?