I'm pregnant, and I don't think I want to be. What are my option?

[JasmineBuckles]

That, really. New relationship, contraception failure.
Relationship is great, but too new to withstand this I think.

Should I tell him?

If I don't tell him, how fast can I sort it out, given that I'm at most 4 weeks?
I've been having sex on the pill for the best part of sixteen years and never had a fuck up, so I have no clue what to do.

Oh fuck off Gin. If you don't want to have an abortion don't have one, but don't come and preach at others.

It's the OP's decision to make, and she's made it.

FWIW, I had an abortion six years ago. Don't regret it and am not traumatised by it.

GinandJag the only selfish person here is you.
OP, good luck with everything.

Its either tell him before, or never, as I don't think he'd forgive me if I told him after the fact.

I think that's true.

OP, only you know whether you think you'll be able to keep that secret if you stay together. People do, people keep the deepest secrets from each other while still loving each other very much and being honest in every other aspect of their relationship.

Only you know whether you think you'll be able to do that.

Fwiw, I do think you are in a very awkward position and while I don't think I could do that personally, I completely understand why you feel that not telling him is the right thing to do, given what you feel his reaction will be.

I really think that you are making a big mistake lying about this.

If you tell him then he may pressure you to keep the baby, make you feel bad and there's a good chance you'll split up.

If you don't tell him then forever more you will have the worry of him somehow finding out hanging over you. That isn't the basis for a happy relationship and if he ever finds out you will split up.

FWIW personally I don't like the sound of him that much from your posts. Why doesn't he see his daughter if he's going to be such a wonderful father? Her mother can't just stop him, unless there is more to it. After 4 months the extent of the seriousness to me also sounds controlling.

So, it appears my choices may have been taken out of my control. This afternoon I started bleeding.

Not really heavily, but with some clots and some serious cramping.

I don't know what to do now. Christmas is imminent, should I just let things happen or do I need to see someone before the 5th of jan?

Oh dear, poor you.

You probably need to speak to someone medical to know whether you should just wait it out or if you need to do anything.

[http://www.nhs.uk/NHSEngland/AboutNHSservices/Emergencyandurgentcareservices/Pages/NHS-111.aspx 111 is the NHS non-emergency number]] (used to be called NHS Direct)

Link sorry

Hope you're feeling ok, Jasmine. Hope you got some good advice from 111 and/or can see a doctor in the morning.

How are you today OP?

I'm sorry, jasmine. How are you feeling today?