Pregnancy post-MC, bring your cake but no more wine or tightie whities - Totally's Grads continued part 3....

[clareanna]

Alba- your wish is my command!!

Hey Jollster!!

Hi Everyone,

Just letting you know that our scan went really well today . I can't quite believe it. As soon as they put on the ultrasound we could see the heartbeat, they measured everything and all was normal which is just great. It was just mind boggling how much it has grown since the 12 week scan. I can safely say that today is the first time since we have been pregnant that I feel even remotely relaxed, it lasted about an hour and feel my usual worried self again now (!) but definitely definitely relieved that today went well. Sooo happy.

MW did say at the end 'gosh you are as stressed as hell' - it kind of frustrates me cos if she had just read my notes she would have seen this pregnancy is straight off the back of a miscarriage with no period in between. Oh well not letting it bother me, what's important is that baby is doing well so far.

We didn't find out the gender so got a surprise waiting for us on 8th December!

I did notice at one stage the computer had put me 2 days ahead of my current dates, they didn't change my dates but it's good news as that would make me exactly on the dates I thought. Sticking to the original dates of 20 week tomorrow though and if baby does come early then an added bonus.

So now we get to start thinking about all these things that I know nothing about i.e. buggies, hospital bags etc! Great to have to start looking at them.

Anyhow ladies sorry this is so self indulgent.. i'm a quick typer in my defense! Just going to get some food and will log back in later to name check.

Have a great afternoon Ladies

Hi all

Just had my booking appointment with midwife (am 11 weeks today and sick as all hell). It feels a bit more real now, but am counting down to next week's scan as I have no idea what might be in there. Anyone else getting babycentre updates? I find it quite weird to read about "fully formed fingers and toes" when I half expect to lose this one too.

Clareanna - your experience with mw sounds awful - I had an idiot GP who totally ignored me when I said I'd had a MC and was worried about it (at about 6 wks when I signed up as pregnant) even though (perhaps because) I burst into tears. His total inability to say ANYTHING useful upset me for weeks afterwards.

Yay for HappyGirl, really pleased for you. Ceec, fingers crossed this one is fine- the sickness is a good sign (or so everyone kept telling me!)

Clareanna good for you re. midwife. Mine annoyed me at my booking in (at 7 weeks!) by asking me loads of things like "are you planning to breastfeed?"- erm, quite like to know I have a decent chance at a baby first... she didn't seem to quite get the fear factor even though I'd told her my mc and emphasised how worried we were. Grrrr. Jolls hope yours is more sensitive tomorrow!

2 more days at work for me then the school holidays, can't wait!

Hello to everyone else and have a lovely evening ladies

Hello - great news Muser and Happygirl, you must be so relieved. Hope you really can start to relax now Happy its a long slog these first few weeks.

Clare can't believe a MW would be so tactless. My GP unintentionally upset me by being confused about why I wasn't full term but she was really nice about it. Surely a MW should know better, good on yoou for giving her a row!

Well I had my scan this morning and feel slightly better but have a new concern. Baby in right place and we saw a heartbeat but measuring at 6 weeks when I know for sure i am 7+3. I think this also happened to you Ladybee? I think it worries me more because I had a scan at 7 weeks with the LO we lost, where we also saw a heartbeat but the bean measured closer to 5 weeks. Trying to convince myself this isn't a bad sign and am feeling marginally better. I still have virtually no symptoms and can't understand why I'm not sick.

The hospital were pretty good and have said I can come back for another scan in 2 weeks - rather than waiting 5 for the 12 week one. Hope you got on ok today Jollster and that everyone else is well x

Moo I was measuring at 7 instead of 8, but the sonographer said it's too hard to be accurate at this stage so not to worry about it. Not sure if that helps at all, but try to stay positive.

Thanks Muser, that does make me feel a wee bit better. The sonographer also told us I have a haematoma and that she was just telling me that in case I got some bleeding that it would likely be the cause. Does anyone have any experience of this? She said they sometimes form during implantation. Its quite clear on the scan, just to the side of the baby and yolk sac. DH thought we were having twins at first!

Hi Moofold - I know exactly how you feel. When I had my early scan at what I knew I should have been 8+2, MW measured me at 7 weeks. I was just devastated and so so worried. THen though at the 12 week scan, they pushed me back up to 13 weeks. It's really worrying I know though but what I've since found out is that if the mw is even 1mm out at the scan then they can be a week wrong.. it's very easy for them to do.. also someone on here said that girls grow slower in the early weeks and then by 12 weeks catches up.. Fingers crossed for you it works out well.

Jollster best of luck for you too

CLareanna only catching up now - your MW sounds AWFUL. I just can't believe that you poor poor thing. HOpe you are okay.

Thanks Happy, that is reassuring to hear - especially since things are going so well for you now x

Oh dear. Moof put your fingers in your ears right now and don't listen. This is my story, but it in no way is a prediction for you.

So yesterday, I got a phone call from the hospital saying they had my referral and wanted to book me in this week. Hoorah I think, and make the appointment for this Friday. The day before I'd got my 11-14 week scan letter so was feeling quite chuffed that things were rolling along.
Went to the toilet and saw dark brown mucous-y discharge.
Thought to myself. "Well, that doesn't look great, but don't panic. The Gods of pregnancy after miscarriage are just having their evil jokes."
Then panicked. Thought about acheyness on Sunday, lack of symptoms, worries about scan etc.
So, arranged with DH that he would pick up DS after work and I would go to A&E to see if they can scan or refer me to EPAU the following morning.
Dark discharge continued through the day, I got to A&E and was referred to EPAU for today.
Got scanned this morning, after seeing the same nurse I saw for my previous MC. Same sonographer too.
No heartbeat. Bean appears to have stopped developing a few days, after the scan where the heartbeat was seen but measured smaller than expected. Maybe at 7 weeks.

I'm beyond . I guess I thought that getting pregnant again quite quickly after last MC made that one 'ok', but now this one hasn't worked out either and I don't know what to do with myself.
Nurse has said that as I've started spotting I may miscarry naturally in the next week or so and if not to come back for 'management'. She suggested that after that they would run some tests, which surprised me, but maybe they've got a lower threshold for slightly aged ones?

Oh god. I don't want to go through all this again. I don't want to tell my manager, I don't want to have to think about ttc again. You all know what I want but it's not happening this time for me.

I'm sorry, I know how terrifying it is to see this sort of news.
Can someone take me off the list please.

ladybee I am so sorry, and that is horrendous news. There is nothing I can offer to make you feel better, and I hope you are getting lots of love and cuddles from your DH and DS. To go through it once is really awful, but to have to go through twice, is unthinkable, I am sure that the hospital will be able to give you some reassurance from the tests.

Love Bunny

Ladybee - I'm so, so sorry. I know there are no platitudes that can make it better. Thinking of you and your family, hope you are getting lots of support in RL, and hope you know you can get it from us too.

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So, so sorry Bee, I am devastated for you - can't imagine how hard that must be. Such awful news. Look after yourself x

So very sorry Ladybee. Not. Fair. At All. There's nothing else to say, really, there's no way to make it better. You are going through what we all dread. You have my very deepest sympathy.

Take good care of yourself.

I'm so so sorry to hear your news LadyBee. My heart goes out to you. Be strong and take care of yourself! xx

ladybee so sorry to read your post. No words are enough. Thinking of you x

Oh LadyBee I'm so very very sorry. There's nothing to say, but know we're all here. Do take care.

LadyBee, so very sorry to hear your news.

I'm doing the list, with a heavy heart.

Wednesday's LIST

Meita - baby#1 - (not telling) - 36+1 wks, due 17th August
Boodleboot - baby#3 - 1DD {10} 1DS {5} - 32 wks - due 12th Sept
TFLS - baby#1 - 31 wks, due 23 Sept
LeeWT - baby#2 (DD1 2yrs) 31 wks, due 30th Sept
Louisesh - baby#1, 29+5 wks, due 1st Oct
Effilump - baby#5 (ds 22,15,16mnths. dd13) 27+1 wks EDD 18th Oct
SamanthaB123 baby#3(2x DD's 11 & 9 yrs) 27 wks, EDD 20th October
Sarahlou8 - baby#3 (DD 11, DS 9) 26+5 wks, EDD 22nd October
DomesticGOddess - baby#? 26+4 wks, EDD 22nd October
emmielou81 - baby#5 (DS 6, DD 3) - 26 wks, EDD 28th October
BestLaidPlans - baby#1, 23 wks EDD 14th November
Unbuffy - baby#2 (DD 18 months) - 21+4 wks EDD 27th November
HappyGirl - baby#1, 20 weeks, EDD 8th December
Zayja - baby#1 - 19+4 wks, EDD 11th December
Goodluckbear - baby#1, 18+4 wks, EDD 18th December
Malteser1981 - baby#1, 18+4 wks, EDD 18th December
Gilda - baby#1 - 17+4 wks, due 25th December - next scan 9th Aug
BunnyBaby - baby#3 - 17+4 wks, EDD 25th December
LucyT66 - baby#1 17+1 wks EDD 26th December
sparklyrainbow- Baby#1 16+6 wks EDD 30th December- next scan 11th Aug
AlbaDeTamble - baby#2 (DS 2) - 16+2 wks EDD 3rd January
toomuchteaching - baby#1 16 wks EDD 5th January - next scan 17th August
Redheadgal - baby#1 15+6 wks EDD 6th January 2011 - next scan 20 August
diggingforvictory - baby#4 (DS 1) 14+4 wks EDD 15th January
WestYorkshireGirl - baby#1, 14+1 weeks EDD January 18th
Marrow - baby #6 (DD 4) 13+1 weeks EDD January 25th
Culina - baby #3, 1DS, 13 weeks EDD 21 January 2011
Clareanna - baby#2, one DS, 10+6 weeks EDD 11th Feb 2011
LilRedWG - baby#2, 1DD, 9+5 weeks EDD 19th Feb
Muser - baby#1, 8+3 weeks, EDD 27th Feb, Next scan 19 July
BUnderTheBonnet - baby#2, 1DD 8+1 weeks 1st March
Liahgen - baby#6 4+6 weeks EDD 15th March

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster - one DC, two babies lost, recent MMC w9/@11, 26th Feb
Cheepz - one DS, recent MMC w9, 26th March
Freezing - one DD, recent MC w11, 28th March
BarrenBrook - third and most recent MMC 12th May
MsJL - 4th and most recent MC determined 8th June
LadyBee - one DS, most recent MC determined 21st July

MIA
JodieO - baby#4 (DD 8, DS1 6, DS2 3), EDD 25th December
MrsRigby - baby#2 (DS 15 months), EDD 14th October

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010
Amyboo with son Matthew James, 4.714kg (10lb3oz) born Tuesday 30th March 2010
Hoops with son Benjamin Scott, 7lb4oz born Friday 2nd April 2010
Memorylapse with daughter Olivia, born Friday 16th April 2010
Jacanne (due 29th April/6 May) awaiting news
Becky78 with son Thomas Christopher born 22nd May - 9lb 1oz

Bee, so sorry- thinking of you x

Ladybee - so very very sorry to hear your news. Take time to grieve, time to rest and time to be with your family.

Much love to you. x

LadyBee I'm so very sorry. xx

Sorry LADYBEE Take care XX

Oh ladybee I can't believe it- I'm so so sorry that you're going through this again. Please know we're thinking of you xx

moof hope you are ok x

oh ladybee...that is utter shite.....dont rush off here if you need to stick about for the support....we all been there.

xxx xxx