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9 weeks tomorrow & starting to bleed :(

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Mojomummy · 14/08/2005 08:38

...yesterday about 8:30pm I went to the loo & there was a tiny bit of bright coloured blood - a bit like a cm of membrane. There was also a pinky discharge. The shock went right through me ( we were at a friends house), so I took rescue remedy & we came home. No more blood.

This am none at the first 2 morning pee's & now on the 3rd one, there is brownish things going on (not quite sure how to describe).

I've also got a sort of uncomfortable, but not painful, grinding, something-going-on feeling in my belly.

This is my 2nd pregnancy & I've never experienced this before, so really don't know what is happening/what to do.

Does anyone have any suggestions/ advice please ?

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Enid · 16/08/2005 08:44

I didn't have 'the op', but everything came away naturally. That was in Sept/Oct and I was pg again by January and had dd2 in the following October. Lots of love x E

mummyhill · 16/08/2005 08:46

(((((hugs))))) Take it easy when you get home will be thinking of you today.

tinkerbell1 · 16/08/2005 09:45

I'm so sorry about your loss Mojo. Lots of love to you xxx

baggybear · 16/08/2005 10:30

Thinking of you today Mojo xxxxxxxxx

HellKat · 16/08/2005 17:36

Mojo- So sorry to hear hun.
I know exactly what you're going through. Had an ERPC back in April. Went for my 11 weeks scan and was told that the baby had died at around 8 weeks. We were torn between wanting it to happen naturally and wanting it over with. Had to have a d&c as it had already been there for some time. It took a month or two formy periods to come back but only because some products were retained and had to have a second one done.
If you feel up to it, we're on the TTC thread and we've all had mc's (many this year) so feel free to pop along.
Take care of yourself and {{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} to you xxxxxxxxxx

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Mojomummy · 17/08/2005 15:10

....just to let you know it all went well yesterday. The nurses were really kind to me & although I had a fair few tears, I'm relieved it's all over.

Also Hubby is arriving home about 9am Friday. It's the earliest flight he could get, bar Wednesday. If he'd have got that he'd have spent 1 day in India ! so I suggested he get this later flight.

It was really great to have the support & advice here Especially HellyBelly & Vickiyumyum

The registrar (lady who did the op) said to wait for the next period then ok to start trying again.

In the meantime I'm going to have a couple of glasses of good red wine & remind myself how fortunate I am

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Kate161203 · 17/08/2005 15:26

I mc'd in March 2003 and got pregnant four weeks later. It was abit of a cuddle and ended up more...
I now have a 20 month old dd. There is always light at the end of the tunnel!

Thinking of you.

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Mojomummy · 17/08/2005 15:43

Hi Kate, so did you wait to have a period ? they suggested to wait to make a good lining for the uterus...of course, if I don't have to wait....?

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Kate161203 · 17/08/2005 15:55

Well its up to you - they said the same to me.

It worked for me and also for a friend of mine in the same situation - both of us at the same time (I so feel for you) and she got pregnant after 6 weeks.

HellyBelly · 17/08/2005 16:27

Mojo - just replied to your email. As you know I waited 3 months and conceived straight away. I was told to wait 1 month by 1 person, 3 months by another and that there was no need to wait by another (all hospital staff). I personally decided to wait the most they said even though I was desperate because I couldn't bear to go through that again so soon. Not that that would happen but I was paranoid. It's really down to the individual but if it was me again now, I'd probably wait until I had 1 period. I wouldn't wait the 3 months again unless I really thought I had to but I'd prefer (myself) to know I had 1 period as I know some people who've m/c'd over and over, all near each other - I'm not strong enough to cope with that.

Anyway, as I said, down to the individual. Got to do what's best for you!

Speak later xxx

robinia · 17/08/2005 16:31

I had three miscarriages at 11 weeks, all happened naturally, for the most part bleeding was like a heavy period and lasted about 10 days. My periods returned 3 to 4 weeks after the bleeding stopped. I say this just so that anyone reading this thread doesn't think that to leave it to happen naturally means periods take longer etc. etc. From my own point of view it would have been more traumatic to have an operation than to just let it happen (although accepting that sometimes it doesn't all come away properly and a ERPC is necessary then).

Re. conception after mc, once I conceived again in the next cycle (unfortunately mc again but according to doctors not related at all to previous mc). The next one took three months, final one five months (but did leave gap around Christmas as wanted to drink!) Currently 32 weeks pregnant.

The only reason to wait according to my doctors was so they can date a future pregnancy accurately - wasn't a good enough reason for me

Red wine is a fantastic remedy; hope you enjoy it and that you can look forward to trying again soon.

HellyBelly · 17/08/2005 16:45

Well if reason for waiting is just down to the dating side of things - ignore what I said and go for it! In the meantime, drink away and make the most of it!

vickiyumyum · 17/08/2005 16:55

Hi Mojomummy - if you feel up to it, get all the practice in that you can, and start trying again as soon as you feel up to it.

I'm pretty certain that the reason behind the one month rule is to a) make sure your period returns ok and b) to give you a date to work from for your due date.

From speaking to other women who had miscarried, it was the husband/partner that was the most anxious about trying again without waiting as they were scared that they might 'damage' you in some way. does that make sense?

Anyway take care and good luck with the trying!

baggybear · 17/08/2005 17:28

I'm glad all went okay yesterday mojo. Was thinking of you. I think I'll join you with a glass or 2 of red - could do with it myself. {{hugs}} xx

george32 · 17/08/2005 18:33

Hi Mojomummy,
Glad it went Ok yesterday & that you are OK.
I'm glad you DH is home soon. Make sure you rest up tomorrow & the time will fly until he is home.
To be honest, it took me a few weeks to get back in the swing of BD'ing. I think I was a bit worried about it hurting (It doesn't by the way) but we didn't actively wait for any length of time.
Enjoy your wine, wish I could join you.

jabberwocky · 18/08/2005 04:39

I could be wrong about this, but I think you do need to wait a little bit (just a few weeks I believe)for the cervix to close back down since it was dilated for the op. But, check with your dr. to be sure.

mumtosomeone · 18/08/2005 07:41

I was told to wait for 2 periods before trying again..and 1 before sex!!
I didnt want to wait for sex,not cos I am a nympho or anything but I dont feel like a real women now I have lost a baby and I want to be made to feel like one!! is that stupid?! I feel like I am a big failure!!

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Mojomummy · 18/08/2005 08:13

apparently you can have sex, but you have to use barrier methods. Unclear if this is to avoid conception or for protection against infection. I would have thought 2 weeks wait would have been ok ? If you think about how long it takes say a scab or a scratch to heal ?

I can still see the outline of my uterus when I lean back, so will wait for this to return to normal size.

Have read some statistic that if you don't wait a month, ther is a 1.5% risk of m/c & then read somewhere else no link at all. Where are the facts ???!!

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mummyhill · 18/08/2005 08:48

Lots of "facts" are thrown at you by different medical staff but the real answer is 9 times out of 10 no one knows why it happens or how long you should or shouldn't wait there are that many conflicting theories it gets really confusing. The best advice I was given was that if we waited till periods had returned we would be able to date a subsequent pregnancy accuratley, but to try when we felt ready. I insisted on being sent for an early scan this time round and was soooo happy when everything was OK. Good luck with whatever you decide is right for you.

mumtosomeone · 18/08/2005 10:28

the leaflet just said wait till your period to give your insides time to heel!!!!

baggybear · 18/08/2005 12:53

The leaflet I was sent just says its best to wait til you've had at least one period if you want to TTC again. But if you just want to practice () to wait til the bleeding stops to avoid infection.

mumtosomeone · 18/08/2005 12:58

Dont know if I want to get pregnant again!

mummyhill · 18/08/2005 17:26

Momtosomeone - You are not a failure there is nothing that you could of done to prevent this from happening please do not blame yourself. Wether you decide to try again or not is entirely up to you it is possible to have a good experience after the terrible one you have been through allow yourself time to heal physically and emotionally before you make any decissions.

jabberwocky · 18/08/2005 18:43

MM, I do believe the wait is to avoid infection, again because of the cervical dilation.

robinia · 19/08/2005 10:09

I was told we could bd whenever we wanted to - but then my mcs were much like periods - no d&c so no opening of cervix as far as I know and presumably little or no more risk of infection than with a period.. I think we did wait until I stopped bleeding though.

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